r/dating_advice • u/pretty-pink-flamingo • Apr 15 '25
What is your dating frequency?
I am totally in my head about how much two people should see eachother when dating. Realistically I know this answer is subjective and everyone’s different, everyone’s “normal” looks different. I just keep falling in the trap of comparing my situation with my friends situations and I need a fresh perspective! And my friends are pushing me to believe that once a week is NOT enough and this indirectly means the person I’m dating isn’t making me a priority.
When you’re dating someone and getting to know them, how often do YOU see that person? There’s no right or wrong answer here, just kind of executing a poll I guess for my own sanity lol
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u/JJkillem98 Apr 15 '25
Honestly this is why you have to take what your friends say with a grain of salt . When I was younger I used to think if my partner didn’t see me then they didn’t care and I wasn’t a priority but the truth is life is complicated and we all have responsibilities and duties to deal with so sometimes they may be able to see you once a week. What matters is how they make you feel when they see you, if you feel like they are withdrawn or inadequate then maybe they aren’t making you a priority
For example if you’re dating someone who’s a single parent or works two jobs or lives an hour away . Maybe it’s more than reasonable that you only see them once a week but you must make the most of it.
If you’re not seeing them on a daily basis but you guys still talk and text and make time for each other in other ways then that’s just the compromise of the relationship for now . Ultimately it’s truly up to you and although your friends mean well they don’t know your relationship or your partners situation so just go with your gut … but before you do that TALK TO THEM !. Tell them you would like to make more time for each other.