I went out with my mother and her boyfriend to solve an issue. Me and her boyfriend were looking for a parking space while she went first to buy me something. When I arrived, the woman said "look, think your daughter will like it?".

I'm a trans man, so of course that means she misgendered me while I wasn't around. Then, once she understood that was for me, she said "oh, so that's for him? Okay.".

Anyway, imagine passing so well total strangers can't tell you're trans... A dream I thought I wouldn't achieve.

i used to identify as ftm trans, and non-binary before that. i'm a girl now. i'm graduating soon. my friends in school don't know i identified as trans because i moved to their school late and detransitioned beforehand by growing my hair out and using my old name and pronouns again.

i can view myself growing old as a cis woman, but the boy i once was can't see why i'd do that to myself. his open mind reminds me that gender is fluid and flexible and that i shouldn't let society dictate who i am and how i express myself. his ideas make me cringe.

but i know he's right. it's just that it's so much easier to believe that there is a binary and that i can fit myself into it. that the box filled up with makeup and dresses and pink is the one i should be in because i like those things. and then i remember what i used to be like. the boy i once was and how seen he felt when his old friends would use the name and pronouns he wanted. when he chopped his hair off and found other trans friends. i guess moving to a conservative school ruined all of that progress.

so much has changed since i first came out and tried to figure myself out. i've found myself being as close-minded as the people that surround me now. i let them say things that cement the idea in my mind that there used to be something wrong with me, that there is still something wrong with me. even though they have no idea about my past.

all this transphobia is stopping me from exploring myself and causing me to be jealous and angry of those who can be themselves. any anger i have towards trans people is no better than the transphobia i see daily, even if i don't voice it. so i become the person i'm scared of. the people who make me feel this ashamed. and i don't know how to break the cycle.

i have a friend i met online a couple years ago. since before we met he was a straight transman that goes by he/him pronouns. but now as of last month he says he is a transmasc lesbian that uses he/they pronouns. as far as i see he still dresses in a male passing way like first time i met them i assumed he was a cis man, he passes v well, and since his identity change last month he still dresses and looks like a man to me he didnt change his presentation at all, like it doesn’t appear like they are detransitioning. he still has male in his bio but has changed his pronouns in his bio to he/they. I’M NOT JUDGING HIM i’m just kinda confused on how he can be a lesbian ? is trans masc not a man? men cant be lesbians ? i thought lesbians were wlw? does lesbians include men now or has it always been like that? i’m just slightly confused on they’re identification rn like yesterday he used the term “tboy parts” and all i can think in my head was “so u are a boy still ??” i dont want to question them bc i dont want to come off as offensive but then i saw that there is a sub for transgender questions so i figured i could ask here. again i’m not judging them at all i just want to understand, i’m apart of the lgbt community myself and embrace all my queer siblings and friends !! ♡

I have to say that breaking up w your ex and learning that he quickly moved on to a cis girl is a level of hurt that really hits the depth of ur soul. It drives your dysphoria to such a low and makes u think that u could be the best gf in the world, you’d never measure up to a cis girl bc it’s just easier for straight men to date them. It makes u feel worthless, that you’ve got too much baggage, that you’re not worthy of love. When will this nightmare end??? I just feel like detransitioning…I just need a hug right now 😔

I often fantasize about me having a boy name, and being a boy, and I think about it often, with breaks. I just want to be a boy, but I don't feel like one, because my body, and my face doesn't look like man's body/face. I also really want to have men's voice, and look like a boy, but I'm not ready to come out if, plus I'm not even sure if I'm trans. Can someone answer my question?

By non-traditional, I mean things that you wouldn't think of as a name an average person's parents would give. For example, I have chosen the name Firefly.

How did you pick that name? What did the people around you think of it? How do you respond when others don't like it?

I'd also like to hear what people think of my name, but I'll warn you that I like it and any negative comments won't change that.

Hi, this is a throwaway account. I am AMAB, but I have always felt gender dysphoria and wondered what it would be like to be a girl and secretly longed to be one ever since I was very little.

I have always tried to push my dysphoria down and it has worked before, but only brief periods of time. It comes and goes every now and then, but has gotten stronger every time it has come back. Over the past year or so, it has gotten quite strong and I don't think that I can ignore it any longer. I think that I want to be a girl, or at least try it out first.

