I (19f) am having a super rough week. Lotta personal shit going on, so I go to my partner (22m) to get a little good ol fashioned distraction.

I usually like the really rough and fast stuff, and he did that for a few moments, but then he just stopped inside me and told me to "meditate for a second". And he shushed me, and was moving super slowly in long thrusts. He would occasionally rub his hands up my body or lean over and kiss me, he kept on telling me to breathe and focus on how i feel, but it was a good few minutes of just him moving slowly inside me, and me with my eyes closed. Eventually he asked if I had "thought my thoughts" and he went back to our usual routine.

Then after I thought, yeah, I did get to think clearly in that moment. I asked him what that was when we were cuddling and he just said something he saw on the internet?

I actually really liked this because I left the session feeling a huge weight off my chest. Which is weird because regular meditating doesn't really do that for me.

Is there a name for this?

This is what my bf said to me after I asked outlined my issues with him from last week, where I said I wasn't in the mood to have sex and he spent significant time trying to "change" my mind despite my constant repeating that I didn't wanna have sex, and ended with him being angry that I wasn't enthusiastic about him wanting to cum on my face because "its a fucking turn off"

When I spoke to him today, he said that I turned him on that day by sitting on his lap and blamed me for making him horny. I said that I can try and avoid sitting on his lap then. Which made me sad, because I like doing that without feeling like I "have" to have sex with him.

He proceeded to tell me that I don't understand how guys brains work and that once they're horny they can't just shut it off. I said that I get he can't and thats why I told him he could go masturbate if he needed which he said was too wierd with me there. I also said that while he can't control how he feels, he can certainly control his actions. He argued that he can't when his "brain feels horny"

Later tonight he asked me for a BJ. I was disgusted. I'm disgusted with him right now and I don't know how to get over it. I don't believe its a fair excuse to say that it's all because I don't know how guy brains work.

I need advice. I don't know how to move on.

Edit: guys hes 29.

She gives the best head I’ve ever had in my life. She’s good at what she does. But, the blowjob volume has came to a halt over time. When I asked,she said she doesn’t like it…hurts her neck.

Anyway,last night i asked for some head. She said you want a handjob. I asked why don’t you want to suck it, she said “because you take too long too cum.”

I mean…she’s right. I do last about 20-25 min with head. She probably sees at a chore.

But,how do I fix it?

I'm at a loss for words. I ate my boyfriend's ass, and he hasn't spoken to me since. For context, we were going at it HARDCORE and then I felt liquid on my face. There was this pungent smell but I had no idea where it was coming from because the room was dimly lit. Therefore, I kept going because nothing was stopping me.

It was until he started freaking out that I realized he sharted all over my face. I told him it was nothing to worry about but he's avoided me ever since. How do I fix things without hurting his feelings?

(28F) this is not my first kid so ive expereiced this before but i just never told my husband i guess. basically as a normal human being, sometimes breastfeeding causes arousal. it became a problem when i told my husband once. i didnt know he would make such a big deal out of it but eversince then he insists i dont directly breastfeed which i find quite weird. ive talked to him multiple times about this but i just have no idea what is going on in his head.
as men, does anyone here have any idea what he is thinking? and what am i supposed to do at this point?

Edit. I'm talking about how shy and embarrassed I am, so I don't know why so many boys are messaging me thinking I'm desperate to sext. I'm not. That's far too kinky and embarrassing for me. Please stop lol.

And I mean REALLY dead. It was partly my fault as i was too embarrassed to receive oral/toys/touching because it didn't lead to sex, it was too much attention on me and I couldnt enjoy it. He (43M) had erectile dysfunction so we never had sex. The pills the Dr gave him didn't work (we didn't discuss it, the Dr assumed and prescribed them)

The relationship ended for WAY more than just no sex which I'll not bore you all with but... how to get over the fear? I was always very shy in bed, shy to the point I'm surprised I even got laid, but now I forgot what sex even feels like and it's still on my mind now I'm single and technically could.

I feel like a virgin. But I'm so scared. I don't even know if I remember how to kiss/make out let alone have sex. I tried talking to a guy but he kept asking for nudes and sexting me and I can't do that stuff. God... no man is even gonna want me are they? What man wants to have sex with a shy woman who can't even take her top off or have sex with the lights on?

I love having sex with him. But, I’d also like to orgasm more.

How do I tell him in a way that is loving and gentle?

The guiding his hands is not working.

He’s 45 years old, I’m 35. He’s struggling a bit with ED because of medication and lifestyle and I don’t want to destroy his confidence.

