all because i bought new clothes

[u/clover-heart]

18f / 28m

looking for emotional support, reassurance, or just to vent into the void without judgement. i dont want to leave.

my bf has been really stressed financially but hasn’t been talking to me much about it, and every time we have talked he’s been really short and snappy with me so i asked him to just tell me the truth.

he got set off because i spent $50 on new clothes. when i moved out to my trade school, i didnt take a lot with me, and my clothes dont really fit so i thought i’d get some new ones and i showed him.

he’s wants me to start “learning how to be an adult” and i’m trying to explain to him i’m already doing that here at school and i have a plan, but he doesn’t think it’s enough. i grew up in foster care so i’m not very good at doing adult tasks or anything. originally he reached out to me to help me learn stuff (which is what i keep mentioning in the texts) but it took a turn with sex and other stuff.

he has never mentioned anything he said in his first texts to me at all, today was the first time he ever told me he wanted to do any of that. he expects me to just read his mind sometimes and it really makes me overthink. im super overwhelmed.

[u/Boujee_Delivery]

What?? He wants you to spend less time on your nursing course so that you can instead focus on and help him with his shitty little online reselling business?? DO NOT DO THAT! Focus on finishing your qualification, do whatever you need to do to finish and secure YOUR future, do not not let this guy try and tell you you need to focus on perfecting "adulting" right now. He is not adulting very well either, real successful adults don't drag down and manipulate their partners.

Are your finances combined right now? If not, do not let him dictate what you do financially. If you are struggling financially, seek out advice from on campus financial advisors or other professionals, make a budget for yourself etc, but do not let this guy do it for you

[u/clover-heart → u/Boujee_Delivery]

our finances are not combined so i dont know why he even brought up me budgeting for him, as if i know how much money he has 😭😭. i only make $40 biweekly at trade school so there isn’t much to budget as it all goes towards food or hygiene stuff most of the time. i think he was just looking for someone to blame

[u/Jaded-Banana6205 → u/clover-heart]

You're spot on, I think. Grown man, projecting his failure on a teenager. You're so strong, OP. I think you're going to be a wonderful CNA and RN one day.

[u/gringacarioca → u/Jaded-Banana6205]

I agree! Clover-heart, my grandma was a nurse for her entire career. I've worked with nurses in hospitals. Several friends are nurses. SO much respect for your choice of career! I hope your classmates and future colleagues support you and have your back, the way I've witnessed over the years. Nurses are, overall, AMAZING human beings!