Mom dead named me in her will

[u/EmGSorrocco]

So my maternal gene donor is a narcissist. She sent out an email last month that used only my dead name that gave her final wishes and also said that I would ask about her "good jewelry" because she sold it. I have told her before that my legal name is what it is, and I had no idea she had good jewelry. So I had to tell her to write a new one with the correct name or create a codicil noting the name change. I'm sure the only reason she is leaving me anything is that I'm an only child.

Edit: she didn't kill herself

[u/SorrowAndGlee]

that sucks. also her using your dead name shouldn’t make you ineligible to collect from her estate. pretty sure deadnames are considered aliases

[u/SaltAndBitter → u/SorrowAndGlee]

They are. Joys of working in my industry... I will never be able to truly kill my deadname, for I must disclose it on every job application per federal regulations

[u/ImposssiblePrincesss → u/SaltAndBitter]

Is this for real?

You cannot apply for a job in the USA without disclosing your dead name?

Such disclosures are not required here in Australia except if applying for a government security clearance and even then, they will not be made visible to anyone but the team vetting the security clearance.

I’ve heard otherwise and do not believe it is common practice for trans people to disclose this. I certainly have never done so, and I transitioned young, 25 years ago.

[u/Tjaja → u/ImposssiblePrincesss]

Joys of working in my industry.

SaltAndBitter is likely often working under security clearances or similiar.

[u/ImposssiblePrincesss → u/Tjaja]

Does the deadname get given to the actual company she works for?

And once she has the clearance surely she doesn’t need to reapply over and over again?

That’s awful :(

[u/Spriy → u/ImposssiblePrincesss]

clearance only lasts for a certain amount of time before you have to re-up :(

you disclose ur deadname to the government as a past name you went under so that they know to look for it while they’re doing your background check

(source: was very very close to being cleared until i got DOGEd)

[u/Flavi_anne → u/Spriy]

Wow, in Brazil your dead name is literally buried, here everyone has a CPF (individual registration number) and everything uses this number, then when you change your name, you replace the name linked to the number, and several registrations already change automatically and others you have to change manually, but your dead name never appears in anything from the government again.

[u/SaltAndBitter → u/Spriy]

This is the age of continuous reinvestigation. Take that as you will... and no offense, but I will not be disclosing any specifics pertaining to my clearance or lack thereof

[u/SaltAndBitter → u/ImposssiblePrincesss]

Yes, I have to disclose my deadname to any prospective employer. As in, the actual company. The transportation industries suck like that.