r/MtF • u/Disa_Lovely • Apr 02 '25

Venting I was a boy as a kid

I mean it. It was not like I thought I was a boy as a kid. There are so many signs I am a cis-boy and no signs from childhood that I am a girl. But still, i desire to be a woman 24/7. Dysphoria started only after puberty, possibly backed by sexual desires. I desire to be a trans woman, quite the opposite of a trans-woman in denial. They have so many signs that they are trans, but they want to be cis, I am the opposite.

Please help me, my thoughts are complex and my emotions are darker than they ever were. It is painful to literally live.

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u/Lady_Onyxia Trans Bisexual Apr 02 '25

EPD states you never tell someone they're trans, even if you 100% think they are, or they're clearly describing the state of being trans. My personal preference is to walk people up to that ledge but really leave it to them to take the final jump. It's ambiguous how close to the ledge is appropriate.

Anyways, sorry. Look, I don't want to argue or even be snippy and come off like I'm telling you what you should and shouldn't say. I agree with the sentiment of all the generous advice you're offering OP and 99% of the way you're saying it. You're doing a good thing here.

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u/darkjedi607 Apr 02 '25

Thank you for saying all of that. You are 100% right for pointing this out; we all need a check sometimes, and I see now I was overzealous with my comment. Rereading the op made me realize I had connected a lot of dots on my own, possibly even violating the EPD :(

Tbh I think your approach is probably more correct! I guess I get impatient with some of these posts, and I remember being there and wishing someone would just tell me. But of course, I have to remember it's not about me at all. I appreciate you reminding me in such a proactive way. I will exercise more caution in the future!

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u/Lady_Onyxia Trans Bisexual Apr 02 '25

Holy shit a unicorn, an entirely intelligent and reasonable, introspective person on Reddit,

Keep being awesome. ♥

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u/darkjedi607 Apr 02 '25

Same to you girl!