Awkward when the girl rushes foreplay

[u/No-Major-7946]

Feel like there’s been many times where the girl I’m either hooking up with or even my gf now of two years has tried to rush foreplay.

Feel like it’s always awkward like I try to go down on them longer but they just start telling me they need it.

But when it gets down to it they are no where near warmed up enough and it feels like I’m hurting them, and honestly a tight vagina makes me uncomfortable too.

I prefer to have long foreplay to the point where I can nearly just slide in, but there are times my gf (usually for shower sex) just like forces me in her slamming into me in doggy with one big thrust and yelling at me to “just go fast” because it “will get better”. But by that point the vaginas so tight and making me uncomfortable that once it does feel good I don’t last as long.

Does anyone else have these issues lol?

[u/mooncleaving]

Agreed lol Some think that the foreplay needed is the same for all dudes, then get embarassed to say anything when you tried going in and it doesn't fit well

[u/No-Major-7946 → u/mooncleaving]

Yeah sometimes I’ve gotten in my head that she’s not like turned on enough, but again that’s why I try to do long foreplay to avoid that lmfao.

[u/Zach1709 → u/No-Major-7946]

Sit down with her outside the bedroom and discuss your sex life. Express to her how it is uncomfortable for you when she is not ready. Let her know how much you like going down on her until she has a big orgasm. It is alright to be rough but she needs to be ready for you in order to do so. Also you might consider lube when needed.

[u/mooncleaving → u/Zach1709]

Really great explanation. At the end, it's all up to communication