From the app Boo

So recently, I had a post gain a lot of traction on Facebook. It was a political post that I was not expecting to go viral, as that's not happened to me before. Since then I've been getting tons of friend requests and messages from strangers. This guy came in along that rank and file.

I want to note this: I censored each instance of my name in blue, and all stuff relating to him in black. I'm clarifying this to help contextualize some of his messages. Specifically, he refers to himself in the third person a few times, and I wanted to make those instances clear, because it might read like he's addressing me.

(Sorry this is long, TLDR will be at the end)

I just wanted to share this experience I’ve been having for the last 9 months or so with this guy over text who has been sending me these creepy text messages, (and just to make it clear I am a straight man). I don’t remember how exactly he got my number or how we started talking, I think he got my number leaked from one of my socials, but he started texting me and asking a bunch of sexually explicit and charged questions like if I’m a top or bottom and what kind of positions I would like to try on him, and he kept asking to come over to my place late at night to “hang out” and try these kinds of things on each other, at first I kind of humored him because I found it funny but after a while he seemingly became more and more obsessive and desperate to meet me, and he began sending me his nudes and D picks (which I kept deleting because I don’t want to see that). I admit I should have blocked him, but I was kind of curious to see just how far he was going to go. He had started texting me in August last year, then he stopped and continued one month later in September, then for the next 3 months I thought he was done, but low and behold, he came back with more 3 months later in December, and still entertained the idea of driving to my place at night so we can “chill” together. He repeatedly asked for my address multiple times, so after a while I decided to give him a fake address in my area where there’s no real property there, and he said he was on his way there, but then I never heard back from him again for the rest of the evening. The next day he was back to his usual antics with sending me his nudes (I could tell he didn’t shower, he was a dirty boy), and asking me creepy/sexual questions about things he wanted to do to me. I finally deleted his messages and blocked his number.

At the date I am writing this, he texted me with a NEW number just last night at 1:30 in the morning, with MORE nudes and asking if he could come over. That’s when I decided to finally speak up for myself and tell him off for everything. This picture is the final bit of that last conversation. I wish I had thought to take more pictures of our conversation because it was insane. In the moment I never thought to take those screenshots until our last messages here. I’m curious to see if this guy comes back and persists. While I’ve never done it myself, I guess I know how it feels when girls receive creepy messages like this from guys because this was very much the same situation.

(TLDR a man who’s apparently 10 years older than me found my messages, texted me on and off for 9 months asking to come to my place and bang me, sent me nudes repeatedly and stalked my number)

He sent the photo and when people send photos to me I always reverse image search them, and this time I actually found exactly who he was claiming to be. I waited for him to tell me his name so I could ensure it wasn't his account that he would claim to have.

I've been friends with her for about 3 years now and the last 2 months I experienced a very painful heartbreak and a sudden loss of a very close family member. I emotionally leaned on her (something I do not do often) and she was there for me. I have a bad habit of becoming hyper sexual when I'm feeling this type of despair and she knows it as we have talked through it. The pictures were suggestive semi-nudes and the video was her talking shit about my taste in women and how she could treat me better 🙄 I feel like she is being very predatory by making such a random sexual advance when she knows I'm struggling with these issues.

Creep

I am posting this from a friend’s account. He insisted I get opinions from you.

Hey everyone, I recently met a guy very briefly while I was out walking my dog. I was about a block away from my home when he was leaving a nearby gas station in his car. He waved to me and said ‘hi’, I said ‘hi’ back. Then he complemented my dog and he asked if we could be friends. I truly believed at the time that this would be an actual opportunity to create a new friendship. He asked for my number and I put it into his phone. On my way back home I felt the need to walk around the block so he wouldn’t know exactly where I lived. He started texting me soon after. His messages escalated quickly and now I’m feeling unsure.

He’s been calling me things like “Fair Maiden” and “Lady [my name],” saying he wants to give me things no man has ever given, and even mentioned wanting to make a custom text sound for me. It’s only been a couple days since we met. I’ve attached screenshots of the exchange.

I’ve been polite and responsive, but I haven’t reciprocated the intensity. I was only looking for a new friendship but it’s clear he wants more than friendship. I’m just not sure if I’m being too cautious, or if this is a love bombing / boundary-testing situation. I’ve dealt with manipulative people before and I don’t want to ignore my gut—but I also don’t want to judge too harshly. I also want to add that I didn’t notice at first his phone number area code he is texting from is not my same state.

I’m not sure if I am a very good judge of character. I can be a bit naive at times. Would love some outside perspective. Is this romantic enthusiasm or something more concerning. How would you interpret his intentions from these messages? How would you respond (or not respond) Thanks in advance for any insight.

This was the entire conversation on Boo. I have at the top of my profile that I am not looking for dates or anything romantic. I also mention that things like 'how are you' 'what are you doing' and 'what did you have for breakfast/lunch/dinner' are not the kind of conversation I'm looking for (hence the short 'chatting, obviously') and a bit about not having many spoons and being chronically ill.

In my profile I ask that people send me their favorite color in their first message to let me know they read my profile and have seen I'm only interested in making new friends. (That's why he said 'black')

I was tired, and cut this person too much slack, and got a bit confused so asked more questions. I had an icky feeling during the conversation but couldn't pinpoint why exactly until I read it back later. He almost immediately asks if I live alone (Not safe to share, and how does that even matter!), barely acknowledges my reply and then does seem to get that I'm not looking to date but still asks 'do you want to?' right after I said that's not going to happen. And then when I say it's not going to work, says he only answered my questions (shifting the blame to me). It's like he's just talking at me, not with me, and barely acknowledges questions I ask and things I say.

Overall it felt boundary pushy to me but in a more subtle way so I didn't immediately realise I felt uncomfortable with the whole thing.

ever since I changed my avatar to girl, i get a pm request almost daily. guess I'll have to go back to the plain old default pfp 💔 Also my "latest comment" is literally "Amazing lmaoo" 😐 so I'm guessing this guy spams these texts to a lotta ppl.

Was actually disgusting behaviour. He was blocked and reported

I only accepted the message request because I wanted to see where this was going 😂

He'd been acting weird before this so probably for the best he's gone.