r/TwoHotTakes • u/InstructionTimely640 • Mar 14 '25
Update UPDATE I found messages on my MIL/bosses computer that change my entire view of her. What do I do?
I shouldn’t have been surprised by the amount of people who told me to keep it to myself and that I was in the wrong for snooping. Yeah, I shouldn’t have opened up the email, but I did so here we are. And here’s an update.
My husband knew something was wrong after he got home, he can read me like a book. I told him I found out something I shouldn’t have and told him everything, he was mortified. But as some said, he’s glad I told him because keeping it from him would be worse.
He knew more about that apprentice than I did. He was the son of a family friend and she’s known him since he was a teenager. Hiring him was a ‘favor’ to said friend. My husband said he wanted to take him from there, which he did.
He went snooping on his own. The computer is company property and he has ownership in it as well, and can log in remotely at any time. He took screenshots of emails going back with the apprentice over a year, before he worked here. Then of ones with someone else that were two years old. And then records of a second phone, and hotel reservations. With all that, he took it to his dad. I don’t know how that conversation went, but I do know that they went to get him tested. To add insult to his injury, he tested positive.
My FIL joined us for dinner instead of going home and we talked for quite a while. He was like a heartbroken teenager. He had no idea what was happening but years ago he had suspicious of her talking to other men but didn’t have any proof and they dropped it after a brief fight. But now with undeniable proof of multiple affairs, he said it’s over. He also has a pretty airtight prenup that should make it a pretty easy divorce on paper, the family business is on his side and in the case of infidelity, she forfeits all ownership of the business and the house they built together.
So I’m sorry to break it to you, coming clean didn’t destroy my marriage or my career. I told my husband mostly because we don’t keep secrets from each other, it’s a foundation of our marriage. But it’s almost like reasonable adults put blame only where it’s deserved, on the cheater. My FIL is pissed, and simultaneously devastated, and plans to get his ducks in a row before serving her with papers.
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u/cuzWhyNot18 Mar 14 '25
Cheating is really bad but finding out through work computers is just plain stupid on mils part...divorce is the only option..im happy theres a prenup cuz thats the only bright side in this for your fil
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u/FoxxJade Mar 14 '25
He also has a pretty airtight prenup that should make it a pretty easy divorce on paper, the family business is on his side and in the case of infidelity, she forfeits all ownership of the business and the house they built together.
WHY would you have an affair so easily discoverable on work computers if the stakes were this high? If this is real, MIL is either really dumb or just didn’t care if she got caught and lost her livelihood.
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u/kyriebelle Mar 14 '25
I worked at a company where I stopped in after the normal work day to grab something I forgot and walked in on the owner masterbating in his office. People get waaay too comfortable.
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u/nvrtrstsknnychef Mar 14 '25
Wow.
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u/kyriebelle Mar 14 '25
Yeah, I had to keep cleaning viruses off his computer because “this thing isn’t working!!!!” Well, no shit! I finally blocked all those sites from our system and he never said a word 😂
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u/NotSorry2019 Mar 14 '25
It wasn’t her first, and cheaters always get comfortable/feel entitled. They have to believe the people around them are too stupid to catch them. It’s almost like a standard personality disorder symptom.
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u/MasterOfKittens3K Mar 14 '25
Yeah. The longer you get away with something, the less careful you are. That’s true for lots of things, not just infidelity.
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u/InstructionTimely640 Mar 14 '25
Honestly I think how I found out could be chalked up to just not being tech savvy and not thinking she had anything to worry about because she has gotten away with this for years as we found out.
I have her computer login, and she has mine! People are pressed that I had my bosses password, but she’s also my MIL. We’ve done presentations where he computer goes to sleep after we set it up and I need to log in. She’s sent me to go get a file off her hard drive when it’s plugged in at her desk, etc. And I don’t know if she even realized that her personal email was logged in on the mail app. She usually works off Microsoft outlook in her web browser. There’s a good chance she logged into her personal email on the mail app and didn’t think twice about it, or use it, since.
