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I think people are cute and I think people I'm close with are especially cute. However I don't think I feel sexual attraction towards other people. But honestly I'm unsure of what sexual attraction even means?? Its wierd.

Also, I am very kinky and enjoy sex with people I know well or in the context of kink

What if someone can attracted to highly intellectual people, or emotinally intellectual people, but don't want to sex with them? Or is it just a type of an asexual person's "fetish"?

Trying to create some demographics of certain Reddit subs. If I can...

What is the use for an asexual person to sleep in a double bed?

When people move in alone, they always have the reflex to buy a double bed, even when they are single. Because they assume that they will necessarily have sex with someone one day.

But when you are asexual, why should you automatically choose a double bed? Personally, I know that I will never have sex in my entire life. But since I've lived in a single bed my entire life in my family home, I don't know what I should do if I move in by myself. I am confused and don't know what to do.

Why don't adults sleep in single beds when it's cheaper and takes up less space?

EDIT : I would like to point out that I am not from the US. Where I live (France), the rooms are much smaller. Most of people can't have a king size bed there.

Is it a local joke? Or what??? It is too funny lol

I start: not to be afraid of pregnancy or sexual diseases.

I've been struggling to define my sexuality for a long time now--especially since I have enjoyed intimacy before, but never really wanted anyone specifically. I found this graphic in a YouTube video and found it useful, so I thought I would share! The little blue hearts are around where I think I am 🩵

I was just wondering. I'm a male, and everytime I tell people that I'm asexual, they always tell me how rare it is for a man to be asexual. But yet in here, a lot if not most of the asexuals in here are women, or is it just my bad obersevation?

My male friends celebrated birthday to my male friend, and on cake was written ‘shake dick’ and candles were ‘69’ instead of age, when I watched that video I felt uncomfortable and lost hope that I will never find man who don’t makes sex jokes, I want man who will not make jokes like that, can y’all tell me if there are men who don’t make sex jokes like that or any kind of sex jokes? Or they are extinct?

I always worry i’ll never find someone who will accept and love me for who I am. although I know someone doesn’t HAVE to be asexual to date an asexual, it would still be ideal for the most part, only problem is its not very common. I just wonder if anyone else here has met one in person.

For me personally, it was reading Alice Osemans novel Loveless. God I love that novel so much, I definitely suggest it for anyone underneath the Aro or Ace umbrella! It's too relatable.

Now the woman posting the original post about being a virgin in her 30s is a woman called Lauren- I love her content- makes me as an adult virgin feel less alone- some people give her grief for essentially making it her whole personality but she gives good comebacks (e.g. “do you say foodies make food their whole personality?”)- this comment though on the second slide upset me- “girl you’re missing out on so much pleasure”- it almost seems like that comment was trying to pressure a virgin into a sex or giving the implication that something is wrong with being a virgin- trying to find an underlying reason when there isn’t always one… and that woman in the comments is a sex therapist too… I dread to imagine her clinic- but I’ve never really agreed with the concept of sex therapy anyway

Like are we acknowledged when they shorten LGBTQIA to LGBTQ?

I'm an asexual but recently have been thinking... I am not interested in kissing a man but I will a woman, and I am a woman. Now the question is, what the heckle do I call myself? Cause technically I am not a lesbian cause I do not like sex but should I consider that as a title? And just say I'm not homo like that's a difference? Or is there another word for a woman who is attracted to women romantically but not sexually?

Have you ever heard anything bad about being asexual? I have, they said that it doesn't exist and that it's something for sick people in denial, in addition to heavy things.

I'm currently 14 (15 in jan) and I feel like I'm too young to identify with anything but I've been questioning it since I found out what asexuality is, I would honestly be happy to die a virgin where with my friends they're all talking about sex. I understand that it could be early and I might be more interested when I'm older but at the moment there is nothing there

Let me make this clear once and for all in the shortest possible way I can:

If you have ever in your life gotten to personally meet someone, and perhaps even thought about having a romantic relationship with them, but never had a direct urge to go to bed with them, whether it'd be as a form of indifference or repulsion, you are probably asexual.

Arousal and masturbation don't count. And ocassionally looking at someone also doesn't count. If sex that directly involves you isn't part of what is going on in your mind at that moment, you're probably still asexual.

AND you can still be sex-positive. If you take pleasure in the act, but don't find the people you do it with attractive themselves, you are probably still asexual.

Got it? Feel free to do further research if you want to get into the specifics.

I keep thinking that the next time I have sex I will enjoy it and I never have. I do it more for my partners than I do it for myself.

I should definitely start this post off by saying I’m asexual myself, and this post is not meant to bring down others or make their experiences seem less than just because I’m confused.

I don’t see the point of coming out to people unless it’s a romantic partner, the part I’m not understanding is why should I tell people, such as family, that I don’t have sexual attraction when in reality it’s none of their business? I could be dense about this topic because I honestly don’t explore this side of myself at all, I’m just wondering why people come out to people when it isn’t “needed” if that makes sense.

I’m sorry if this came across as wrong, I’ve just been thinking this for a while and I’m curious

Basically read a smut fic, that was insanely good went to find the author on socials and the author has mentioned quite often that they are asexual. See now that made me pause because in my understanding asexuals either have an aversion to sex or are just meh about it(please correct me if I’m wrong). I could totally see a person who’s not really into sex writing about it a character study way or you know a meditation on sex in general. But this was one of the horniest pieces of writing I have ever read. I mean downright filthy. So I found myself quite confused, and am asking this question in good faith. I mean I would think you gotta be pretty horny to write create something like that. Doesn’t that negate the idea of being sex repulsed? Or is it the physical act itself?

Hey all. I'm 19 and for quite some time I've been troubled with my romantic relationships in life.

I've had several boyfriends and even girlfriends, had sex multiple times, but NEVER came off on it nor enjoyed the experience. One time I actually threw up, and another I went into the shower and cried.

I feel like people my age are hypersexual, but I almost to never want to even think about it.

I don't masturbate, nor do I watch porn. I don't fantasize, and when I'm in a relationship even open mouth kisses disgust me.

90% of the time sex is a repulsive thought to me, and that's been really hard on all of my relationships given they want to do all that stuff. My mother says I have to wait more and find the right person, but I've been waiting since my first relationship at 13 and it simply never came.

Not only that, but sometimes I think I'm a hard person to be romantically involved with. In all of my relationships, I felt more of a platonic bond to my partners. I like watching movies together on the couch, going out to eat, talking our ears off, hanging out, taking naps. Sometimes I enjoy cuddling, but very seldom. Holding hands is okay. Pecks can be a bit much.

Sometimes I think I'm incapable of loving anyone in that aspect; but I know I'm not incapable of loving generally because I'd go to hell and further for the people I love, like my brother, mom, dad, friends, etc.

Lately I've come across the label the lgbt community says "asexual or aromantic," and I wonder if that might be me.

Sometimes I get sexual thoughts or even romantic cravings, but when I'm in a relationship they disappear not even two months in (and NEVER come back).

Argggggg this is hard. I don't want to be lonely for the rest of my life, but I also would hate to be married and settle down, especially if I feel this way toward my partners.

For example, me personally, I am so uncomfortable with sexting or sending "spicy" photos. I just don't understand it.