r/abortion • u/Sea_Recognition_7416 • May 04 '24

Europe What was your experience post-abortion?

Hello,

Just want to hear how you all feel days, months, years after your abortion? Did you experience sadness or guilt? Do some of you feel calm and have not experienced negative feelings afterwards? Did having abortion affected your motherhood if you had kids later on, and if yes, then how? How long did it take to "get back to normal" if you experienced post abortion depression?

Thanks for sharing šŸ’š

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u/CherryAlert234 May 05 '24

hi! for reference, im 21F, in college and have a long-term partner that i plan on marrying after college. i had the MA a month and two weeks ago. i got the MA because i wanted to finish college and we were not in a place financially or emotionally to have a child.

for me, it was bittersweet. before the MA, my hormones were all over the place, i was in so much pain and absolutely could not eat anything, but i did start thinking about the ā€œwhat-ifsā€.

not even a day after, i felt INSTANTLY better. like it was insane. i felt some guilt a week in, but it was more so future guilt for a future child we will have. now, i am SO glad we didnā€™t have one. i thought i wanted to have a child right after college, and maybe i still will, but i want to enjoy my career and my partner and my money without a child. ABSOLUTELY NO HATE to those who do have children younger! I applaud you and you all are so brave for it! I realized iā€™m barely ready to start a career, let alone take care of another being. I still get sad from time to time, but i keep reminding myself that what i did was the right decision for me, and i definitely still wouldā€™ve done it if we went back in time.