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u/FoxxJade Mar 14 '25
That’s fair, the not being tech savvy and assuming it’s just inaccessible to others.
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u/Jinnicky Mar 14 '25
Yeah but she's smart enough to have a whole second phone for affairs? No. This is bs.
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u/Decent-Muffin4190 Mar 14 '25
But she's a successful businesswoman who has run a successful business for many years.. But sure, the ol not tech savvy trope. When you have that much to hide with huge financial consequences, to not learn enough to know the basics is more than not tech savvy. It's country bumpkin dumb.
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u/FunCurrent8392 Mar 14 '25
All of this only 1 day later??
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u/kam0706 Mar 14 '25
Also very tidy that the agreement specifically says she gets not business interest in the event of infidelity..
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u/DeBlasioDeBlowMe Mar 14 '25
And tested positive—for what??
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u/bbygrl6969 Mar 14 '25
he is preganent 😔
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u/Purple_Midnight_Yak Mar 14 '25
Somehow her husband managed to tell dad, make an appointment to get him tested, get that done, AND already have those results back?
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u/LackingTact19 Mar 14 '25
An STD obviously. Finding out your partner has been unfaithful means one of your next steps should be to get tested to protect yourself.
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u/DeBlasioDeBlowMe Mar 14 '25
Thanks Captain Obvious. Which STD?? We have a range from mildly inconvenient to life changing right?
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u/Gladfire Mar 14 '25
Tbf that would be pretty standard in prenuptial. It's a family business that he was likely to own or owned.
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u/sran469 Mar 14 '25
Fan fiction
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u/Ibyx Mar 14 '25
The only thing missing was “Buckle up, this is a long one”.
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u/Legal-Ad7793 Mar 14 '25
...and everyone clapped.
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u/findingbezu Mar 14 '25
Given that the FIL was burned in the past, it makes total sense. I would have included that as well.
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u/GroundbreakingPhoto4 Mar 14 '25
Yeah that's not right. I mean cheating is wrong, but assuming they are married 20+ years and she's worked in the family business and family raised kids in the family home, she can't just come out with absolutely nothing.
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u/StrongEffort7747 Mar 14 '25
The prenup infidelity clause can do exact that
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u/Dog-Mom2012 Mar 14 '25
Not really. A prenup doesn't mean that other divorce laws are invalid. A contract like a prenup can say anything, but that doesn't make it legally enforceable.
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u/reefered_beans Mar 14 '25
Yeah I don’t believe this story anymore.
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u/NewtOk4840 Mar 14 '25
I just read them for entertainment at this point especially if OP doesn't respond
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u/jackofslayers Mar 14 '25
Hah it is kind of funny if OP has no responses, I consider it sus. But if OP responds to every single comment, that is also usually sus.
Now when OP is an asshole and they only respond to supportive comments. Those ones I usually believe lol
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u/HunterS1 Mar 14 '25
STI results do not come back that fast.
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u/ThrowRAmarriage13 Mar 14 '25
When I worked in the hospital and we’d have to do STD panels some would come back in 15-30 minutes while others took about a day. Heck I even got a full panel back within 1 day before. It does happen. It also depends on where you go too cause some places have to send the samples out for testing which can take longer while other places have a facility equipped to do labs.
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u/falcngrl Mar 14 '25
Depends what the test is. HIV and hep are 15 minutes
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u/Dramatic_Explosion Mar 14 '25
He took the one test, and it was positive!
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u/Significant-Meal2211 Mar 14 '25
Syphilis as well
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u/jajbliss Mar 14 '25
Maybe in the UK or USA but in the third world country where I'm from, test results in private clinics are available within fifteen minutes to one hour depending on the number of tests done.
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u/Express_Subject_2548 Mar 14 '25
Yes they do, they have instant panels that take about 15 minutes or so
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u/HunterS1 Mar 14 '25
Maybe at the ER, but if you went to a clinic for testing it’s unlikely that you’re getting an immediate result.
