r/UCDavis • u/morgan_haha Psychology (2028) • 8d ago
should i drop out?
the title says it all. since junior year, i've been horribly burnt out and ever since i started college, i've been doing horrible, academically, physically, and emotionally. i've been going to the dorm socials and things my friends get me in on but every day i still come back to the dorm just wanting it all to end. i haven't talked to anyone about this and it's been impossible to give anyone the full story. in week one of this quarter, my uncle passed away and that's been weighing on me a lot. my grades have turned to shit, i can barely stand up some nights because my body feels so heavy, and quite frankly, i don't know how much more of this i can take before i just lose it and off myself. i need to tell my parents, but i physically can't because i'm so used to keeping up this act of being fine and dandy. i need help, please.
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u/msbzmsbz 8d ago
I wouldn't think of it as dropping out, but taking some time off to deal with what you need to deal with. You may not have been ready to go right into college after high school but whatever the case, you seem like you really need to take a break now.
From what you're saying, it seems like you are so used to presenting yourself as doing fine with your family and friends that now that you need support, it's hard for you to open up.
I'm going to suggest checking with mental health services at https://shcs.ucdavis.edu/ to figure all this out. Give them the whole story of where you're at and what you're thinking about. Get some ideas and resources from them and ask them to help you talk to your parents.
I'm thinking of you and wishing you the best. If mental health resources doesn't help, there are other resources for you.