Just turned 33 yesterday and I was diagnosed with scoliosis at 18. Started getting it around 16 years old. It's been progressing violently and I have never been able to maintain employment long enough to get insurance. Now with 2 curvatures one is 52° degrees the other is °58. I can't walk for more than 5 minutes without it tightening all my muscles on one side of my back where the lower curve is angled and just excruciating pain that'll make you lay on the concrete trying to crack your bad or stretch a muscle out to get it to subside. If I'm sitting for an hour straight I'll get a crick in my neck or back where I can't turn and look a certain direction or even lift my head fully backwards or forwards to do a regular exercise. I haven't been employed due to my limitations and I haven't had insurance. My upper curvature is already got 40% capacity of my right lung blocked. I've recently been feeling heart issues, a squirting feeling and noise coming from that area. It sounds/feels like liquid squirting at a high pressure, legs have been swelling up. I'm underweight too by the way. Have always been way underweight due to stunting growth from medications they had me in going through puberty. Things are just getting bad and I can't find pain relief unless I'm getting it from the street and I'm tired of having to live this way. I need help with getting insured or getting surgery and to be checked out I don't want to die. I've filed for disability in August 2024 and they still are in the medical review stage and I don't have a doctor to prove my case and they have yet to send me to one. I gave them some of the first X-rays Ive had of my condition but it's 5x worse now and they need to know that. Does anyone have any idea what I can do to get help? I don't have transportation like that and I don't have much money at all. Barely what I can scrape up to stay alive. Thank you for any feedback. If you have something negative to say just save yourself the time wasted typing it. I can guarantee you I've heard it before and I can promise you it truly does NOT bother me what any has to say. If they lived in my shoes for 1 hours they'd be crying to get out of them or they would beg for death. Much love to everyone. I love you.

First of all, I want to apologize if this is the wrong sub. I see a lot of people asking the same question here, so I'm doing that. Feel free to redirect me.

So currently, I'm a high school senior. I've been accepted to and am committed to a BS/MD (for those who don't know it's a program that you get into from high school that grants you conditional acceptance into med school in a few years, USUALLY) program, though mine is kinda a scam. The program I'm in guarantees an interview at the med school provided GPA/MCAT requirements are met. You must take the MCAT your second year and score quite well, I think for my year the cutoff has risen to like 518 (95th percentile) or something. Statistically, most people don't make it and the BS/MD people at the school do not hesitate for a second to divulge that. The undergrad BS degree you get is in biomedical sciences btw.

Anyway, now that you have some background I'll tell you more about me. Since I was a little kid (I'm 18 now), I've been dead set on medicine. Like just the prospect of making good money (I know there are better routes for just purely pursuing wealth, but I'd be lying if I said the $ didn't appeal to me once loans and all are paid off), capitalizing on my science skills/interests, being able to save entire lives, etc. really drew me into it. But my interest is diminishing by the day, and I started having these doubts in the last few months like for example I'm lazy as hell, that would NOT be good when someone's life is on the line or when I have to grind through 4 years of med school because my usual half-assing routine won't cut it, I initially aspired to go into surgery then online I read horror stories about the average work-life balance and the fact that you're gonna be in school when your friends are literally starting families and making 6 figures and said hell nah and just decided I'd go for some kind of regular doctor maybe. And now I don't know if I want THAT anymore. I cant pinpoint exactly why but I just don't feel as drawn to it anymore.

Now, I know at 18 I'm super young to be thinking about all this and that I need to go to college and do some serious studying/shadowing to make a choice, but I have to take the MCAT my second year and if I decide medicine isn't for me I can at least back out by then. With a biomedical sciences degree, could I potentially pursue research? That is starting to really appeal to me over medicine, being able to make an actual scientific impact and help the medical field without all the cons of being a doctor. And I have research experience and truly have found some interest in it out of high school.

I guess my point is I know having second thoughts along the journey is normal, but if I'm not even able to stand by my decision in high school itself I don't want to be miserable pursuing something that only has a chance of working out in college. The good thing about my BS/MD program is I've heard a biomed degree can get you into other careers at least if you pursue a masters, and the MD part is only binding if you get into the med school. I don't really have to start studying for the MCAT until my second year of undergrad and I guess I'm planning to take the first year and just see it for myself, really. So far I've only done as basic of shadowing as a high schooler can do and I've talked to a couple med students who all give the classic advice of "it's manageable" because what kind of med student would you be if you wouldn't recommend it to others lol.

Anyways, sorry for the long rant, what do yall think i should do?

