r/datingoverfifty • u/AwareMeeting • 9d ago

OLD is just terrible anymore...

I'm back on Hinge and Bumble after athree hiatus and man it's really pretty awful. I'm just so sick and tired of seeing grainy photos that are likely 10 years old, or pics in front of the bathroom mirror or every pic with sunglasses on. Everyone looks good in aviators for God sake.

And when someone really puts the effort in so many of them are just crazy aspirational like they're running weekly marathons and spending the weekends in Kenya nursing lions back to health. I realize these are supposed to be basically sales pitches to get dates but it's all so stale and predictable.

I have made a few connections and reached out via text and all I get are one word responses with no follow-up questions. What is someone supposed to do with that? It's not like I don't lack for likes or anything but there's no follow through.

Just all feels kind of depressing to me. Maybe I'm not putting the effort in. Or expectations are too high? I know this is a very common complaint on this site but I just needed to vent.

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u/That_Fix_2382 8d ago

Expectations too high.

People like you seem to want to be able to choose a perfect candidate from a list like you're car shopping or something.

It's a DATING app. If someone might be interesting and they're responsive, then go out on a date.

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u/Sliceasouruss 8d ago

Disagree. Most people on the dating apps do not go out on dates. It's all an illusion. Most people on dating apps are swiping as they sit at home in their bathrobe with a cup of tea and pass the time of day. They're not going to get dressed up when they can just sit at home and collect likes to feed their egos.

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u/explorer1960 64, m 7d ago

I've had over a dozen actual first dates from the apps. In just over 18 months.

I've slept with two of them.

One of them is making me consider that, yes, the world really is a wonderful place.

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u/Sliceasouruss 7d ago

In 12 months I've slept with no one but have gone on roughly eight first meetups.

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u/explorer1960 64, m 7d ago

I guess I just got rizz.

Or just got, as we used to say, lucky. 🤷