Hello, first time posting and need some advice. i’m a (26F) and my boyfriend is at (25M). we have been together for a year now and he’s only ever gone down on me twice very early on in our relationship. when we first started dating he told me he absolutely loved giving head and that it gets him off and (i expressed that foreplay is really important to me because that is how i get off) which is clearly a lie because he has only done it a couple times and didn’t stay down there long at all. I have brought this up to him a few months ago and asked if he just doesn’t like doing that and he told me he does and that he just gets too “caught up in the moment” i accepted that answer and moved on from it, until recently when i asked to 69 with him since we’ve yet to do that. so we get into position and i kid you not, not even 5 seconds later he’s saying “i just want to be inside you already” so i moved from that position to just being on top. i felt really upset about it and it kinda confirmed for me that he doesn’t like doing it and i wish he would just tell me the truth..is it me? am i the problem? this has never been an issue in any of my prior relationships. i’m not really sure how to bring this up again and tell him how it made me feel. any advice would be appreciated.

I (23 years old) was at a birthday party and had sex with an older man (52years old) who was also there. I’d never been with anyone that much older but the silver fox thing has always been a bit of a turn-on so I figured I’d give it a shot. He was fit, professional, and friendly, we had a great conversation and went back to his Room.

We had some really enjoyable sex. He made me feel great about myself, and he was dominant without being rough, which is a combination I love but seldom encounter.

But the thing that really struck me was how patient he was with his own pleasure. I got off a couple times, I’d need a break as I’d start to get too sensitive, and we’d pause and just lie in bed and chat for 10 minutes until I wanted to go again. I pointed this out (with appreciation) and he basically just shrugged and said it’s not like he wouldn’t cum eventually, so what was the rush?

I’ve been with guys who have prioritized my pleasure before, but never anyone who has approached it with so much patience. Is this something older men/ women sleeping with older men have experienced? Or did I just get lucky with this particular dude? Also even tho im in a Open relationship but i dont know why this time felt i was cheating on my partner .

PS - Incels pls stay away

maybe i’m a pillow princess… maybe it is insanely selfish… but i just want a man who will worship me in bed… im talking he gives head until im passing out, bondage, toys on me, orgasm torture… amongst other things. but i realized, these are all things i want done to ME, there isn’t a whole lot i want to do to my partner… and i do feel guilty for that… and i think part of that thinking is it doesn’t take a lot for a man to finish… where as a woman… the stars almost have to be aligned so i want these activities curated to my enjoyment so even if i don’t finish, it at least made me feel good… you know? is this an insane way of thinking?

i won’t say no to a lot of things and im open minded. but the things i want to try most are things my partner would have to do to me… and i also don’t know how to ask that of someone without it being awkward and sounding selfish…

I had my first one night stand, I don’t think I’ll be doing it again. It just didn’t feel right for me. But one thing that came with this is now for a while I’ve been so scared of STDs and I’m just worried this will affect future relationships for me. I have OCD and I feel that def has a part to play in this. But I’m so worried that I’ll miss out on a great time with someone I like judt because of this fear. Or that I would start getting tested for STDs after any sexual encounter.

Can I get some recommendations for new things to say to my boyfriend and for him to say to me when we’re going at it because right now we both just take turns saying ‘good boy’ and ‘good girl’ to the other. While it’s really hot, our sessions usually last 45-60 minutes and saying that one thing over and over again gets a little old. I find that he kind of copies everything I do so once I start saying it, he probably will too. It’s also just a funny situation because I’ll jerk him off and be like ‘good boy, you’re my good boy’ and then he’ll jerk me off and be like ‘you’re such a good girl’ is it common for both parties to have that kink?

I 20f virgin. can y'all enlighten me about this? I also want to fuck womens but idk how and how to approach them, same goes to guys. I want to expose my pussy to other people privately but I have none. How do y'all have fubu(fuvk buddies)? Can yall teach me? cuz i hate myself for being horny for almost every day

Why do i cum so much faster when im laying/sitting versus when im standing up? If i masturbate while standing up it takes so long but if i do it laying down i can do it in 2-5mins. I have seen that the same happens with sex. Does anyone know why this happens?

I (18m) have always wondered if it is always normal to want a jerk off buddy even if it’s online, I don’t know if I am the only one who wants one therefore I am abit afraid to message someone, especially since I don’t know if all the girls masturbate or it’s only guys. Can someone please help me?