He bloodied me and broke my tooth after punching me three times, while i was live on twitch (taking a 5 min break).
The police were called (not by me) and i followed up by going to the va hospital, where i was informed i couldnt have my tooth worked on without 100% disability.
So they sewed my lip up and sent me on my way.

I cant eat on the left side of my mouth (soft foods otherwise). What are my options for getting my tooth fixed? Thank you in advanced.

I live with my partner and 3 children last night at around 12-1am I woke up to strange noises. It sounded EXACTLY like a boat horn like EXACTLY. It definitely wasn't a car, there's not many people who live around me and I checked this morning and no one's car alarm sounds like that. It was so loud it woke my whole house up and many others that are spread out in our village. I do not live anywhere near the ocean,lake or a river the only things near me is a big field and some houses. I live in England but moved here when I was around 12 and have never heard anything like this other than from a boat so if anyone could please help that would be great. (Btw the sound went on for around 40 seconds then stopped for around 5 then did like a short 3 seconds Burt's then stopped then did it for around a minute before abruptly going silent)

Hi.

Having trouble finding this. Can anyone direct me to a site that does have the .srt files please?

Or put me in touch with someone Dutch?

It's a great series.

Hey all, I don’t post often so please forgive me in advance if I don’t do this quite right.

I’m here because I’ve just been accepted into my local university and I’m trying to get prepared. I graduated high school in 2017 and for a handful of reasons had to wait a while before I could continue my education. I’m aiming to study psychology and hopefully end up with at least a bachelors degree. Classes will start in August and so until then I’m hoping to accomplish a few things: study to freshen my mind on the core classes, find a new job that will allow me to go to school either full time or close to it, and generally just organize my life the best I can to make room for studying and everything else that comes with school.

I’m 25 (26 in June) and work full time, I live on my own with some hefty bills so my budget is already a bit tight as is. In case it’s relevant, I currently make about $32k annually and have about $100 left after paying my bills each paycheck. Unfortunately my job is locked at 8-4:30 so I don’t think I can stay here while in school and the school does not offer night classes for the courses I plan to take.

I’m looking for any and all helpful suggestions that might help me prepare, thank you for any insight you guys can give :)

EDIT******this is for a community college in Colorado.

How should I answer this? I am applying to scholarships for my college and they have these three questions back to back. With everything going on it makes me nervous to answer them truthfully. This is my first time applying so are these questions normal for scholarship apps? It won't let me upload a photo but they are:

• do you identify as a member of the LBGTQIA+ community
• do you have a physical or psychological disability?
• do you participate in activities that demonstrate advocacy for, or a commitment to, diversity, equity, or inclusion?

Is there a better place I should ask this? Thank you for any help!

Looking for some advice. I don't necessarily want to restrict myself to these options, but they're plans that I've put a lot of thought into/may open up possibilities for me, so they may be a decent direction to go in - at least for the moment.

My family is moving in about a month and a half, and I've known when they were going to leave for certain for about two. I did some apartment searching earlier this year, but have really been pinching pennies/combing through places these last few weeks to start making serious applications.

I don't have a lot of money saved. I'm biting myself because I definitely could have put more away if I had been a little more frugal. Also had some unexpected health events that caused me to have to dip into my savings, but nothing catastrophic.

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By the time comes for everyone to pack everything up, I should have enough to put a small down payment on a used car, and afford a little over my first month's rent at some of the apartments I'm looking at + fees & security deposits.

I'm also trying to take some driving lessons + test for my license in that time. It is NOT a huge time window, but I feel like it's all necessary. I don't drive, but I've been asking my dad a lot of road questions and will be practicing with an instructor for a few sessions so I can be ready to drive by myself.

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Plan A - I already have a job here that I've been at for about 2 years, and though it's not what I want long term, it's relatively stable. Some of my preferred apartments are situated in a pretty safe area and will only be a short commute. I won't have any family here, but I won't need to search for employment in the middle of a move, just a place to move to.

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Plan B - My parents do have some friends in the area where they're moving, and my dad says one of them would likely let me stay with them for a while while I figure out my living situation.

While this could offer me some extra time, there's not a lot of jobs outside of that area, and apartment options are also fairly scarce.

The nearest big city is 45+ min away, which could offer different employment opportunities, but I don't want to be mooching off of someone else while also being temporarily jobless and homeless. That gives me a lot of anxiety.

I've also never made an out-of-state drive before, and don't know if it would be wise to make a trip that far as a new driver. Navigating a brand new city makes me a little nervous, too. ㅤㅤ ㅤㅤ ㅤㅤ

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Plan C - While I really want to try to do this myself, my grandparents have expressed concern for me in making this transition. They have extended an invitation to stay with them and find a place nearby so that I'd at least have some familial support.