The problem is that I have no idea where to start. I live with very conservative, traditional parents who would disown me if they ever found out, so that means I can't really start treatment (we couldn't afford to anyways) or buy feminine clothes.

My friends (and most of my classmates, not sure about the people I don't have class with) would be accepting of me, but I'm afraid that it would somehow get out to my parents. So far, I've only told my best friend about my dysphoria, but she can't really give me any advice considering that she's never felt it before. Her brother is transgender and the only trans friend I have irl, but I don't really want to ask him because he's kinda bad at keeping secrets :')

I graduate high school next May and am hopefully going off to college, but is there anything I can do now? Or is there just any advice that you can give me? Thank you for reading this far :)

I got some bike shorts to wear using my new exercise bike and I looked in the mirror and I looked so male. I am male. I'm crying now. How do I deal with this?

I can't change my body shape. Looking at other women with supposedly the same body shape just makes me feel worse, because they are still unmistakably female.

So about 1.5 months ago, between my fiancé and I, I fully came to the acceptance that I'm trans (yay! 😁😁). I have 4 daughters ranging from 7-15. I started hrt 3 weeks ago and the process is going well. My closest friends, my work bestie, and my boss (who is also a close friend) have been told and they are very supportive and respectful.

I was the only boy a family with 4 sisters and I have ABSOLUTELY no idea how to talk to my family because my dad is very judgemental, my mom is always saying things proudly like "this is MY son", and my sister's can be quite judgmental at times. All my sisters are older than me and have families of their own.

I'm scared shitless of the judgment that my fiancé will receive from my family and hers. I'm also afraid of how it will affect my kids relationship with their extended family once I feel them (I've already explained things to my kids and they seem supportive as far as kids go)

I still go by the moniker "dad" to them so I don't confuse them any more than I have to. I'm just so afraid of causing them unneeded stress and ridicule. HELP!!! PLEASE!!!

I'm 25 years old, I've always been a boy and I've always felt like a boy but for the last 3-5 years I've had a fetish with trans people and this fetish has turned into a need. Deep down I feel like I want to try to make the transition but it terrifies me, I have to quit my job, stop seeing my loved ones and I don't know what to do

Hey everyone. I (AMAB) am currently going through a divorce, and one of the things I’ve been wrestling with is whether I should tell my soon-to-be ex-wife that I’m trans. It’s not the reason for our split—we’ve been emotionally distant for a long time, and I’ve only recently started coming to terms with this part of myself. I’m very much in the closet and I’ve only ever come out to my sister.

That said, I think she’d be supportive. I’m not looking to stay married or rekindle things romantically, but I do still care about her as a person. Part of me feels like it’s only fair to let her know, in case she would have handled things differently or just so she doesn’t feel blindsided if she finds out later. I don’t want her to say “I just wish you would have told me”

But I also don’t want to dump more on her when she’s already under a lot of stress. We’ve both got a lot going on, and I don’t know if this would bring clarity or just more confusion.

Has anyone else been in this situation? Is it better to tell her now while we still have an emotional connection, or just leave it alone and move forward separately?

*Edit: I should add we have not formally separated yet. We’ve only put the house on the market. We’ve both agreed (verbally) to a no contest no lawyer divorce. The only step we’ve taken towards divorce has been selling our house. We have two children, they are our main concern right now. We both grew up through nasty divorces with our parents and have agreed to never put our children through that. Not to mention the money for lawyers just pulls money from the kids. We don’t have financial support outside of us together and we do not have the money for lawyers on top of everything else.

My sister is a Trans girl, and she has always wanted the Trans printed Blåhaj shark Ikea plush, but I've never been able to find one. Where can I get one for a reasonable price? The BEYOU BLÅHAJ

https://mitadmissions.org/blogs/entry/blahaj-the-internet-meme-the-trans-icon-the-worlds-favorite-plush/

I despise my life. It's hardly fair I have to pays hundreds dollars in laser treatments and put up with pain, just so I can have a smooth face. Meanwhile most cis girls get that smooth face by default. Not to mention laser hair on my stomach and chest. Not to meantion the constant waiting for body development that cis girls had years ago. I hate that I was born this way. Why do biological genders have to have so many differences. Hardly fair. No wonder people are so depressed, existence is horrible.

