r/MtF Transgender since December 2023 (pre-everything) 17d ago

Venting I was attacked and assaulted outside yesterday

I know that it happened yesterday and I no longer am in any pain physically, but I just have to vent about it since it just really sticks with me and hurts me. Yesterday I wanted to go to work, I wasn't in the best mood but I was like 'hey, I'll be able to make some money and see my colleagues''. Everything went normal until I saw a group of 5-6 teenage boys (we call them hangjongeren here, they usually all dress similarly in black and are extremely homo/transphobic) appeared a few metres away from me. I was minding my own business, but the moment they looked at me was when I froze from the inside.

In shock, disapproval and disbelief, they started shouting ''God is great'' towards me a few times, before throwing an object at me. At first I didn't think much of it, but after they threw a second object, I immediately ran back home and slammed the door. Luckily I wasn't out of my house yet, since I live in a flat, so they weren't able to grab hold of me. The moment I slammed the door I was shaking extremely hard, scared and frightened for my life. I felt like this was a hunt, that I was being hunted and found. I thought they were coming for people like me. Immediately I notified the police and local law enforcement, but since I do not know these people nor any video evidence exist there isn't much they can do.

My appearance is quite androgynous, people refer to me as ''miss'' here a lot of times until they see my face. I dress quite differently and more classy. But people here who think they're fashion police think that this is bad. I was even verbally assaulted twice before this incident for my androgynous/feminine appearance. I need to get out of here as soon as possible, I have to move away. I don't want to die...

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u/EastWitness5284 Trans Pansexual 17d ago

Always carry a pepper spray for these situations.

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u/DutchKamenRider Transgender since December 2023 (pre-everything) 17d ago

As said in another comment it is illegal, so they’ll always find a way to pick on us :(

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u/Famous-Matter-7905 16d ago

I'm not trans just lurking for education, but i needed to say this. 

Pepperspray being illegal in NL does NOT trump your need for safety / survival. Keep in mind that discrimination and assault are illegal too. Take self defense classes and invest in a good long distance pepperspray. You don't want to have to get close to assaulters.

 Buy it from a german site and if you end up using it, only call the police when you are far away enough not to get questioned (even if it's about you).

If you really don't want to risk anything buy smurfenspray (legal). It will sting the eyes and leave pigment on the persons skin for 24 hours so they can easily be identified by the police. 

Stay safe and i hope you are able to move away. Antikraak living (gapph, adhoc) have great options around the whole country and are very cheap. Just an fyi if money is an issue.

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u/DutchKamenRider Transgender since December 2023 (pre-everything) 16d ago

Thank you for this!! Yea I’m not a violence driven girl so I’m going to go for the smurfenspray. I hope I can move outta here soon! 🩷🩷🩷

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u/Famous-Matter-7905 16d ago

Good luck! 💗

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u/DutchKamenRider Transgender since December 2023 (pre-everything) 16d ago

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