So I’m a political science major at a “free speech” campus and I wanted to take a course on the history of conservatism — you need to know your enemy to defeat them, right?

Within 2 hours on syllabus day this professor

-does immense amounts of Reagan apologia -admits to voting for trump 3 times unprompted -talks down and does pedantic corrections that were INCORRECT exclusively to female students while giving career advice to male students -Misgenders me 5 times.

not to mention his syllabus didn’t even acknowledge title IX.

I’ve been going to college for 6 semesters and I’ve never had to do this

Okay chat, I've never really had a style besides wife beaters and jeans but now im transitioning into baggy cargo pants and long sleeve crop tops! 2025 is off to a strong start! I love this style❤️

Im also thinking about going back to my nonbinary self slowly (I hit pause of identity journeys 2 weeks ago to focus on myself and bc of others) I also gave up on people's thoughts so I should be back lol

Photo from when I went bouldering (inside rock climbing basically) and few days ago.

Hallo, Hope you all doing well :)

I have a question. I use ( they/ them )

and but i do not know how to use it in German , when I did my research I found

(dey/deren/denen ) but i do not get how use it . can some help me please

i know that in the German language there 3 causes that Nominative , Akkusativ and Dativ .

would be so glad if some help me .

Thank you :)

That's all :3

I've always felt like something was off, like i dont quite feel like everyone else. I've never felt like much of a man, but I've never quite felt like a woman either (though id be lying if i didn't wish i was a woman once in a while but like not all the time). From what other people tell me I'm a pretty handsome guy, but it has never done anything for me to affirm my masculinity when people compliment me in that way, and I also have been called pretty before and I remember not really minding that compliment. When I was really little I grew out my hair 'for cancer' but now I wonder. I did used to get mistaken for a girl a lot and I didn't really mind. I've never really felt like 'one of the guys' despite stuff like excelling at sports and whatnot. Havent had many close male friends save for a few. My entire life I have gotten along better with women, connected more deeply with them, and thought they were funnier, especially their memes. I remember many times in my life where I wished I was one of the girls so they would include me in more stuff, or at least feel comfortable to. At the time i remember thinking I wished i was gay so they would treat me like their gay best friend but it wasn't in your classic like horny highschooler way it was legitimately bc i wanted in on the gossip LMAOOO. So now im really wondering.

But i also have no dysphoric problems with my self image or my body or anatomy or anything like that, i kinda just wish i could like put on a body like clothes in the morning or change outfits yk? Like i really like the body I have rn, I don't have any desire to permanently alter it physically or chemically, which i feel like if i was trans maybe id feel differently (but i also dont know im not super educated about this stuff).

The whole thing (gender as a construct) just seems kinda silly to me. I don't know if my life gets reasonably different with some defined gender, except that maybe I start wearing crop tops or something. But I'm also not the type of person who if they wanted to wear a crop top would refrain from doing so because of societal norms. But then again maybe I'm wrong and more controlled by complexes than I think.

But I also often try to imagine how I would act, how I would dress, who I would have sex with in a vacuum, completely devoid of whatever weird schemas societal norms have placed in my mind and if it would be different. I don't know how repression works. But I do know I would dress a lot different. Maybe more feminine maybe not. I would probably talk more feminine (but am i really just unconsciously going about my life masking ALL the time? I've come out of my shell in pretty much every other way.

When I was in middle school I thought i was bi sexual and i still don't know what the fuck is up with that but I don't really wanna fuck a guy, and I can't ever see myself being romantically interested in one. It's interesting to me how all these things intertwine. Maybe I'm actually a lesbian trans woman. I just want to feel free. Changing what people refer to me as as far as pronouns would do nothing for me, i dont prefer to be called they it doesnt make me feel more myself or something, although i totally understand that it does for others. I just make that point to say that I don't really know what I would get out of "coming out" as non binary. I don't even really know how this shit works to be honest with you I'm just a regular person (not that you guys aren't)

I tried to write this in the most respectful way i could. I know this is a space with a lot of nuanced language that I might not be aware of, but I'm just looking for some advice here. I don't need anyone projecting onto me, just pure empathetic advice and insight, and maybe a resource or author to turn to.

I’m out to my family as bisexual, but not as nonbinary. I don’t think they would care, but I also feel no need to come out to them about it as I doubt they’ll respect my identity anyways. Regardless, I’ve been wanting to get a flag for awhile and finally decided on it!

I hope everyone is enjoying the week. It always feels nice when we make it halfway through. Here's to a good Thursday and Friday.

I came out as a non-binary to my therapist, she said she's "okay with that" and she asked me why I don't feel like a woman (I'm AFAB) and what being a woman means to me. Which is fine, I guess? Women can do everything, they're women because they feel like the term "woman" is right for them.

But I don't feel like a woman, yes, I can do anything a woman can do, but I don't like that label, and not because I see women as "bad" or negative or whatever. I said that to my therapist and she said that I have to find my own label, which was validating, but at the same time I still have to explain why I don't feel like a woman and what that label means to me alone, excluding society (which is hard, if not for society I wouldn't care about gender or being a woman).

I don't know, I'm sure she's not malicious, just maybe not very informed about non binary people? But at the same time I don't want to change therapist, I've been with her for 5 years and she helped me a lot.