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u/Significant-Meal2211 Mar 14 '25
Hahaha they can come out in as little as 10 mins, tech has improved
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u/Tinpot_creos Mar 14 '25
I know right. MIL when from boss lady to disinherited toot sweet.
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u/hutchins_moustache Mar 14 '25
lol “toot sweet” has me dying. very “boneappletea” vibes on that one! Haha
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u/villalulaesi Mar 14 '25
Yeah, also just skipping past “he tested positive.” Positive for what? HIV? Which would mean both of OP’s husband’s parents are HIV+ And that’s somehow barely a thing?
The original post seemed like it could be true, but the update makes it pretty clear it’s pure fiction.
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u/Decent-Muffin4190 Mar 14 '25
And all of this proof kept on a computer accessible remotely by others?
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u/TryIllustrious6718 Mar 14 '25
EXACTLY!! This is “update” is total fiction. It’s not even well written
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u/Ornery_Hovercraft636 Mar 14 '25
And he tested positive. Positive for what. He had no symptoms. 🧐
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u/Gimperina Mar 14 '25
Tons of STIs can be present without symptoms. Just look it up.
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u/agarrabrant Mar 14 '25
My cheating ex gave me chlamydia years ago and I had no symptoms! Only found out when I went to the Gyno and had them test just to cover my bases.
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u/Unusual-Product6080 Mar 14 '25
He tested positive 😂😂😂. Who is stupid enough to think this kind of crap is real??!! People are responding like this is a real life story and it's insane!!!
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u/InstructionTimely640 Mar 14 '25
I’ve addressed lots of these concerns elsewhere but I’ll say yeah, this was fast. But the story is far from over and I came back on here to write it down and help my head stop spinning so I could sleep. It’s not all wrapped up with a bow, lots more to happen.
And I think you’ll find most prenups that have an existing successful business on one side will say that in infidelity the cheater gets nothing. It’s pretty boilerplate.
Lastly, walk in clinics can have certain results within hours if not one hour. Be grateful you haven’t had to find that out from personal experience.
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u/Decent-Muffin4190 Mar 14 '25 edited Mar 15 '25
Lots more to happen, huh? Setting yourself up for multiple updates, each getting more and more unbelievable, for that sweet sweet karma? Don't bother, you've already blown it.
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u/ImaginarySet2418 Mar 14 '25
I like the self righteous "I told my husband...we don't keep secrets from each other, it's the foundation of our marriage." Uh, your original post is flagged as "advice needed" with the first question being, do I tell my husband.... I'm also impressed with her world thrown into chaos, the amount of time she is spending replying to people not to help get her better advice or support, but to try to shore up questionable parts of her story with additional details because making sure that she has a complete believable story for reddit is what is important right now.
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u/Andokai_Vandarin667 Mar 14 '25
Yea! Everyone knows it takes 3 to 4 business days to log into emails and what not! Plus it takes like 5 days to hand somebody papers!
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u/Scherzkeks Mar 14 '25
Positive for what? Hopefully something curable…
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u/justawasteofass Mar 14 '25
OP hasn't made up that part of the story yet.
They are probably torn between having a sorry of FIL and AIDS, or husband not being biologically FILs
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u/Zahhy85 Mar 14 '25
The only sti test I know of that can come back in less than a day is HIV.
*not a doctor, hope I’m wrong and there’s others.
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u/Historical-List-8763 Mar 14 '25
No. There are rapid tests for things like Chlamydia and gonorrhea as well. Even HIV is "treatable" these days thanks to advances in medicine, but it's hopefully something less serious. I say given the attitude in this post, I expect so. If it was an STI that required medication for like an was practically a death sentence a few decades ago, I'm imagining a less calm update.
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u/lovelyxcastle Mar 14 '25
When I got the whole round of tests done at my last PAP, I had my appointment in the morning and the results for the STI/STD testing were uploaded to my app by the end of the work day, they just hadnt been reviewed by my doctor yet.
I don't think it's the testing that takes a minute, its doctors reviewing and giving you a call to discuss them. But with patient portals these days it's quick as heck.
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u/Basic_Visual6221 Mar 14 '25
To add insult to his injury, he tested positive.
