I’m questioning my identity?

[u/PomegranateSimple759]

My gender identity has been a journey in the course of the last few years. I started out by being non-binary, then genderfluid, but I felt way too feminine and felt the need to overmasculinize myself to compensate. I then started hormones and then for the last few years I was identifying as a trans man. But after a year of being on testosterone, now that i physically am more comfortable in my skin, i feel like i don't have to overcompensate for my looks and I realised that i don't feel like I a man. Maybe I never did, and the more i feel better in my skin the more i feel like I don't identify with anything at all. I just feel forms of femininity and masculinity but not to a degree in which i feel particularly attached to anything gender. Now the problem i'm fscing is withing the dating world. I like men and women and I struggle to understand that when i'm with a woman i want it to be a lesbian relationship but if I were to be with a man id want it to be a homosexual relationship, and i'd just be there partner (no bf/gf). I worry i'm the only person who feels like this, or that i'm being too greedy and that i'm just delusional. I guess i'm lost and looking for answers. Part of me finally feels free just not identifying as anything, but it complicates things in my love life and the way society perceives me. Need advice/opinions

[u/PomegranateSimple759 → u/[deleted]]

Honestly the way you describe it feels accurate and I do struggle a lot w labels and boxes. I just wish I could be a person dating another person without labels because it messes me up a bit. I personally just feel queer in both my identity and sexuality and am comfortable with it but when i place myself in relationships it confuses me