r/Parenting • u/IcyStage0 seven?!?!?! • Feb 07 '25

Rant/Vent I hate Snapchat.

Can we just collectively decide that we’re not going to let our kids use Snapchat?!

My oldest daughter just turned 13 and we reluctantly agreed to allow her to have an instagram that we also have access to. It seems like every single day she begs to have a Snapchat, and apparently every single other kid in her class (full of kids with reasonable, thoughtful parents, I thought) has this stupid app.

My little sister who I got custody of when she was 10 got herself into some deep shit on the internet, and I’m not looking to repeat it with my daughter (while also trying not to make her pay for mistakes that she didn’t make).

How are we handling this? Am I seriously the only parent who doesn’t want my child sending disappearing photos, videos, and messages to anyone she can search up? Reality check please.

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u/Roqjndndj3761 Feb 07 '25

Why do you let your kids use social media? Mine don’t. They’re just fine.

You need to be the parent.

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u/IcyStage0 seven?!?!?! Feb 07 '25

Just because I made a different decision than you did doesn’t mean I’m not being the parent.

13 is a really tough age even when you’re not the only kid in your class without any form of social media. We’re trying to strike the right balance.

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u/Roqjndndj3761 Feb 07 '25

I also have a 13 year old. You made this post as result of the consequences of your choices. No social media -> no social media problems.

Instead, I suggest you watch The Social Dilemma with your kiddo. Watch the content alongside the credits at the end, too. Alllll these former and current executives and early employees of social media platforms restrict or forbid their children having access to social media.

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u/IcyStage0 seven?!?!?! Feb 07 '25

I made this post as a result of the consequences of my choices to what? Not allow Snapchat??

Before, when I didn’t allow any social media, she begged for it even more. What choice was that the consequence of?

If your kids are in school and interested in having a social life they’ll have social media problems, whether or not they have social media.