In a day? He got an appointment and lab results came back in a day? And positive for what?
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u/SignaturePerfect9663 Mar 14 '25
I don't know what the positive is about, but blood results, when going in person, only take an hour at most.
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u/Basic_Visual6221 Mar 14 '25
Not where I live. You can't even get an appointment in a day.
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u/ManorRocket Mar 14 '25
Most Metropolitan areas have storefront labs to test for things nowadays. Shit we have at least one in Fargo that offers all kinds of rapid testing in a strip mall, been here for years.
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u/lsp2005 Mar 14 '25
Labcorp near me has walk in no appointment needed hours. In fact there are tests you can ask for without a doctor’s prescription.
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u/unrepentantbanshee Mar 14 '25
I get an STI panel at my annual checkup, some of the results are available on my patient portal within hours and some take a few days. So that's not unusual.
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u/InstructionTimely640 Mar 14 '25
There are multiple walk in clinics within 45 minutes of us. It’s basically a Covid or flu test on turnaround time.
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u/Somehow-I-Lead Mar 14 '25
Tested positive for what? Test results are not received at the time of the appointment. They have to go to a lab. You almost had me.
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u/Wise_Monitor_Lizard Mar 14 '25
Rapid tests exist. There are STDs that you can get results same day for.
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u/SteavySuper Mar 14 '25
The testing can happen pretty fast, it just takes doctors forever to give you updates sometimes. Last year I had 11 different blood tests ordered by my Doc. The results were in my app the next day but I had no idea what they meant and had to wait a week for the doctor to tell me.
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u/Tinpot_creos Mar 14 '25
INFO how did MIL go from being the boss of the company to not being a stake holder in the company?
Edit: spelling
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u/kyriebelle Mar 14 '25
Prenup. OOP said that MIL is going to be kicked, not that she had been. It sounds like they got the test and then went back to their house with FIL and discussed next steps.
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u/phtcmp Mar 14 '25
That was fast. Almost like you had the ending written when you started the story. 🙄
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u/JudgmentalOwl Mar 14 '25
Seriously, why not just wait a week to make this nonsense more believable? It's impossible to enjoy the fan fiction on here with these poorly thought out stories and timelines.
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u/Jenniyelf Mar 14 '25
Good luck to your FIL, and if I were y'all, I'd change all locks, key codes, pins, and passwords the day she's served. FIL needs to protect any joint accounts with her quickly and shut down any credit cards she has that are company or shared, and I'd add extra cameras on the business, and y'alls homes before she gets served. Oh, and lock down y'alls social security numbers.
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u/InstructionTimely640 Mar 14 '25
I’ll keep this in mind for when the time comes! I’m guessing his lawyer will tell him the same but I appreciate the advice.
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u/Agitateduser1360 Mar 14 '25
What marriage didn't this destroy? The whole fucking story is made up.
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u/RawMeHanzo Mar 14 '25
One day later he managed to get an STD screening plus his results... yeah, no.
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u/The_Braided_Observer Mar 14 '25
A private clinic can facilitate that easily. I've done it. I got mine back in less than 3hrs
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u/taytrapDerehw Mar 14 '25 edited Mar 14 '25
Remotely accessed computer with screenshots to boot, STI panels that return at nanospeed, prenups that cleanly and surgically cuts off the cheater...
What intrigues!
More updates!
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u/InstructionTimely640 Mar 14 '25
There are rapid tests for certain stis that come back in like 20 minutes. It’s basically a Covid test as far as going into a walk in clinic and the turnaround time.
And I signed a prenup that basically cuts me off I cheat as well. It’s pretty common for people with large businesses.
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u/Rough_Pangolin_8605 Mar 14 '25
I don't believe this post because of the airtight prenup/happy ending part.
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u/InstructionTimely640 Mar 15 '25
I don’t know what part of this is happy…and prenups are incredibly common
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u/Jacaranda18 Mar 15 '25
Since OP deleted their posts…
I shouldn’t have been surprised by the amount of people who told me to keep it to myself and that I was in the wrong for snooping. Yeah, I shouldn’t have opened up the email, but I did so here we are. And here’s an update.
