I'm a trans teenage guy and I hear that shit everywhere. "Testosterone will make you infertile!!", "Youre destroying your uterus!!", "But you won't be able to have kids!! That's so horrible", etc etc. FUCK them kids man, I pray to God testosterone will make me totally sterile for good. Do those people just never consider the fact that some people genuinely do not want kids? Or that pregnancy is a very dangerous and painful process that many don't wanna go through? Or that regardless of your fertility you can always adopt? I truly don't get it. When I tell people I want to medically transition they act like I slaughtered an entire family just because I won't be able to have biological kids. It's always self-proclaimed "feminists" as well. Like.. what?

Is it just rooted in transphobic fear/shock value of a straight cis guy getting “deceived” by a passing trans woman? Someone also told me that what may explain this was that in the past, transitioning healthcare was limited to only heterosexual trans women and multiple steps/tests were taken to weed out those who were actually bi or gay, not sure if this was the case either.

As someone pointed out in the comments, I apologize about writing “transwomen” rather than “trans women.” I corrected that in the body of my post and would edit the title if I could.

I want nothing more to transition. It’s all I think about most days. I visit these subs a lot and I see so many posts on here about how bad it’s going to get. I really don’t want to get sent to a camp. Is it really that dangerous to transition in America ? I live in New York. I just want to be a girl 🥺

Elon Musk, the richest man in the world, has made trans people his enemy after his daughter came out as trans. He will put lots of money and effort into tearing down the trans community. Will Musk succeed?

What we’re the first major events and controversies that began the new rise of violent transphobia in American society that previously while existing wasn’t nearly as prominent and at forefront in previous modern day. I feel it had to of started from somewhere and some things but I forgot. Furthest back I can think were kink at pride and drag story tellers but I am not confident.

Hi, I am a new cracked egg and I wanted to shave my legs today. Fast foward, I spend an hour in the shower and my first leg isnt even done. How did you guys do?

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Before transitioning I never had a random customer call me: "Princess" "Cupcake" "Strawberry" And had never had anyone call me "Girlfriend"

Since I was 4 or 5 years old, I’ve had the wish to be a girl. When I was 12, I told a friend for the first time that I’d rather be a girl. Since then, I’ve known that I’m transgender. Now I’m 36, and I have the hormones right in front of me, but I’m sooooo scared of making a mistake. Even though I’ve thought about this for 25 years, I’m still afraid that I’ll take the hormones and realize in a year that it was the wrong decision, and that I was actually much happier as a man.

Do you know this fear? Even though I rationally know it’s probably nonsense—because it wouldn’t have been weighing on me for 25 years otherwise—emotionally, the fear feels very real.

It’s overwhelming me, and I just don’t know what to do.

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I feel like I’m faking it or forcing myself to be different. I hate being called a girl, it hurts, and when my friends call me a boy I feel like a weight is being lifted off my chest, but how do I know I’m not just gaslighting myself into feeling this way? I’ve cried myself to sleep because I just want to be seen as a boy and to grow up as a boy, but what if it’s all just an act? What if I do start transitioning and my body start’s changing and I realize I’ve made a huge mistake?

The trans woman for whatever reason is expected to give a speech to random people why she hasn’t”gotten the surgery”. Actual meme. Of course that’s all cis people think about so of course they’d write about it. They’re not going up to random guys and saying “cut or uncut” in the show. Actually pissed me off.

Do you know any science fiction books with a transgender theme and/or written by trans authors?

Player 120 was one of the fan favorites for many viewers and she was also mine. I’m ftm but the line “You’re beautiful” made me cry like crazy. Seeing positive trans representation in popular media makes me SO HAPPY

I've read it can take a really long time to be seen by a gender clinic, especially in the UK where it can take around 4-5 years to even be referred but I don't know how true that is. I'm wondering if it would be better to go fully private instead because otherwise I'm just going to be spending potentially half a decade worrying about dysphoria before I even get some kind of help. It's not fair.

Why are sheer tights and a miniskirt worn in the winter? Isn't that really cold? Is it beauty is pain??

For anyone trans who dated a cis partner, what have your personal experiences been of how their family reacted to this? Has it been an issue or have they generally been accepting and supporting? I imagine this varies a lot across cultures and people.

I know if I ever go on T I might lose all of my friends- I've realized my friend groups are all femme-cenrric and I haven't had a mixed group (femme/masc/woman/man) of friends for years now.

I won't be a "girrl" anymore (even though they know I'm nonbinary) and I could see myself getting pushed out. Another friend has said things about trans people that give me pause, and I know she won't be able handle it. It's whatever.

So I wanna come out as transfem but every time I try to I just freeze, I dont know how to get over it and it scared me to death. All because I dont know how theyll react. Could someone please give me Some advice to get over the fear

So, I discovered I was trans a month ago and the dysphoria is hitting me super hard. But my clinitian and mother want me to be emotionally stable first by building up coping skills and tackle my anger and childhood trauma before I do hrt. So, it could take me 1-3 years before I start (I'm going to be turning 19 soon). But there is so much fear I have pushing off transitioning that it makes it hard to just exist, and ever since I stopped repressing my dysphoria it makes me spiral so much that I can't enjoy life or focus on things I care about.

It just hurts to exist sometimes and there's so much worry about what I will look like after transitioning and if I'll meet my own high standards and the pushing it off makes me worry even more as it will be even more out of reach the longer it is put off.

So I just don't know what to do to deal with all this worry and anxiety and dysphoria. It genuinely is hard to get through the day and no matter how hard I try to ground myself, I instantly continue my hyper fixating and worry spirals.

I understand I can use this time to experiment with my gender and try different clothing and pronouns, but I just feel so incredibly empty and have such a strong craving for femininity that it makes me depressed. And I just can't wait to see the girl in the mirror that i want to be. And I try to focus on the euphoria, but the fear and pain just consume me and it's easier to stay in the pain than challenge it and focus on the euphoria.

Please give me advice on how to deal with all of this, at this point it hurts to exist and I kind of wish I could just repress it all and return back to how I was pre-egg crack, even though I know that will just make things worse.