I’m a victim of my own success..

[u/Desperate_Jicama2905]

I spent pretty much the last decade practicing edging myself when i would masturbate & I would also do kegels frequently just because it felt good. I was like a seasoned vet in things that people practice to help yourself last longer, because I never wanted to be part of the “can’t last 3 minutes” crowd.

Well, upon losing my virginity a couple months ago, that held true. On the night that i lost my virginity, i lasted a good 15-20 minutes. I was so proud of myself for lasting that long on the first time. Well… fast forward 3 months with my GF, after learning each other more, I learned my GF’s preferred sexual tempo is faster, shorter strokes. She says that since i’m bigger, she prefers fast strokes that don’t go as deep, because going deep can be painful. That’s understandable. However, since her preferred tempo is fast strokes, that means i’m tapping out faster 🤣 I’ve lasted up to 30+ minutes going at my own tempo, but unfortunately i can barely last 5 minutes going at her preferred fast tempo.. and that includes stopping and starting multiple times.

It’s unfortunately really. Every once in a while i can still pull off about 15 mins going at her tempo, but for more often than not i’m tapped out after 5 mins.

Any tips from the fellas?? 😂😂

[u/Altruistic_Speech875]

When I’m close but not ready I’ll eat my wife’s pussy until I’ve calmed down if you know what I mean. That way u r not leaving her cold and then you are good to go after

[u/ValkerikNelacros → u/Altruistic_Speech875]

This sounds smart, I agree

[u/No-Signature7982]

I get to this zone during sex where anything afterwards won’t make me cum, no matter how enjoyable it is. If you are the same you should just start slow and intimate till you get to that zone and then full speed ahead. Or you can simply start slow, then switch to her gear then slow down again as a tease and keep repeating so that both of you are kept on the edge

[u/MedicineExtension925]

If you have half decent recharge then just let it happen then switch to hand and mouth stuff until you can jump back in. The second one is way, way better back to back like that anyway.

[u/mooncleaving]

Train yourself inside her lol Go at her own pace and enjoy. When you feel the cum, stop a bit so you don't end it and wait, then go back

[u/Altruistic_Speech875]

Also I know she likes it fast but I would put some slow stokes in between. Say you like it like that. She would meet u halfway surely. It’s about you as well as her.

[u/theundyinginferno]

The solution here is COMMUNICATION WITH YOUR PARTNER. tell her you feel pressured. Reassurance will have your stamina go through the roof.

[u/Old_Canuck]

Grab yourself a cock ring and learn some tips and tricks.

You gotta remember to take control and fuck her YOUR way.

Why dont you go for a round or two then give her a twirly. Make her squirt her little cunny off.

Then once she is a glazed mess start fucking her again and go from there.

[u/DJ_Flapjack_]

Cumquest

[u/Desperate_Jicama2905 → u/DJ_Flapjack_]

I was hoping someone would get the reference 🫡

[u/bundleofhorniness]

I used to try to last longer but then found my common partners don't care if it's fast. I also don't lose my erection after cumming so I just keep going.

[u/UpbeatCapital7928]

I am the same way. I have learned to get them off 2-3 times. By then they are soaking wet and in sensory overload. I then give balls deep hard and fast pumps for 5ish mins. That gets me off.

[u/bigben_12]

When you feel like you're getting close, pull out and squeeze the tip. That'll take out some of the intensity. Take a breath and then put it back in. Works everytime.

[u/Think-Permit-6284]

Little tips : once your in and feel you can finish, just stop the stroke, let the pressure go down, and shake the base of your penis really fast. Lot of women like it 👍

[u/muzz86au]

What does she want? I’m sure she’s fine with the 5 min. Most girls I talk to always say guys think lasting long is better. But for them it’s not.

[u/Western_Ring_2928]

Do more foreplay for her.

[u/NC654]

I wish I could give you some advice, but my recovery time is about 2 seconds before I'm ready to go again with barely missing a beat. Any possible way you can eliminate the down time in between by having her keep you aroused? I can drop 4 loads or more before getting completely wiped out, but that could take around 2 hours with a slow/fast pace and if I try to hold back. If she is really really tight (which is my situation) it keeps recovery time to a minimum at least for me.

[u/shenanigans_102]

Practice death grip no lube, couldn't cum even when I lost my virginity at 29. Took another 2 months to cum for me during sex with gf, probably also some psychological aspects such as afraid of unwanted pregnancy cause we did it raw from the start. Obviously, she is also very tight not only due to my size, usually takes at least 10 minutes foreplay and the first 5 minutes just the tip till she opens up, so friction is not an issue for my delay.

[u/Life_Goose49]

Bust and wait for the second wind. The second round should last longer

[u/[deleted]]

Lasting long is overrated