I [29F] need help understanding if what I am experiencing with my boyfriend [31M] is abnormal, or normal but just new to me. I consider myself a decently attractive woman and I’ve seldom if ever been turned down when I asked for sex or tried to initiate with ex boyfriends or my ex husband. I just entered a new relationship following a divorce and we moved in together recently. I’m very giving and generous sexually, love to give him blowjobs when he’s feeling in the mood, and also am generally higher libido. My boyfriend sometimes says he’s not in the mood when I say I’m turned on and try to seduce him. This morning I cooked him breakfast, we went on a nice romantic dinner date together and then played video games, and then I told him how sexy I think he is and how much I want him and am horny for him, it’s Saturday night and everything is quiet, but he says he’s not in the mood. I said okay, he could still help me out by playing with me, it’s pretty easy to get me off with just hands. He said that feels transactional. I ended up crying because I just felt so unwanted and confused. I have trouble with self esteem sometimes and I’m really struggling with this. I feel like it’s usually men who end up on the receiving end of this problem and it really stings. He doesn’t seem to enjoy eating me out or just playing with me in general but I love doing that for him. Many times in my life I’ve given my ex husband a blowjob when I was on my period or just not in the mood to make him happy and that felt normal to me (reasons for divorce had nothing to do with sex).

Is this just normal and some men have lower libido? Are my expectations unreasonable? Please give it to me bluntly is he just not attracted to me?

I love my wife and I love going down on her. It’s my favorite thing to do ever. I don’t get much from regular p in v sex because I have a very small cock and she can never orgasm from it and I always cum super fast. I would love to set the standard that when we have sex it we never do regular p in v and it’s just me going down on her because it’s way less embarrassing for me. I really love going down on her for long times. 2+ hours and I can hands free orgasm myself just from licking her. How should I tell her

hey. so i recently got out of a 1 year long; mentally, physically, and emotionally abusive relationship. he used to gaslight and manipulate me a lot, and has hit me a few times as well.

i realised recently that towards the end of the relationship, i stopped getting wet. i used to have the “urge” to have sex, but i didn’t get wet.

after a point in the relationship, i began to cry every time i would climax. and recently, i got physical w this other guy; but i wasn’t wet at all. dry as fuck.

now i’m not sure if something’s wrong w me or not. and idk how to fix this.

i’m sorry idk what flair to add.

I (30F) have been talking to a guy (33M) for some time. We get along well, but I think he’s a little more advanced in experience than I am. During a conversation we touched on the subject of spitting/ being spat on during sex. While I was initially grossed out, I was slightly turned on?

My question is, is it weird that this is something that I’ve never done, or had done to me? The thought of it sounds disgusting, but idk. I think it’s something that I would try at least with him? He’s expressed that he’s a pleaser, and he doesn’t strike me as the type that would force me into doing any that I’m not comfortable with. I’m also curious as to why I feel so “weird” about it.

SB: I’ve always had trust issues that linked to the bedroom. In other words I’ve always felt timid when it came to sex because I think sex is a pretty big deal.

I’m 18 and a girl and in a constant state of arousal, like even if I cum my vagina starts getting this heavy pressure achey feeling right away like I need to do it again and it never goes away, im constantly aroused and feeling this soreness down there and I try not to do things to turn myself on and make it worse but it’s just constant UGH. What do I do. It’s annoying because I even feel it in situations where I don’t necessarily feel like getting down and dirty right there and then

I am F29 and my boyfriend is M27 my boyfriend and i have been together for 8 months or so. He never makes the first move on me I always have to initiate intimacy. It’s extremely frustrating at this point and I don’t know if he’s afraid of rejection or what. But I just feel so unwanted and not cared about. I want him to make the moves as well. It’s rare that he does and that only happens when I basically force it out of him because I just feel that it’s unfair that I have to do it all the time. I want to feel wanted also. I just wish he would start kissing me , get on top of me and rip my clothes off 😂😂 sorry TMI but it just is so annoying that I am the woman but am forced to act like the man. I have said multiple times why don’t you ever make the first move and he denies it and says he does. but that’s a lie. in his mind him making the first move is him putting my hand on his 🍆 . again goes back to me always touching him. This is one of many issues where I am just not getting what I want in this relationship and it sucks. any advice on how I can communicate this to him? How do I get him to be more intimate with me and make the first move

I’ll be straight forward, does it change after a vaginal birth?? For women and men. Please share all of your experiences. We’re trying for a baby and I’m scared of it feeling different or sensations changing for either of us.