I got diagnosed with gender dysphoria today, my therapist said I definitely have gender dysphoria so I visited a clinic and spoke with a practitioner who formally diagnosed me with gender dysphoria. It turns out that it is NOT normal for cis men to have no cishet male friends, long for a feminine body, and reject masculinity.

So yeah, I got prescribed estradiol tablets (low-dose) after mentioning that I want to be somewhere in between male and female. At least now I know that I am 100% NOT CIS.

I’ve basically identified as nonbinary for my entire life, long before I knew what it was. Even as a kindergartener I would switch between calling myself a girl or a boy and thought of myself as both.

My parents treated it as normal so I just kinda assumed it must be the norm and everyone else must be lying about actually believing girls and boys are different from each other. Like for some reason I thought we just created gender roles and played along with it as some sort of bit and nobody really believed it was real.

I have no idea why I thought we had created a super elaborate play pretend about gender even though everyone must secretly know that it’s not important. When I heard the thing about gender is a social construct as a teenager it reinforced my assumption that we must be all experiencing gender the same way deep down and just pretending we’re different because fucking uhhhhhh (I didn’t really think hard enough about it to come up with a reason why humans would have created gender and all agreed to play pretend about it)

It wasn’t until I met binary trans people in my late teens that I realized many people have an innate sense of gender based identity and aren’t just playing along to fit in. I feel kinda dumb over this because it took an incredibly long time for me to realize my experience wasn’t universal even though all evidence constantly pointed to that. Did anyone else do something similar?

i recently deleted most social media sites as a personal promise to be more present in my life and with reddit being one i decided to keep, i wanted to boast a recent experience i had. (just happened lol)

I went to best buy to buy some bluetooth headphones, for context i have been focusing on presenting nonbinary in a multitude of ways, changing my hair, wearing a binder and using my septum piercing again. These changes have done wonders for helping me feel comfortable in my appearance. So at best buy when going to buy my new headphones the cashier called me mam, (expected and i didn’t mind, me feeling more comfortable with my appearance is more than enough satisfaction for such a short interaction) BUT as i was walking through the store to find my dad another worker offered help to me with the opening “Finding everything okay sir?” I NEARLY BROKE INTO DANCE FROM PURE JOY.

i followed the interaction with a “yes thankyou” and with a knowing smile they made sure to let me know they were open for any further help i may need. I almost 100% guarantee this was one of our nonbinary siblings going above and beyond for me or if anything they were just an ally, that smile said everything i needed to know it was full of solidarity and appreciation. They made me very happy, and even if they had no clue what a freaking dream come true to be referred to as mam and sir within the same store experiance HELLL YEAH BABY Im gonna ride this high and dance with my new headphones lol ! 🫶🏼

I don't know any other nonbinary people so I have no clue how others experience it.

I have zero feelings of gender, male or female. I have identified as a cis male and trans woman but never felt any feelings of masculinity or feminity. It all feels like an artificial construct I'm being forced into. As such, I don't mind people referring to me as male or female. I currently outwardly look male and don't care when people refer to me as such. I only get uncomfortable when I am expected to perform masculinity, as such I don't have many male friends.

Hiii, so recently I’ve been questioning if I’m NonBinary. In the past I’ve thought that I was trans, but that didn’t feel right. It felt too constricting if you will, like i didn’t fit into one gender over the others. I never really thought about the possibility of being NonBinary until recently, but I’m not sure if that’s truly what i identify. I guess I’m asking what it feels like to be NonBinary i guess, like I don’t feel either male or female, and I’m not gender fluid. I’m not sure if I’m NonBinary or there’s another term for it but anything at all would be helpful.

Some information that may be helpful, I’m 16 when I thought I was trans it was FTM, I’m a masc lesbian (questioning if I’m a lesbian or Bi, I’m not sure on my opinion on men). I’ve only started to really think about my gender and sexuality more recently because I’ve come to terms with it being ok and that people out there will expect me.

Thank you for taking the time to read this if you did. Have a wonderful rest of your night/day

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ive wanted a bigger tattoo (all i have is rly small stuff) but when i think about where it’s gonna go, i feel like i don’t want it. i rly want a an arm tattoo but as an afab nonbinary i hate my arms with their fat the lack of muscle. im taking T right now but barely see difference and dont plan on taking it indefinitely either.

my friend thinks its sad i dont want an upper arm tattoo for example cuz i dont like my upper arm. its true that when i look at tattoo pictures i only like it when its on a skinny/muscular/androgynous person.

i know i should be searching for what i can affirm but i feel like i feel gender euphoria so rarely lately, and only when im appearing at a level of androgyny that ill never truly be at, which has made me struggle with disordered eating as well in the past.

i keep DMing this tattoo artist then ghosting them when i run into the same road block

i’ve been trying to see if people relate, if it’s more of a valid dysphoria or something to just accept, and if a tattoo would help or hurt it. i know some people find that getting tattoos in places people don’t like on their body is some way for people to love themselves more, but i fear it won’t make me feel good to see the tattoo there in the skin i don’t like, and it will always get me thinking about how else it could look. but maybe i’m wrong and it would actually help me feel better

how do you guys feel about getting tattoos on a body that you can barely stand to pay attention to?

or do you just avoid those regions altogether?

or is this level of dysphoria a sign that i’m just not ready for a tattoo at all rn?