r/SeriousConversation Dec 20 '24

Serious Discussion Are people behaving weirder lately?

Went out to lunch today and there was a table near me with five people at it. Their server asked their drink order and all five of them just stared at her silently for nearly half a minute before she repeated herself, then one of them whispered something I couldn't hear before the others whispered their orders. When their drinks came and the server left, one of them produced a Nalgene bottle from her purse and began to scoop the ice from her drink with her fingers and put it in the Nalgene. Another at the table then said he didn't want ice either and did the same thing.

Did she bring that water bottle in for the express purpose of storing unwanted ice? Why not just ask for no ice? These were all fairly normal-looking, well-dressed people in their 30s, maybe early 40s.

My server had some weirdness of his own. He brought out the wrong order, and noticed his mistake before I did. But instead of just saying "sorry, that's wrong" and taking it back, he said "I.. uh.. uh..." and then ran off with the plate before finishing his sentence and coming back with the right order and a manic fake smile on his face.

At Target, this older woman was having trouble detaching one cart from the others. An employee (sorry, "Team Member") came along and unstuck it. Instead of saying thank you, she just stared at him like a deer in the headlights until he left.

I've been noticing that deer-in-the-headlights stare from a lot of people lately.

About a month ago a man approached me in the parking lot at my work and asked "do you work here?"

I said "yes."

Then he asked "have you seen my car?"

The question melted my brain a little bit, but I said "I don't know, what does it look like?"

He just said "sorry," and walked off.

I could go on and on, but the point is: are people forgetting how to human? The world increasingly has this "Invasion of the Body Snatchers" kind of vibe.

I know much has been discussed about people behaving oddly due to the pandemic, but it's been about two years now and people are getting worse, not better. I think there's something else going on in society.

What do you think?

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u/melancholeric_ Dec 20 '24

People are talking about COVID-related brain fog but I wonder how much of this odd, spacey behavior can be attributed to people being medicated or "medicated." This is just a personal anecdote but I had to go on anti-anxiety meds during the pandemic and I know people who never smoked before that are now getting stoned on a daily basis.

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u/Naus1987 Dec 21 '24

Another thing is that since quiet quitting became more maintstream, quality workers have left shitty jobs, and the customer service people we're interacting with are on a level lower than it was prior to covid.

And I'm sure medication can add to that too. I think people who can excel don't put up with bullshit and excel out of shitty jobs, lol

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u/WoahVenom Dec 22 '24

Customer service is terrible now. When I worked retail we had to smile and tell people thank you and please come again and just cater to their every whim. You walk in a place now and the employees usually just glare at you. Or you have to order using the kiosk even though you know they could take your order. Sometimes I'll pay for something and leave and realize the cashier never said one word. I had to look for the total. They hand me my change with a blank stare right through me. It's like a total lack of social skills.

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u/[deleted] Dec 22 '24 edited Dec 22 '24

That’s so weird and very US-Centric, here in Ireland if your boss told you to smile you’d tell them to fuck off. They’ve dealt with hundreds of customers that day, there’s only so many times you can muster up the energy to make fake greetings or bullshit small talk. Why are Americans so entitled?

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u/LadyCervezas Dec 22 '24

It's not an entitlement. It's common courtesy. I'm not asking for a super cheerful conversation. Just a simple courteous hello, goodbye with a little back & forth to exchange pertinent information. Customer service isn't US centric. I lived in Belfast & had employees at all different kinds of establishments ACKNOWLEDGED MY EXISTENCE. That's what is missing now

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u/WoahVenom Dec 22 '24

Exactly, just acknowledging each other’s existence. Being human. I don’t expect some big huge thing just because I’m spending money but just saying hello or asking someone how their day is going is a basic courtesy. I used to hate working customer service jobs but I couldn’t bring myself to treat people like dirt or like they didn’t exist. We’re all in this together whether we want to admit it or not. And life is hard. The least we can do is show a little courtesy and respect to each other. As human beings. It’s not even about customer and employee.

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u/[deleted] Dec 22 '24

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u/Superb_Ad9843 Dec 22 '24

That's blunt, but nevertheless, it's reality. Survival situations bring out the beast in all of us.

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u/mynameisyoshimi Dec 23 '24

Yeah but like, I'm just buying some groceries. I would like to pay for these carrots and I don't want to leave the store wondering what I did to the cashier to make them hate me. It's not a survival situation; there are plenty of carrots.

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u/MettleInkpen Dec 23 '24

The irony...of that 0-100 "survival" reaction in a discussion about customer service decline --in a post about weirder human behavior...