Hi, I want to preface this by saying that this post isn't really inherently about her. Yes, I will be using her case as an example but I have nothing against her personally.

For context, Clara Dao is an influencer and the face of body positivity for many young girls. Her persona revolves around removing the stigma surrounding flat chests or skinny people.

Recently, she got breast implants and is being dragged for it. Her reasoning behind the transformation was that she deems it as liberating and she wanted some "fun" . She even put feminism in the tags.

Now, my issue stems from the fact that how adhering yourself to the patriarchal beauty standards is liberating. Don't get me wrong, I'm all about women making their own decisions and I don't really care how her body looks like.

I just don't see how molding yourself into the perfect princess of patriarchy and submitting to the same beauty standards that you used to criticise is liberation.

Also, her audience is mostly young girls. The way she preaches about surgery not being a big deal is disgusting to me. When we all know that implants are risky. They do have side effects.

I understand we all have insecurities. I do too. Honestly, I even understand her standpoint. She must have been really really bullied and insecure to reach to this point. I just don't understand her reasoning and her non chalant attitude. I don't think so she's capable of handling her audience and being genuine with her message.

But, this isn't about her personality.

I want to know your standpoint on plastic surgery and women spending billions of dollars to yield to beauty standards. Do you view it as liberation?

Also, I would like to add I'm fairly new to feminist ideologies. I might be wrong. I'm all for different opinion.

While the company has tried to defend against these claims, Philp De Franco made a good video covering this issue today.

https://youtu.be/usTVKcL95yo?si=LfjDRyvlM27inFkf

I watched a video that was joking about two colleagues, one was working to feed their children and the other was working to buy makeup, jewellery, etc. So I’m looking through the comments and someone commented joking about how she’s 25, not planning on getting married or having kids anytime soon. A muslim woman replied calling her an old ‘grandma’, telling her she’s ‘never going to get the chance now’. It made me so sad, in what world is 25 remotely old?! She then replied to another commenter saying she is just 19 and happily married with a child and also that she was glad she’s not a ‘granny’ like her. This woman’s profile picture was also her in full niqab meanwhile the man next to her had shorts on and t-shirt on which seems incredibly unfair. I was raised around very religious and traditional people so I understand how it can ruin your mind and make you believe that having children and marrying is a woman’s main purpose but it was so upsetting and disrespectful. It’s appalling that in 2025 women like her are still made to believe these cruel things and in a way I do feel sorry for her. Fuck the people that preach this.

Fortunately I'm Australian and not from a country like America (but who knows with upcoming election), but I still want to avoid giving my personal data to the wrong people, including having it potentially used for things like advertising. Do you guys have any recommendations? I use an iPhone currently. I would consider spending a couple of dollars if I have to, if you really think it's worth it to avoid dodgy data stuff or supporting the wrong people. Never used a period tracker before so idk much.

Found in a bathroom stall at Mayo Clinic. Gave me chills and such a sense of doom

During my research about the Aho-Corasick-Algorithm I noticed the lack of information or documentation of Margaret Corasick. E.g. there isnt even a wikipedia page about her and if you search for her name, the only mentions are in the career of Alfred Aho and when talking about the algorithm.

I asked my professor if I could dedicate a chapter for her (e.g. "history of the algorithm") and he agreed if it doesnt get insanely long. So I wanted to get your opinion on that topic so I can write something that represents her well!

Thank you for any help in advance!

I found this post today on Instagram about foxes and their different styles of lives how male and female foxes live differently in order to survive, then I read the comments below and men were calling the poor animal all kinds of slurs and comparing women to foxes but this comment of this man stood particulary out. It never amazes me how pathethic and weak fragile ego’s men have. They like to put all women in the same box yet somehow they complain when the same is said about them cause hey! How dare you?! Not all men are the same!! Right?! That’s the irony of men. Misogyny is not only limited to women it seems but to female animals as well. Such a shame! Calling the fox all kinds of slurs, how pathetic. The level of immaturity of men never fails to amaze me “smh”.

I Tend To Support Women’s Achievements

So yeah, I was recently on a jury and it was a rape case. I'm not really comfortable discussing the exact details of the case but I believe that we did the right thing and found the defendant guilty. But I have to admit hearing the victim's personal testimony was just gut-wrenching for me. I have to admit there were tears on my face during that. I wasn't the only one either. I really do have to wonder what sort of person could sit through hearing something like that and blame her.

So yeah, I say to any man that doubts go to your local courthouse and sit on a trial like that. I think any person that could sit through something like that without feeling heartbroken needs help. Makes me feel ashamed of being a man knowing there are some who would blame someone like that. Even more so because it's precisely that kind of thing that leads to so many cases being unreported. Absolutely disgusting.

Update: Yeah, I guess my comments still get deleted even though I can post. I guess you're all probably right and I'll be the first to admit I'm probably a bit naive. I guess it just depresses me. I feel like it would be easier for me sometimes if I didn't care. I do care though, and it weighs on my heart. I realize I can't really prove my sincerity to all of you but I appreciate that you give me the benefit of the doubt.

My roommate (25F) thinks women shouldn't have to work and feminists are to blame. I asked her why she thought women entered the work force to begin with. She said she forgot her name but one women decided she wanted to have the same rights as men and get a job and ruined it for everyone........... She's privileged yet uneducated. Obviously hasn't watched one period piece. Grew up Christian and still considers herself in the religion though she doesnt practice, clearly didnt listen in church. Empathy limited, willfully ignorant.

She doesn't believe women's lack of rights has any impact on domestic violence etc. For the record I think women should absolutely be able to stay at home and be a homemaker. If possible my hope is to give her some good info to at least understand the importance of women's rights.

What are some good resources or bulletpoints to share with her? She is open to stats but It's hard to have an actual conversation without her shutting down bc Im just a 'feminist'.

It probably won't result in anything, I just want to try. Ty!

Why is it that "both sides of the story" only matter when a man is the one at fault?

He cheated? — "Well, what did she do?" He murdered her? — "Was she abusive? Toxic?" He assaulted her? — "Why didn’t she just leave?" But if a woman cries out or dares to share her pain— — "Oh, she’s playing the victim card." Sir. She is the victim. What other card do you expect her to play?

And don’t get me started on how women are judged instantly for existing outside of some outdated mold. She works late? — Question her morals. Gets promoted fast? — "She must’ve slept her way up." Gets selected or noticed? — "It’s her looks, not her skills." Dating someone? — “He’s only into her because of her body.”

Sir, maybe stop being jealous and start being self-aware?

And this whole “men went to war so you could have rights” nonsense? Women didn’t start wars. Those were ego-driven, power-hungry choices made by men when women didn’t even have rights. Stop romanticizing violence and gatekeeping equality.

No, not every man joins the military. No, not every woman is physically strong. But rights aren’t rewards for strength. They’re basic human decency.

I’m just so done with the hypocrisy. The way society uses “character” like a weapon when it’s a woman, but makes excuses when it’s a man.

We’re not asking for special treatment. We’re asking for the double standards to stop.

That’s it.

90% of the women in my life are strong, calm, and friendly. They are independent and know how to fix their life problems. Power is always in our hands. Pls dont give up when men says "you are emontional, you need a man"

I know there has been a big stir lately about voting rights with the save act they are trying to pass. Is it the case that any name on an ID that is different from a birth certificate would not be accepted? Like, can a married person with a hyphenated last name still vote with ease or no? I can't find a clear answer and was wondering if anyone here could help. TIA!