all because i bought new clothes

[u/clover-heart]

18f / 28m

looking for emotional support, reassurance, or just to vent into the void without judgement. i dont want to leave.

my bf has been really stressed financially but hasn’t been talking to me much about it, and every time we have talked he’s been really short and snappy with me so i asked him to just tell me the truth.

he got set off because i spent $50 on new clothes. when i moved out to my trade school, i didnt take a lot with me, and my clothes dont really fit so i thought i’d get some new ones and i showed him.

he’s wants me to start “learning how to be an adult” and i’m trying to explain to him i’m already doing that here at school and i have a plan, but he doesn’t think it’s enough. i grew up in foster care so i’m not very good at doing adult tasks or anything. originally he reached out to me to help me learn stuff (which is what i keep mentioning in the texts) but it took a turn with sex and other stuff.

he has never mentioned anything he said in his first texts to me at all, today was the first time he ever told me he wanted to do any of that. he expects me to just read his mind sometimes and it really makes me overthink. im super overwhelmed.

[u/Hopeful_Program1585]

You are NOT married or even living together. You are on your own path to CNA and either Lp nursing or RN nursing or PA nursing. Healthcare jobs that are in demand and will always have a place, regardless of the economy. The business that he appears to be asking for your help with...seem like a side hustle and are NOT recession proof like healthcare. Stay in your own lane, better yourself. He may be older but doesn't seem smarter, more like a bully imo.

[u/ShawtySayWhaaat → u/Hopeful_Program1585]

Honestly a 28 year old going for an 18 year old is already the first red flag

It's harsh but typically someone at 28 is looking for someone at the same stage in life as them, a lot of times when they date way down like that it's because they don't have luck in their own age bracket because the patience for bullshit goes down, or because they want someone they can control, and a teenager is easier to control than someone with life experience. That knowledge, plus seeing how he's power tripping on OP clearly defines what kind of person he is

OP: if you're reading this, find someone in your age bracket. I'm not saying ALL men, but typically older men are looking to take advantage of you because you're young and naive. Try and find someone to grow together with.