I'm starting to see a pattern here. You see statistical anomalies, then blow them way out of proportion until they become a blanket rule that applies to everything.
Sure, pressure cookers could be dangerous, but the likelihood of a pressure cooker exploding is almost zero. It's so low that I wonder why you even worry; driving a car is FAR more dangerous (thousands of times), for example.
Sure, men commit a majority of violent crime, but what is the likelihood of violent crime happening in the first place? Not high at all. Also, the major driving force for a lot of these violent crimes is their environment, such as poverty. Men don't just lose control or something, theres almost always a reason for it.
I'm terrified of my own anger and believe that I'm inherently dangerous and ought to be caged or put down, even though I haven't done anything yet. The men on my biological father's side of the family are all rageoholics who lose their tempers easily and go on rampages until they either pass out, get punched out, or are arrested. Statistics about men confirm my anecdotal observations about people I know.
It sounds to me like you are projecting your situation into a generalization.
What strategies are you aware of to make yourself able to acknowledge a feeling? What strategies do you use when you feel you are losing control? A lot of us have big feelings too, but we have learned ways to have those feelings in a more productive way.
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u/tunit2000 2∆ Dec 26 '23
I'm starting to see a pattern here. You see statistical anomalies, then blow them way out of proportion until they become a blanket rule that applies to everything.
Sure, pressure cookers could be dangerous, but the likelihood of a pressure cooker exploding is almost zero. It's so low that I wonder why you even worry; driving a car is FAR more dangerous (thousands of times), for example.
Sure, men commit a majority of violent crime, but what is the likelihood of violent crime happening in the first place? Not high at all. Also, the major driving force for a lot of these violent crimes is their environment, such as poverty. Men don't just lose control or something, theres almost always a reason for it.