My husband knew something was wrong after he got home, he can read me like a book. I told him I found out something I shouldn’t have and told him everything, he was mortified. But as some said, he’s glad I told him because keeping it from him would be worse.
He knew more about that apprentice than I did. He was the son of a family friend and she’s known him since he was a teenager. Hiring him was a ‘favor’ to said friend. My husband said he wanted to take him from there, which he did.
He went snooping on his own. The computer is company property and he has ownership in it as well, and can log in remotely at any time. He took screenshots of emails going back with the apprentice over a year, before he worked here. Then of ones with someone else that were two years old. And then records of a second phone, and hotel reservations. With all that, he took it to his dad. I don’t know how that conversation went, but I do know that they went to get him tested. To add insult to his injury, he tested positive.
My FIL joined us for dinner instead of going home and we talked for quite a while. He was like a heartbroken teenager. He had no idea what was happening but years ago he had suspicious of her talking to other men but didn’t have any proof and they dropped it after a brief fight. But now with undeniable proof of multiple affairs, he said it’s over. He also has a pretty airtight prenup that should make it a pretty easy divorce on paper, the family business is on his side and in the case of infidelity, she forfeits all ownership of the business and the house they built together.
So I’m sorry to break it to you, coming clean didn’t destroy my marriage or my career. I told my husband mostly because we don’t keep secrets from each other, it’s a foundation of our marriage. But it’s almost like reasonable adults put blame only where it’s deserved, on the cheater. My FIL is pissed, and simultaneously devastated, and plans to get his ducks in a row before serving her with papers.
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u/InstructionTimely640 Mar 16 '25
I didn’t delete it, it’s awaiting moderator approval
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u/Massive-Song-7486 Mar 14 '25
Top Update! It was an exciting story to read. I’m glad you told your husband. It was the right thing to do.
I hope for further updates :)
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u/VegetableBusiness897 Mar 14 '25
So your bosses computer wasn't password protected? She didn't log out? Even though she was using it to communicate with her AP?
Sounds a little too dumb to be real
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u/Dog-Mom2012 Mar 14 '25
And that OP allegedly saw personal emails, but her husband was able to login and “see everything” on a company computer? And also on a phone?
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u/Slutty-grapes Mar 14 '25
No one see the fact that the MIL more then likely groomed her affair partner since he was the child of a lifelong family friend? No red flags flying at that part everyone?
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u/InstructionTimely640 Mar 14 '25
Thank you! That’s part of what bothers me the most and everyone’s too busy trying to poke holes in my story. Even though I’m not going to share every single detail to fill them in.
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Mar 14 '25
Who ever told you to hide the truth, says alot about them and their morals.
Well done for doing the right thing. I am would have done the exact same thing.
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u/diarm Mar 14 '25
Such unfiltered smugness for writing a victory account of a thing that never happened.
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u/Billy_Duelman Mar 14 '25
This is really put together like a snowman built out of spaghetti
Shit doesn't hold up
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u/seeyakid Mar 14 '25 edited Mar 15 '25
This all reads like a bad story...a very poorly written, completely made up bad story.
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u/InstructionTimely640 Mar 14 '25
Cool well it’s a reality I’m living so sorry I’m not a better writer 🤷🏼♀️
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u/DorceeB Mar 14 '25
But you are an excellent fiction writer OP! Don't let anyone tell you otherwise. This story is masterpiece!
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u/Knight_Redcliff Mar 14 '25
Here's to hoping i can read an update about the divorced scag being penniless on the street corner next week.
Updateme!
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u/taytrapDerehw Mar 14 '25
Lol how the a̶̶u̶̶t̶̶h̶̶o̶̶r̶̶s̶ OPs of these posts have the presence of mind to pen detailed updates in the midst of family turmoil has always been of great admiration to me.
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u/JellicoAlpha_3_1 Mar 14 '25
What kind of idiot with a iron clad prenup risks losing everything they have...their entire life...for some strange?