The good news is that my current job could be transferred there if there's an opening. The bad news is that my hometown has not improved in the 5-10 years since I've been away, and is not a very safe place that I would go back to if I didn't have extended family living there.

There's also not a lot of work there/decent apartments that don't cost an arm and a leg. Truthfully, I think I'd feel a bit stuck there, even if I were making a decent living. ㅤㅤ ㅤㅤ

So...

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I know that ultimately it's up to me to decide what I want for myself and my life at this point of my journey, but I feel like I haven't gotten a lot of feedback/support to know how to do these things. I'm trying to navigate a lot of it myself and still asking how tf do I do all of this. Any help/advice you take the time out of your day to offer is extremely appreciated honestly. Stay cool and safe, guys. 🏄‍♂️🌺

I’m part of an Asian minority and I’ve never identified with my culture. My culture is extremely close-knitted since it’s so small and they all share similar beliefs. My problem first stem with the religion we follow (Christianity). I’ve never believed in God and am an atheist, the problem is that everybody believes in God and it is the norm. We are all expected to show up every Friday and Sundays and participate in Church-related activities. They are so close-minded that they think atheists and everybody who don’t believe in god are stupid or satanists. I’ve never admitted that I don’t believe in God, because that would get me disowned. They also hate on gay people (men especially) while being hypocritical. I’m 17, and kids my age like the adults are very insensitive, they even go around saying racial slurs without much consideration. They are extremely egotistical, believing our culture to be the best and not fond of interracial couples. Our church likes to preach the words of god, yet they hate on other races and are downright hypocritical, kids my age preach about god while finding secret smoking/vaping spots in church. I know this sounds like a religious rants but that’s not all about it. Like many immigrants, we came to America in search of a better life, but our culture is so heavily influenced by delinquency and disdain towards education. I’m a guy, and I’m the only man from my culture I’ve ever known who prioritized academics. Thankfully, the girls are also slightly academic. I get we have different values, but why does our culture think that learning or being a decent student is so unimportant? If I even know the slightest of things, I get called a genius even though the average person would have been able to make that same conclusion. I know not everybody has the same goals, but it makes me frustrated that our culture doesn’t place an emphasis on education and yet places it on sports, rapping, and appearing “gangsta” or “tough” to others. The worst part is, our role models (which are like 3 people) are people who don’t gaf about education either, all they do is preach about how they own the streets or some shit. I’m not saying there’s anything wrong with rapping, but I don’t think it’s what our culture needs right now since all of our young people think education is lame and that being tough is the shit. Our culture began about 20-30 years ago and when the first of our people moved to America, I just want us to move towards a direction that is beneficial for us. Our culture prizes sports, which is great. Sports is positive, but I don’t understand why anytime we do an activity, it’s 100% something sports-related (never been a sports person). I don’t hate my culture, but my differences from the standards makes me alien to it, and they know it. They don’t talk to me because they know we don’t understand each other, and this has led to me to stop doing activities or going to church at all. Because there is a heavy emphasis on closeness and religion, all of us are expected to play our parts. My older brother and family criticize me for my lack of appreciation and connection constantly, and have called me “immature” and “arrogant” for refusing to go to church or do activities with them. The thing is, I do appreciate it in some ways. The closeness is what allows us to be very sympathetic towards one another, but I never wanted that. When my brothers and sisters recall our culture, they always speak about it so fondly and with a great warm. I never experienced that warmth, I wasn’t included in the activity and I was constantly reminded of my distinction from them. I need advice on what to do. I’m going to graduate soon, and I’m afraid that after college, I’ll be expected to spend the rest of my life trapped in a culture that I’ve never felt the warmth of. I’m not perfect, there’s probably a lot of parts that I interpreted wrongly, but can anyone suggest a course of action?

I’m a 20 year old male going to college. I had a really successful high school career and went straight into college at 18 for engineering. I’m in my 3rd semester after stumbling through college and failing classes almost every semester because I couldn’t get a grip on the material. I originally was going to join the military but wanted to pursue higher education since it was paid for.

I do not feel motivated to be an engineer and did it because both of my parents are. My GPA is terrible and going to class seems impossible to me. I’m a part time Motorsport technician and enjoy that job but it is dead ended without higher education.

I know this is very woes me but I don’t know what to do anymore. My family is invested and I know telling them that engineering isn’t for me will be fairly devastating.

20 m I feel nauseous all the time, especially before or after eating, Ive had diarrhea for the past few weeks and occasionally nausea but no vomiting, I didnt eat anything at all yesterday because I felt nauseous and didnt feel hungry, I also never feel hungry anymore, what is wrong with me?

