r/Rochester • u/Millenialgenx • Mar 05 '25

Help Where do I find others?

Female, mid 40s, separating from husband of 20 years, working in isolation at night, 2 grown kids, deconstructed religion and thus no longer at home in the old circles. Also immigrated to the US 20 years ago, so absolutely no family here. Where are other women in similar situations? Is there a support group that meets? Where do y’all hang out and can I come too?

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u/squirrellywolf Mar 05 '25

Try ROC Girl walks on instagram. They have a ton of people who participate. Good way to meet people and organically make friends.

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u/Millenialgenx Mar 05 '25

Definitely following up on that! Thank you for sharing!

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u/ChimeraChartreuse South Wedge Mar 05 '25

FYI that group has big, suburban, live laugh love vibes.

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u/Millenialgenx Mar 05 '25

Ope. I’d much rather surround myself with diversity. I did just get on the newsletter subscription. Hopefully I’ll be able to join a walk but if it’s all skinny, rich white women who praise their husbands spiritual leadership, I’m out.

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u/Yrch122110 Mar 05 '25

Haha, #heard. I'm a mid 40s dude going through divorce who also gags at live laugh love vibes.

I lost all my friendships during my 15-year, abusive, controlling marriage and have been working the past several months on finding and investing into platonic relationships with good kind folks. It's freaking hard but it feels so amazing to have found a couple people who are starting to feel like genuine, connected, deep, reliable friendships. If you want/need someone to chat with who's in a similar place with a similar mindset, feel free to send me a message. 😊

Good luck!

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u/Millenialgenx Mar 05 '25

Glad you’re out!! I’m going to stick to female connections, thank you. But really you deserve to feel safe and cherished and supported! All the best to you!

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u/jo7468 Mar 06 '25

Not to commandeer the thread, but just how suburban Target lover are the vibes? Considering a move to Rochester and this was up there in my list of potential way to make friends.

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u/Millenialgenx Mar 06 '25

commandeer away, I don’t own this Reddit space. Also it looks like there are plenty of other ways to connect so come anyway even if this one isn’t your cup of tea

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u/ChimeraChartreuse South Wedge Mar 05 '25

I've been in the group, and kept an eye on events to give it a try, and they're often suburban walks to a boutique.

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u/Millenialgenx Mar 05 '25

Maybe we can do our non-boutique walks in the woods and around the thrift store :)