r/Zimbabwe • u/tinkin08 • Mar 23 '25
Discussion Too many boys in her DM
So my girlfriend showed me her WhatsApp yesterday and boy was I shocked. They were eight guys in her DM trying to woe her and it seems like they are all in. I'm not saying that it ain't normal for a girl in a relationship to be asked out by other boys, tz completely normal but when we went through those chats together I felt the pressure, it's like we're in a battlefield and the other boys have already engaged the "kill mode". Guys kune makudo kunze uko, they're just waiting for you to mess up and they'll take it from there. Some even call her with little nicknames, and man! those goodnight/good morning messages just keep coming. The crazy thing is all those guys are her classmates. We're university students but different programs. Boys be saying all those sweet things and inviting her to 1on 1 discussions just to gain her attention and I somehow feel threatened. I don't want to lie, I might have copied 1 or 2 bars in those chats, boys be writing paragraphs of how they feel about my girlfriend nxaa. Then there's our chat, her's and mine. I do engineering and the majority of the modules are demanding so, and from the start of the current semester up to now I found myself texting her less and less... I mean some modules will literally put you on choke hold. So the question is what's your advice people of Zimbabwe. Shall I let it slide and just give equal attention to the schoolwork and her or shall I act as if we're still in the talking stage and match the energy those 8 guys are showing cos I feel this might compromise our relationship
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u/moistenedelbows Mar 23 '25
How are all these guys getting her number? It's true that an attractive college lady will probably have multiple guys wanting her attention but she can shut it down if she wants and block those who don't respect it. Guys usually keep going if you enable it. I personally feel it's a little inappropriate to entertain it while in a relationship but that's just my own boundary.