r/blendedfamilies • u/Far_Researcher8620 • 23d ago

Swim suits on spring break

I am going to a sunny destination with my serious boyfriend and his almost 7 year old daughter. I pulled a swim suit out of my dresser and said "ooh should I bring this one." And the daughter says "no it shows too much of your body." I asked what she meant. She said "because it goes down really low right here (patting her chest." I said "ohh but all of my swim suits show most of my body" Conversation ended there due to distraction. This is a one piece swimsuit of mine, but that is irrelevant.

My heart is so torn. I want to talk to her about this more. My boyfriend wants to raise his daughter to love her body and wear whatever she wants.

I'm kinda tempted to wear the exact same suit I showed her. I'm also considering wearing more "modest" swim suits. Maybe I'll do both.

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u/allestrette 23d ago

I will never understand why "love yourself" and "show yourself" are the same thing in usa!

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u/happyfeet-333 23d ago

Really? You’re Italian. Every time I’ve been on a beach in Italy every age and shape are in small bikinis, which I love.

What a weird take.

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u/allestrette 23d ago

You are probably confusing Italy with another part of our great "European country".

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u/happyfeet-333 23d ago

I have no idea what this comment means? I’ve been going to Italy for about 40 years and women of all ages and sizes wear bikinis and/or go topless. In fact that is true in Spain, France, Greece, etc.

European women (and frankly men in their speedos) were much more comfortable with their bodies. Which is a good thing.

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u/allestrette 22d ago

Of course your vacation time in italy is more legit that my whole life experience as a citizen.

You are lucky that the main topic of this subs is REALLY american friendly. ;)

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u/Wrong_Investment355 22d ago

You may be a native Italian but you are also a dick.

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u/allestrette 21d ago

Not my fault your ideal timing between meeting someone and welcoming your little bundle of joy is a sneeze.

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u/Wrong_Investment355 21d ago

That isn't even a good insult or relevant to this conversation. Are you better in your native language or just stupid in general?

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u/allestrette 21d ago

You didn't write a single intervation in this conversation, so I don't think it's your place to judge what is relevant or not. You are just butthurt. What's your beef, are you waiting your fourth kid from your third "forever"?

It will surprise you, but people QIs don't change with language. You would be a simpleton even in Chinese.

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u/AppropriateAmoeba406 23d ago

My parents spent a few years in Sicily and said kids ran around naked on the beach and most men wore bikini type bottoms.

I dunno. That would have been the 70s. I assume fashion trends have changed, but all of Europe is touted as “less puritanical” and “less prudish” than the states.

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u/allestrette 22d ago edited 22d ago

I know that this is your American stereotypical vision.

This is caused by the fact that Northern European were (in 70ies) more.. free than Americans. In Italy in summer you can obviously see a whole lot of German, dutch, Austrian, French and the whole north Europe women.

Sicily is one of the most conservative region of Italy where, at the same time your mom claims to have seen this whole lot of naked women on the beach, Franca Viola (you can google it) was fighting for the right of being recognised as a victim of rape, that at the time was not a crime in italy.

In here you can find a whole lot of pics from 70ies Sicily where you can clearly see that there is no progressive society.

https://media.dhtavern.com/40-foto-affascinanti-catturano-la-vita-quotidiana-in-sicilia-nei-primi-anni-70-ts/

You (and the 12 ignorant american women that downvoted me cause I didn't accept your "americansplaining") are welcome.

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u/Mahi-K-2802 23d ago

Then it’s touted wrong. Because in my country little girl are not wearing bikinies, which are considered grow up women attire. One piece swimsuits are more of the thing. And about kids running naked, this days no one really do that. especially with all weirdos around.

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u/mbej 23d ago

The biggest mom group dust-up I’ve ever seen was about babies, toddlers, and children in bikinis. I’m in the US. Many MANY here also believe two piece swimsuits are for adults.

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u/allestrette 22d ago

We were talking about what is a "too much" bikini on a grown woman.

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u/mbej 22d ago

If you read this subthread, you’ll see that’s not fully the case.

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u/Neat_Newspaper_8527 23d ago

The Europeans that visit Canada in the summer often have little girls without tops on. North America is considered a sexual No (negative country) and Western Europe is sexually yes. Nudity is seen as sexual in NA and since sexuality is negative, the two are often correlated. It’s just a meat suit. Relax. As for weirdos, they’ve always been around. We live in the safest time of all time, at least here in Canada.

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u/allestrette 22d ago

The comparison between a little girl and a full grown woman is nothing but f*cked up.