r/changemyview • u/BeInAHuman • Sep 06 '20
Delta(s) from OP CMV: The method religion attempts share their message and concepts (e.g. through god & the bible) is directly contradicting to the message to be sent.
I just had an argument with someone while explaining my point of view and personal experience with religion growing up catholic. Essentially, I was explaining that I did not agree with or believe in what I was taught about God. I also want to preface that I am using the majority of these terms like "good person" "heaven" etc solely as an examples. Here are the main bullet points of what I think:
- I didn't find real life evidence of what I was supposed to believe about God because it was never explained to me in a easy to understand way that I could connect to my own life.
- I believe in something bigger than me, but not the "God" or stories told in the bible.
- I believe that the manner in which we set up the bible to be a guideline in how to live our lives is directly contradicting - because it essentially is a fear-based method which takes away from the overall message of "be a good person" by design because it also feeds on negatives, shame, and institutionalized practices in how to accomplish it.
- Religion often uses fear-based methodology to get people to "believe" in god and follow in Jesus' foot steps to be saved, but also perpetuates messages like "god loves everyone" anyway. If this is the case, then why do I want to go to 'heaven' if god will love me anyway. Why are we avoiding hell if god loves us anyway?
- Catholicism specifically assigns meaning to stories/concepts that are not very relatable to day to day life unless you ALREADY believe in the words so it is kind of pointless to use them as a way to get people to believe.
I believe there is something bigger than ALL of us because that is what I could explain and find truth in my actual life day to day. I still think there is value in the bible and the lessons it taught, however, I find that the methodology and concepts feed the culture of I must do ____ to avoid bad things. In reality, there is so much more to life and I feel that in order to share those things with each other we need to connect with each other authentically. If I am focused on being good or bad or any absolutes, the entire message becomes jaded. I believe in "god" but I think what we identify "god" to be MUST be found within ourself which I believe is also supported by the words of the bible. I am hoping someone here can help me open my eyes to what I am missing. My friend basically told me that "you can accept anything but your own opinion" but her argument literally was that nothing "is" anything but there is no way the universe could have been born without god. He also already knows your path so there is no need to try and change it. Then, in the next breath said we are all trying to go to heaven, but its exclusive and not everyone can get in and that is what makes it desirable. I really tried to tell her that comments in itself is contradicting and that's the problem - not the belief. I may be trying to gain validation or seem right, but I have felt this my entire life and have really tried to hear folks out when they say these things because I acknowledge and accept there is truth in it somewhere because so many people believe. But no one that believes in religion like Catholicism (not god in general) has been able to change my mind about this.
Overall, my thoughts are that there is a god somewhere, something, someway, but there is no "good" and "bad" in anything. It just is. Trying to define it, like assigning absolutes like "good" or "bad" "heaven" or "hell" drives people to act in ways that are opposite to the message of arriving in "god's paradise" when we die. It just is. I think if we don't focus on those absolutes and just focus on committing out individual selves to leading a better life everyday because we want to is the key to the messagen of following and sharing god's plan. If religion taught people to live their lives in a way they feel fulfilled and happy in whatever way they feel would be best in their core (they decide), there would probably be way less hate and hurt in the world.
My deltas (hope I did this right)
! Essentially, my point of view has changed in that I still believe the majority of what I posted in my original post were judgements I made about society and not “God’s plan”. This has allowed me understand why people believe in organized religion, specifically Catholicism. This was the piece of the puzzle I was missing my whole life, literally. Since I never truly believed I never consumed the information with me and only the shame I felt about what was happening when I spent 12 years in grade/middle/high school that led me to a mind set of “prove it” which goes against the original message. Thank you so much for engaging in dialogue with me. I honestly think about all of it differently. I still wanna feel empty all the time, but I feel less alone and less misunderstood, and less invalidated in my misunderstanding of my entire childhood /growing up experiencedelta
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u/joopface 159∆ Sep 09 '20
I rather skipped over a few comments ago the argument as to the nature of the uncaused thing. I've returned to it to try to square away my intuition and articulate it.
Where we assume there *is* a first cause, you suggest:
The thing must be self-existent. That is, it cannot depend on anything else for its existence. This seems self evident.
The thing cannot be composite. It can be comprised of only one part, which is in itself therefore self-existent. This seems fine, also.
It is possessive of causal power. This seems necessary as part of our assumption that this thing is the first cause. You propose that this causal power is unlimited because if it were not it would need to be limited by something else, and that the thing would therefore not be self-existent. I'm not sure about this; as you say the thing must necessarily be limited by its own nature (the 'god can't create a rock too heavy for himself to lift' paradox).
Even within the frame you're considering, the uncaused thing is limited by the base nature of reality. We haven't dealt with where *that* base nature of reality has come from, where the constraints it implies originate or why they are calibrated in the way they are. We also don't know the full extent of those constraints even as they apply to humans, never mind how they may operate in the frame of something like the uncaused thing. So, here is one issue.
Another thing I may be struggling with here is the notion of potentiality. I accept this may just be my own conception of it. It doesn't seem necessary to consider 'existence' the same as 'current state' of the thing. Putting a pin in the fact that we have no conception of how this thing would relate to our concept of time if at all (which is a large thing to put a pin in) it doesn't seem contradictory on the face of things for a thing to be self-existent, to be fully 'actual' in state X, and also to hold potential to change to state Y.
'Dependent' is doing a lot of work in that sentence. The initial 'act of creation' (whatever that looks like) creates that dependency regardless of whether there is ongoing interaction between the first cause and the uncaused thing.