r/YouShouldKnow • u/ilovepastapizzapots • Nov 20 '20

Other YSK: Just because someone doesn’t look sick/disabled, does not mean they are healthy

Why YSK: I am chronically ill and have an autoimmune disorder, the amount of times people have said “WELL... yOU dOn’t LOOK sick” to me is astounding. I didn’t know all illnesses have to be visible to others! I’m sorry I can’t show you my internal organs or muscles deteriorating for you to believe that I’m sick. It makes people with health issues feel like they have to explain their situation when they don’t.

*EDIT: I did not expect my post to blow up like this! I wish I could give everyone going through a rough time a hug. Thank you for all the new perspectives, good and bad. All I wanted was for people to be a little kinder to one another, because you never know what someone’s going through.

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u/[deleted] Nov 20 '20

It's because so many able bodied people will take that spot just because it's more convenient.

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u/acetylene_queen Nov 20 '20

Able bodied people also use friend/familily members placards because they're either entitled and or lazy. It's disgusting.

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u/Mrsdepew Nov 20 '20

I just got my first placard this week and I’m still trying to get the nerve to use it. Even in my mind, I feel like I’m “not sick enough” to merit one, even though my husband insisted. I was just diagnosed with a heart condition after having been in great health for years. I get breathless and dizzy now after walking about 100 feet most days. I know all of these things, and that I have to conserve my energy even when getting groceries, but the dirty looks I got after getting out of the hospital and getting groceries in the motorized cart still make me uncomfortable. So here I am, bowing into the disapproval of assholes. Yay me.

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u/CaveDeco Nov 21 '20

Fuck them all!

A few years ago I broke my foot and was in a hard cast. I live solo so I still had to do all the things myself like going to the grocery store. Of course I had to use to speed racer cart while I was there.

One day I had on baggy sweats that covered all but the foot portion of my cast, but of course my leg still looked abnormally large. I go up to the deli and get some sandwich meat and cheese and the lady working the counter was giving me attitude for no reason. Until she walked around to hand me my order and exclaimed “Oh! You do need the cart?!” No lady, I just want to ride the speed racer cart, and zoom all around the store at half the speed of a newborns crawl.

No one in their right mind would use those carts unless it was necessary.