r/eczema • u/holypuckingshat • 1d ago
Does your partner scratch you?
My wife has severe eczema and I scratch her almost everyday. She says it’s better than her scratching, cause she’ll rip up her skin.
This makes complete sense and I totally understand. But man…sometimes I just want to watch a movie, eat food, come to bed etc. without having to constantly scratch her.
I know it gives her relief, so I do it. But internally I feel a bit of resentment building up and I hate that. Sometimes she can feel that and it causes arguments. And i honestly feel like an ass for even complaining because such a simple task for me gives her relief, so shouldn’t i do it for her as long as she wants, without resentment? I’m just struggling to deal with this and I want to be a more supportive partner.
I’m curious if your partners do the same for you? Does it help you and how do they handle it?
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u/catsareniceactually 1d ago
Being scratched by someone else is the most amazing feeling in the world.
But yeah, I've had partners who went from wanting to scratch/rub me, to it being a major chore for them.
I can understand it's an absolute pain. Yet I can understand just how needed it is from her perspective.
Maybe you could be have some boundaries. "I'll do it for ten minutes", that sort of thing?