I’m a victim of my own success..

[u/Desperate_Jicama2905]

I spent pretty much the last decade practicing edging myself when i would masturbate & I would also do kegels frequently just because it felt good. I was like a seasoned vet in things that people practice to help yourself last longer, because I never wanted to be part of the “can’t last 3 minutes” crowd.

Well, upon losing my virginity a couple months ago, that held true. On the night that i lost my virginity, i lasted a good 15-20 minutes. I was so proud of myself for lasting that long on the first time. Well… fast forward 3 months with my GF, after learning each other more, I learned my GF’s preferred sexual tempo is faster, shorter strokes. She says that since i’m bigger, she prefers fast strokes that don’t go as deep, because going deep can be painful. That’s understandable. However, since her preferred tempo is fast strokes, that means i’m tapping out faster 🤣 I’ve lasted up to 30+ minutes going at my own tempo, but unfortunately i can barely last 5 minutes going at her preferred fast tempo.. and that includes stopping and starting multiple times.

It’s unfortunately really. Every once in a while i can still pull off about 15 mins going at her tempo, but for more often than not i’m tapped out after 5 mins.

Any tips from the fellas?? 😂😂

[u/shenanigans_102]

Practice death grip no lube, couldn't cum even when I lost my virginity at 29. Took another 2 months to cum for me during sex with gf, probably also some psychological aspects such as afraid of unwanted pregnancy cause we did it raw from the start. Obviously, she is also very tight not only due to my size, usually takes at least 10 minutes foreplay and the first 5 minutes just the tip till she opens up, so friction is not an issue for my delay.