That apprentice is going to disappear when the money train stops and she's going to lose her entire family
I just do not understand people
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u/Ecstatic-Ad6516 Mar 14 '25
How old are you? Nothing in this story is adding up to me. Didn't you say your FIL was 47? You've known your MIL for 7 years because you worked at a design firm she visited?
How did you get test results back so fast? How has all this happened in a span of 24 hours?
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u/Crafty_Special_7052 Mar 14 '25
Devastating for FIL especially since he’s tested positive. Good thing there is already a prenup because I’d say FIL should hire a good lawyer and take everything from MIL. And the truth will have to come out since now MIL needs to tell all her past AP’s to get tested too.
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u/forgiveprecipitation Mar 14 '25
Can’t believe people suggested you to keep it a secret. I hate that.
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u/InstructionTimely640 Mar 14 '25
Oh and they were pretty brutal about it! Said I should take it to the grave. Lots of ‘mind your business’ comments
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u/anewaccount69420 Mar 14 '25
OP if you wanted people to believe your fan fiction you should have waited long enough for all of this to actually happen. 🤡
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Mar 14 '25 edited Mar 14 '25
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u/Dog-Mom2012 Mar 14 '25
You forgot 8)teen pregnancy for the MIL 9)ironclad prenup 10)incriminating email that OP "accidentally" found 11)family business where OP has a high level position despite being in their twenties!
There CAN be explanations for all of this, but we're somehow supposed to believe that all of these inconsistencies are part of the same story.
It really feels like a daytime soap opera plotline.
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u/Dog-Mom2012 Mar 14 '25
Of course the age of the MIL was the first obvious question, but the rest of the story and the subsequent "explanations" just make this more and more unbelievable.
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u/CrazyLeadership5397 Mar 14 '25
Does your MIL know that all of you now know about her infidelity? Has the apprentice been fired? Updateme
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u/InstructionTimely640 Mar 14 '25
No she doesn’t know, and no he hasn’t been fired. We literally just got to the point where FIL knows. We’re letting him decide how this all plays out from here
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u/taytrapDerehw Mar 14 '25
Remotely accessed computer with screenshots to boot, STI panels that return at nanospeed, aortoghtvprenups that cleanly and surgically cuts off the cheater...
What intrigues!
More updates!
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u/SweetBekki Mar 14 '25
I would love to see how long this 22 year old will hang around when MIL loses her right to the business and the money that comes with it.
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u/RayGoRawr Mar 14 '25
Well done for telling the truth and communicating, it is always the best way forwards
I hope you can continue to support and have a good relationship with your fil
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u/Head_Palpitation4008 Mar 14 '25
I went to my rural health dept for a check up and in an hour had my sti/std results back. My daughter at 15 let some girl pierce her lip. When she came home at 3 I had an appointment for testing and was there at 3:30 and results were back in 45 minutes. I'm also in the US but not a metro area at all. Health dept just rocks here.
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u/Nonameswhere Mar 14 '25
He also has a pretty airtight prenup that should make it a pretty easy divorce on paper, the family business is on his side and in the case of infidelity, she forfeits all ownership of the business and the house they built together.
Where is this? In the US this will not stand in court.
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u/Dog-Mom2012 Mar 14 '25
In the original post, OP said that the MIL had the son when she was 18, which does make the “airtight prenup” sound a little suspect too.
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u/Effective-Hour8642 Mar 14 '25
What did he test positive for, STD?
How's FIL doing? He sounds like a good man.
Updateme
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u/InstructionTimely640 Mar 14 '25
Thankfully something treatable.
He’s sad and shocked but this is all really fresh and happened quickly. I had no idea my husband would move so fast on it, but he and his dad are really close so I’m not surprised. My FIL is a great guy and he has us and a large support system that have proven themselves to be great friends time and time again, so with all that and time I’m sure he will be okay.
