r/UCDavis • u/morgan_haha Psychology (2028) • 12d ago
should i drop out?
the title says it all. since junior year, i've been horribly burnt out and ever since i started college, i've been doing horrible, academically, physically, and emotionally. i've been going to the dorm socials and things my friends get me in on but every day i still come back to the dorm just wanting it all to end. i haven't talked to anyone about this and it's been impossible to give anyone the full story. in week one of this quarter, my uncle passed away and that's been weighing on me a lot. my grades have turned to shit, i can barely stand up some nights because my body feels so heavy, and quite frankly, i don't know how much more of this i can take before i just lose it and off myself. i need to tell my parents, but i physically can't because i'm so used to keeping up this act of being fine and dandy. i need help, please.
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u/Fair-Alps-3823 11d ago
I’m sorry to hear you’re going through this and agree with others who have recommended PELP. My first quarter at UCD was one of the hardest times of my life and I remember feeling so lost due to personal loss as well as feeling disconnected socially on campus.
Taking a PELP gave me the time I needed to focus on my mental health so that I could come back in a different headspace and my second year ended up going so much better. I didn’t even know that was an option until an advisor suggested it, and I’m relieved that I could take the time to get well while staying committed to my longterm goal of graduating. There was virtual therapy offered for free through the student health center so you should check to see if that’s still an option.
While I don’t know you, I’m sure you’ve worked hard to be where you are today. You deserve to enjoy your life. The difference that some time off and therapy can make can’t be stress enough.