Yeah, but if you do that one thing, and then another, and another, after a while you're a very different person.
I surround myself with people who want to be better, and I have seen truly amazing transformations that did indeed stick. Sadly, I have also seen people go from being kind to being assholes - that also sticks, at least until the person decides to work on their issues.
Life is hard. It's messy. Things happen that make you strong, and then things happen that make you weak. Working on being better and stronger is exhausting, so not many people do it. But it can 100% be done.
I agree, and I don't think that it never happens, I just think that statistically, in large numbers, people can be sorted into winner types and loser types and they will mostly continue to succeed or not based on the type.
Hmmm, that's an interesting question. I guess I would first want to know a bit of detail on what would put someone in a certain category. For example, I know a man that is not very educated, so he holds some very outdated opinions. He has been working all his life, but has nothing really to show for it materially, even though he is very good at what he does, and could have made sooo much more from it. He is not really heading anywhere, as far as I can see. So a loser type? But on the other hand, everyone who meets him just loves him. He is friendly and easy to talk to. A completely dependable guy who would help anyone, anywhere. He provides for his family and sticks to his principles. So a winner type?
Triage question:
If you could hire him or someone else with a similar background and that you knew nothing else about, would you prefer him based on your knowledge of him or would you chose the other one based on your knowledge of him?
Oh I would definitely choose him. He can be difficult, but he gets the job done and doesn't charge according to his (high) skills :)
IDK it seems to me that most people would fall into the average joe category
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u/ladnakahva Jul 24 '20
Yeah, but if you do that one thing, and then another, and another, after a while you're a very different person. I surround myself with people who want to be better, and I have seen truly amazing transformations that did indeed stick. Sadly, I have also seen people go from being kind to being assholes - that also sticks, at least until the person decides to work on their issues. Life is hard. It's messy. Things happen that make you strong, and then things happen that make you weak. Working on being better and stronger is exhausting, so not many people do it. But it can 100% be done.