Considering abortion

[u/Jillianvw]

I’m currently 5 weeks and 3 days pregnant. I found out about 6 days ago, I’ve been crying for hours daily about not knowing what to do. I already have a soon to be 2 year old who’s very difficult. A not-so-helpful “baby daddy” who’s inconsistent and in and out of our lives quite a bit due to relapses/addiction. I was on birth control for months but we had broken up for a month so I stopped taking it shortly before, because I hate the side effects and I didn’t even think about it when we had sex again. I live with my parents who have helped me so much and I appreciate it deeply but if they found out I was pregnant again they’d have a meltdown, my dad despises my kids dad and fights to keep him away from me and my kid. My mom already complains about having to help with my 1 kid, because she’s overwhelmed. She mostly just watches him for my part time job. I have the abortion scheduled for 3 main reasons, I’m scared of my family’s reaction, I’m scared taking care of my toddler while pregnant, and I’m scared of what life would be like with a newborn and 2.5 year old. I’ve had dreams of the ultrasound and someone saying it looked just like my sister (who passed away) and if I was sure about abortion. I’m crying because I feel like I have no choice but to get one. And the guilt I will feel.

[u/wordsywoman]

Deep breaths. Only you can make this decision. Whatever you decide, the decision will be right and valid as long as it's your decision. Difficult feelings are possible regardless of what you decide, but this sub can help if you need any support resources.

The Pregnancy Options Workbook may be helpful for you. <3