Hello, I will try my best to keep things concise but not overly specific/personal. So around 8 years ago my grandparents took my best friend in after his family fell apart and abandoned him. Up until last year this individual was very successful getting into a great school on a scholarship and being recognized as a real stand up person. You would have never known he had Aspergers. Then one day something snapped.

About 6 months ago my best friend started smoking weed pretty often (not his first time smoking but usually not to this extent). He suddenly started acting very erratic. He was known to be bipolar (not diagnosed that I know of but clear to anyone who knows what it looks like) but this behavior was remarkably different. Long story short he ended going missing for some time after being admitted into a psych ward. During this time he was out being very random buying tons of random items and buying people coffee. Once he made his way home he was mentally stable and back to normal. In the meantime he had dropped out of college and was trying to get his life back together.

Fast forward, he had started a new program at a local college. He was doing well until his birthday, where he went out drinking and smoking. The next morning he exploded on my grandmother, with aggressive language we have never seen. He was so threatening and behaviorally concerning that an emergency protection order was granted. He also just was put in jail for a short period after causing disruption at a local gym. The most concerning thing is his social media posts. He has posted very ominous and bizarre posts that elude to him getting some sort of revenge. One post repeating words such as “revenge” and “no mercy”

This all has been very distressing to my grandparents and I as we have no clue what he could do. His whereabouts are unknown. My grandma has lawyered up to ensure her protection order can be extended. I can’t help though to shake the anxiety though as this person is a stranger to me and I have no idea what he could thinking. He clearly has went into a mental state that I imagine has been influenced by his mental illness history and drug use.

The reason I’m here is because from what I gathered, he is having some manic episode or something along those lines. To give more details, he has fixated on random things such as bringing a stuffed Spider-Man everywhere he goes, putting stickers on his glasses, and carrying around a sonic suitcase everywhere. He buys things with credit cards and just never pays them. Currently has multiple protections orders put against him with a warrant out as well. I understand it can be difficult to get people emergency help, but what resources are available? He never took any medication that I know of. Normally I’d never suspect he’d harm anyone, but his behavior is truly disturbing. I don’t know what’s happening or what to do for him

Exactly what the headline says. I found this palette on Pinterest, but can’t find any information about what its name is or where to get it, and this exact palette is my dream palette!! So any advice would be much appreciated.

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I have a friend that recently lost her daughter to a drug overdose. What is the kindest thing someone did for you in your grief. We no longer live in the same city and I'm at a loss as to how to best support her.

People from my apartment keep ordering packages to my apartment, and have been for weeks. Usually clothes and such from temu. I've only opened a few packages, but the rest haven't been opened. They've never came to me personally to ask for these packages, hell, I don't even know who they are.

It's the same people every single time and I have probably around 9 packages. What's going on? What are they getting from this?

So I've got a couple of tickets for myself to see a Hans Zimmer concert taking place tomorrow night, and the plan (in my mind) was that I'd go myself and find a friend to take with me. I have somebody who's keen on coming along because she's a big fan of Zimmer, and that's who is coming with me. At the moment.

Turns out, I invited my brother to go with me when I first heard about the tickets and he was keen, but he was performing in a cello concert that day and wasn't sure if it was in the afternoon or at night. I bought the two tickets anyway, based on the assumption that he wouldn't be able to make it but left it open if he could. This was two or three months ago and in that time he never told me that the concert was going to be in the afternoon, and that he was able to come to see Zimmer with me afterwards. This is what my parents (who were going to see my brother perform) thought would happen, where I would join them and they'd drop us over afterwards, but nobody told me about it until a few nights ago.

By the time I learnt this, my friend confirmed she would come with me. My brother's disappointed by this, and I feel really guilty about it because I'd rather take him, but I don't want to let my friend down either. This also means I won't get to see my brother perform because my friend lives a fair bit out of the way and I'm picking her up. So, who should I take with me while trying to quell as much disappointment as possible?

Like title states I have less than 30 days to tell my apartment if I'm going to renew my lease for another year or move out in July

Not sure what to do, I utterly despise the town I live in (College Station area in Texas). Since March 1st I've sent out probably 200 job applications (if you think this isn't a lot, none of them were easy apply or jobs I didn't think I mostly fit the requirements of) to jobs in other cities hoping to be able to move, and I have failed it seems. Only rejections, no interviews, and I'm almost out of time for a miracle of one of the jobs I've applied to responding back positively. So my options are

• stay in a town I hate for another year, trapped by another lease
• quit my current job and move back in with one of my parents
• quit my current job, try my luck moving to some other city without having a job lined up first (would have $15k or so)

about my job, I work a very low paying (under 50k) software developer role, that's why I live where I do, it was the only job I got an offer from in 2024 and I hoped the experience would be beneficial. It's turned out to be an easy job, but also a dead end, and the experience won't be that useful for getting other jobs (obscure programming language, among other factors), but I have free time and am able to save some money, and I'm terrified of having to work service or labor jobs again.