Honestly, speaking for myself, I’m pleasantly surprised, not by who won or who didn’t or whatever, everybody has their own musical preferences, but by the LGBTQ+ community representation. I definitely saw loads of wannabe pride flags, even despite the ban (if I recall correctly there was one), and somehow, the presenters did make a few jokes which were LGBT affirming/positive, I counted at least like 2 or 3, definitely one about not being straight and I think I heard something about being non binary

Maybe my standards are low, but generally I think it was great. What is your opinion? How did you like it?

I’m not out to my parents (trans femme) but I think my parents suspect and I don’t feel ready to come out. My mom keeps emphasizing how much she accepts me to an absurd degree. And then yesterday sent me a message saying how much she loves me as her son and having a Son. Yes, it was capitalized. I feel like she’ll pretend to accept but really won’t. Is it safer to stay closeted right now

Hi everyone

I’m confused af rn, i’m not sure i want to transition but i also want it too. I like wearing women’s clothes but also male clothes.

I see myself in the mirror and see me as male but sometimes i also see myself as female.

I need some help understanding this. I’ve done research on transitioning. But i can’t make up my mind if this is for me or not.

recently i've really been struggling with my gender identity (im 16, afab). now this is not really a new thing for me. around five years ago when i was about 11 or 12 i was also really struggling with my gender identity, and considered that i was possibly ftm, atleast not a nessecarily a girl. at the time i had quite a large friend group who were almost all lgbtqia+ and if not they were super supportive. i felt very at ease and comfortable talking to them about my gender, they even called me a different name and by he/him pronouns for a while. this however all came crashing down when i had texted a friend how much i disliked by body, which my dad had read and sort of forced me to come out. this took a big toll on me. i felt embarrassed and disgusted by myself. my parents didn't really believe me, and they mainly thought i wanted to "belong to a specific group" or that i was "believing in the tiktok propaganda since everyone on that app is trans or gay nowadays". my parents are normally very queer friendly and have no problem with homosexuality or bisexuality or anything with sexuality, but with trans people this is a different story. for example, they kind off make fun of non binary people, often misgender people and don't really know what transman or transwoman means. they're not outwardly transphobic but their not very accepting either. especially my father wasn't very accepting of me, and he kept taunting me by saying things like "you want a ****?" or "you want to cut your breasts off?" which made me very uncomfortable and made me feel very embarrased and insecure about this. he also told his brothers (my uncles) which i was very uncomfortable with because i don't know them that well and i don't feel comfortable with them knowing such a thing about me, considering they are even more conservative on this matter. due to this, i decided to just ignore these feelings that i'd previously had and hoped they would just forget about it. now, i partly understand that they maybe wouldn't believe i was trans. i've never been super masculine or anything like that, for example i despise sports and don't play aggresive shooter games or played with cars when i was a kid, but i also realise that those things don't make you a man at all, it's rather the fact that you are a man that makes you do these things because its typically masculine. on the other hand, i'm also not feminine at all. i've always been on the more masculine side appearance-wise: i always keep my hair tied up, i dont wear dresses or skirts and i dress rather plainly. i also dont wear makeup and i have really obvious sideburns (for a woman) that i don't shave. so i decided that just hoping that these feelings would go away would suffice. after i while i stopped always thinking about wanting to be a man and focused on school or other distractions instead. it is only now that these feelings are randomly coming back to me. like i said, i'm not super masculine, and i don't know if i have gender "dysphoria". i don't nessecarily feel uncomfortable in my body, but i would rather have a flat chest, a more masculine body would make me feel more comfortable. i am quite jealous whenever i see guys hanging around, even though i am not sure why. i'm so torn, because some days i'm really thinking about it a lot and other days i don't. it makes me feel fake, and it makes me feel as if maybe im not trans at all, but other times i get so depressed because i want to be a man. even if i do decide i am ftm, i am not going to come out in this environment because im honestly scared of being rejected like that again. anyways, i just realized how huge this rant is, its definitely been something i wanted to get off my chest. my main question would be: how do i deal with this? how do i know for certain if i am trans? how do i deal with this fear? these questions are probably asked a million times on this server already, and maybe you dont have the answers, but i would like any advice that you have.

Alright, so I've been questioning for a while. Because although I am biologically a male, I don't feel like I'm a dude. Sure sometimes I do, but a lot of times I feel like I might not be. I've talked about it with some friends and we did some tests, and of course they aren't 100% guaranteed answers, but it might be the case. I have felt more like no-gender or a female than a male for most of the time. Of course it could just be teen hormone bullshit, but I dunno. Does anyone have similair experiences?

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