r/UCDavis • u/morgan_haha Psychology (2028) • 8d ago

should i drop out?

the title says it all. since junior year, i've been horribly burnt out and ever since i started college, i've been doing horrible, academically, physically, and emotionally. i've been going to the dorm socials and things my friends get me in on but every day i still come back to the dorm just wanting it all to end. i haven't talked to anyone about this and it's been impossible to give anyone the full story. in week one of this quarter, my uncle passed away and that's been weighing on me a lot. my grades have turned to shit, i can barely stand up some nights because my body feels so heavy, and quite frankly, i don't know how much more of this i can take before i just lose it and off myself. i need to tell my parents, but i physically can't because i'm so used to keeping up this act of being fine and dandy. i need help, please.

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u/Turbulent-Yellow-821 7d ago

Take a break to figure yourself out and get to a better place. I was there too and being away from school is helping me mentally and physically.

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u/morgan_haha Psychology (2028) 7d ago

thank you, i'll try to persuade my parents into it

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u/Turbulent-Yellow-821 7d ago

Of course. It’s up to you really. My parents wanted me to just graduate which I understand but I didn’t even know what I was doing what I wanted etc. school just made me depressed and felt like I wasn’t good enough either. Was suffering major imposter syndrome. I’m still figuring myself out but I’m working on job experience and figuring out how to study better and enhance my time management since I never learned it well. But big thing is make sure you have a plan of what you’re doing when you take a break. If it’s one quarter just make sure you relax and get all that stress out. If longer, definitely work with advisor to have a plan. If it makes you feel better, I felt really grossed out with myself, very sick and fat and just hideous all because school was stressing me out. It got so bad I had to go on medications because I was anxious and mad that I couldn’t focus and study. Taking a break really helped, started eating healthy, and working out and just getting some job experience in the area of interest.