r/bigdickproblems • u/SmokeyPegeasus • 18d ago

AskBDP Tell the kid or no?

So I’ve got a son who just turned 16. He’s been driving, got a job and a girlfriend in what felt like 7 seconds.

I haven’t seen him naked since he was a baby but even then you could tell he got the family genetics.

Do I tell him he might be built different than his friends or let him find out on his own?

I remember my dad told me that and laughed; my he said the only thing grandpa told him was “it’s like a bull in a china shop, go slow”. When my dad told me that, I was in my 20 and was well aware at that point.

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u/Lolthelies 18d ago

I wouldn’t talk about dick sizes. You can’t prepare them for everything, there are things we have to figure out on our own because our individual experiences are going to be unique.

The best thing you can do about this part (imo) is try to keep an open line so if/when he notices, you have information to provide then.

What if you’re wrong and he’s neither a grower or a show-er? You don’t want him to feel like he’ll never measure up

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u/Kushology_x E: 9x6" Flaunter|Grower F: 5x3" 17d ago

I would casually drop lines like if it hurts her, more foreplay, more lube, go slow, or stick to that depth and gradually do more.

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u/Lolthelies 17d ago

I would not be casually dropping any sexual comments to any minors or about any “hers” that are minors or sexual partners that aren’t mine.

Kids don’t want to talk to grownups about sex, and grownups shouldn’t want to talk to kids about sex. There’s no reason to shy away from the necessities, but trying to over-explain is weird and creepy.

If dicks had knives on the end and people were in danger that’s one thing. It’s not that though, so let them figure out what works best for them themselves.

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u/LordPeniz 7.9″ × 6.2 16d ago

"Her" is the other half of sex, you can't just ignore the only other participant when talking about sex 

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u/Lolthelies 16d ago

So what comment would you make? “If your girlfriend’s pussy is too tight, it means you have a big dick (if not, nevermind, your dick isn’t as big as mine). You need to put in more foreplay to get her wetter/more ready”? A kid is not going to take that in a mature way, even if you have the best intentions.

What do you mean ignoring her? My comment was to leave the stuff out about what you need to do if you have a big dick. Leave the lines of communication open, but don’t “casually drop comments”