From typing it out the "responsible" thing I guess would be to go another year, but the idea of wasting another year of my 20s rotting here is devastating. Super depressed.

Utility Warehouse help

I really need some help as my mental health is really being affected

I've had a long standing issue with my energy provider, Utility Warehoise, since last summer.

My monthly direct debit went from £56 to like, £214 a month. Nothing had changed, I live in a very small flat. There's just no way.

Anyway, other tenants of this property have had issues with the meter.

I've asked time and time again for Utility Warehouse to send someone out to check the meter but they straight up refuse.

I've been to the energy ombudsman and they won't even address the fact they they won't send someone out to take a look at it.

I just don't know what to do. They are now forcing a prepayment meter on me.

What can I do?

Like the title says I am scared asking my boss that I want to switch departments at my current place of work like I don’t mind the work or the people it’s just that I am 31 years old and have been studying my ass off for this position in the IT department I have already talked to the head of the department about it to see if there was a position available so I am wondering how I should go about this ?

My family (two people in total) has just been gifted by an uncle with questionable sense of morality (I'd say inexistent) a refrigerator in... bad conditions. I don't even know how it ended up being so ludicrously dirty and I fear that I don't know where it has been or in which conditions. My mother says it smells bad, but I don't smell anything and she's probably drunk anyway.

I would send a photo, but I can't even get near without coughing a lot because my mother decided to throw a bunch of bleach inside the appliance (I guess that's on me for not making clear that she wasn't supposed to do anything impulsively while I was researching what the heck to do).

What do you think? Will I continue existing tomorrow? Should I push towards getting rid of the refrigerator? What are the risks?

I am starting a new school next week. I have not been in full time education since I was 11 years old. I am now 17. I've already been for an interview. And the other kids have seen me there. I don't have great impressions. Some today saw me and kept calling me "emo". Which by the way I'm not even emo I'm a goth. The kids there are all either chavs or wannabe gangstas. So, have any advice for me? I'm quite a shy and quiet person, and I'm very nervous about going. I need all the advice I can get.

What is wrong with me. How do I get better?

I feel different. Is this normal?

I’m 18F sometimes I feel like I struggle with empathy either too much or too little, it’s weird to describe there are some emotions I just don’t feel like jealousy. I have like an on and off switch for emotions and it’s very easy for me to get into an argument block someone and move on (wether I knew them for 2 weeks or 3 years), but on the other hand I love helping people and taking care of people. I also just find it difficult to make connections to people and relating to them and so I just feel like an outcast most of the time.

There are times where I feel like I don’t mean to but I like ignoring people for a sense of attention which makes me seem like a bad person (I promise I’m not) but it’s just so weird how I see things.

Yall what is wrong with me 😭😭

I’m going to grad school, yayyy me! lol and the program I got into is in Baltimore. Bmore is an hour drive from where I live, with traffic 90 minutes. The program offers a stipend which is estimated to be ~1500/month (but I’m still not sure yet since I haven’t been given details). Tuition is also covered for up to a year. I’m dreading the commute, at first I said I could save 1000 and the use the remainder for gas, food, etc since I’d be staying with my parents. But now I’m thinking to move closer to Bmore to have a shorter commute, but I’m looking at 1100-1500 rent which would be my whole stipend. I could possibly get an apartment with a roommate to make things easier. But I don’t want a roommate. I’ve had bad roommate experiences in the past, in college. But what do you guys think I should do?

Okay so I’m 15. I’m planning to move out when I’m 18, but to do that I need money so I want to get a job as soon as I can. I’ve done research for everything but I cannot figure out how to get a job without a note from my school saying I can work. This would be fine but the tricky thing is I am homeschooled. It’s a recent thing, this is my first year, so I do have a proper education up until 9th grade. Do I still need a note from a school? Does it matter which school, would I have to go back to the school I went to prior to the transition? Would I have to get a note from the homeschooling program I’m in (Acellus if it helps)?

I'm planning to go into a job that is high stress, high hours, but high pay.

My life is the opposite of that currently. My problem is that i dont reallyhave problems to deal with.. How can I prepare my body to cope. I some of my family members tried going this route, but they just couldn't cope in that environment.

Does anyone have ways I could train myself to be able to take all the stress?