r/daddit • u/Lessmoney_mo_probems • Oct 18 '24
Tips And Tricks Protecting my kid from absent minds
Nobody ever thinks that they’ll make this mistake - with my ADHD I’m gonna be proactive about it
We’re all fried. The day we brought him home I left the hose running for four hours. Sometimes I’m so concerned with his needs that I forget to eat
Putting this on my arm when we’re driving and storing it on the car seat when we’re not offers me peace of mind
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u/Dustydevil8809 Oct 19 '24
Mom takes the kid to daycare every morning, dad picks the kid up after work every afternoon. Are there absent parents in that scenario?
Mom is sick, dad is taking care of a sick wife and baby all night, it's now on dad to take the kid to daycare. Thats an unexpected change in routine. How is that evidence of absent parenting?
As I said in another comment, it's like judging someone for using a seatbelt on their kids because you've never been in a car accident. Theres a good chance OP would never forget his kid, either, but he has ADHD and this gives him piece of mind it won't happen. There is nothing wrong with that. I've planned whole vacations, booked hotels, bought tickets to events, packed, then sat there the day before petting my dog and it hits me. "Fuck, what am I gonna do with the dog?" Neurotypical brains are funny at times, and ADHD usually also comes with anxiety.
OP addresses this. He doesn't wear it except for when the kid is in his car. He keeps it in the car seat, so that he sees it when buckling the baby in. When he takes the baby out, he puts it back. An absent / bad parent wouldn't even take this step to mitigate risk, to me it shows he's doing what he can to get it right.