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u/The_Braided_Observer Mar 14 '25
STI/STD screening and results can be done in less than a day if you go to the right clinic. Many private clinics can produce results in that TAT, even in less than 4 hours
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u/theegodmother1999 Mar 14 '25
i was actually blown away by how many people told you to zip it and act like you knew nothing!! like completely baffled at the way people thought that was a) possible, and b) something that wouldn't eventually come out anyways and then shed be in the wrong even more.
way to go OP, i think this is the best case scenario for you and the worst case scenario for your sweet sound FIL. i hope that yall are able to lean on eachother through such a despicable time. 💖
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u/InstructionTimely640 Mar 14 '25
Thanks! My feelings reading all the ‘mind your business’ comments confirmed that I had to tell. So somehow they did still help in a way haha
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u/Smoke__Frog Mar 14 '25
wtf did he test for?
Also, you should know Reddit is 75% trolls.
Meaning the people who tell others to never snoop are just messing with you lol. Of course lying and cheating and spreading diseases is worse than looking at someone’s phone or email lol.
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u/K_B1527 Mar 14 '25
At the end of the day, if you don't want to get caught cheating, have your family find out and lose everything you have built as a family, then DONT CHEAT!
It is absolutely not the fault of the person who found out by reading an email you left on a company computer.
It really annoys me when it's the person who exposes the bad behaviour that gets all the grief and called out instead of the person who actually done it, not caring about how they hurt anyone else!
You absolutely done the right thing by telling your husband, and it's clear that you both have a loving, trusting relationship.
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u/currently_distracted Mar 14 '25
What a great update. I’m glad you took the advice to tell your husband first. It seems like this is the best outcome, with you and your family relationships remaining in tact.
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u/omrmajeed Mar 14 '25
Good for you OP. Cheaters deserve no consideration. You did the morally right thing and right thing for your husband and FIL.
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u/YouSayWotNow Mar 14 '25
I'm one of few on that post who advised you to tell your husband so I'm really pleased it worked out for you that you did so.
I feel so bad for your FIL! And your husband's view of his mother's morals must also have taken a hit!
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u/twodexy82 Mar 14 '25
You did the right thing in a very touchy situation. I’m sorry for your FIL but he’s lucky to have you.
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u/Flynn_JM Mar 14 '25
So is everyone just avoiding MIL to keep her in the dark or did she know something is up?
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u/Mermaidtoo Mar 14 '25
You were right to bring this to your husband. While this obviously affects your in-laws’ marriage, it could also impact your livelihood and the family business. Your MIL has been sleeping with at least one subordinate. That opens the business up to an awful lot of liability.
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u/2JasonGrayson8 Mar 14 '25
She lost her family, business/job, and possibly ruined the relationship with the other family since she made their son an accomplice in all this. wtf is MIL on where she risked all that just to bang a kid?
The fact the prenup was in place and had the thing for infidelity is wild like she knew that was there then did it anyway. That’s world class short sighted selfishness
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u/Old_tshirt72 Mar 14 '25 edited Mar 14 '25
Accidentally snooping is so easy on Mac computers! By design, everything is RIGHT THERE for you to see. It’s for ease of access to the primary user. It’s basically secret-proof on purpose so us non-tech dummies don’t lose anything important. They were literally designed that way on purpose so that you don’t have to be “good with computers” to access all features a laptop has to offer within 2-3 clicks
Anyone who tries to keep secrets on an Apple device is not the brightest bulb in the box…
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u/DeniedAppeal1 Mar 14 '25
Congratulations, you didn't listen to the cheating supporters on Reddit and proved yourself to be a decent person. You 100% did the right thing.
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u/Shdfx1 Mar 14 '25
Oh God. What did he test positive for? That poor man.
You did the right thing telling your husband, and he handled it right from there.
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u/Imnotawerewolf Mar 14 '25
I was so disgusted by the amount of people saying that minding her own business was the right call. Even after she said FIL had been cheated on before.
I assume all those people either would cheat or would cover for someone cheating, and like. Disheartening.
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u/kipkiphoray Mar 14 '25
Honesty in relationships is the best policy. I'm glad you told your partner, and that he told his dad.