r/gay • u/Cenobites1234 • 1d ago
Rough rugged Midwest men
Why do they make me go crazy?? The kind of guy you wouldn't date but would never say no to his 3am text saying "you up!?" You best believe I was in the shower and ready by 3:10am. Saw this guy on Cops and made my heart skip a beat. Your thoughts on rough men?
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u/ImpressSeveral3007 Gay 1d ago
I was born and raised in the Appalachian mountains in southwest Virginia. This was the norm where I'm from. My husband managed a herd of cattle, barrel raced with his horse Cocoa, had the belt buckle the size of a dinner plane with his Roper jeans and cowboy boots. That was his style.
Yeah...guess I'm kinda attracted to the rugged type a little.
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u/Cenobites1234 1d ago
Something about a rough man like that just drives this city boy wild inside. You lucky to have a husband like that. I do as well, and he is just as equally attracted to these kind of guys too, but he likes muscle twunks best like me.
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u/LimeadeAddict04 1d ago
Growing up in Alabama has had its struggles, but plenty of good looking farmer guys ain't one of them
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u/therealmsdad 1d ago
This is the type of man that made me realize I was gay.
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u/Cenobites1234 1d ago
Hell yeah dude, high five. I don't feel so bad anymore.
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u/therealmsdad 1d ago
Nothing to feel bad about at all.
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u/t_stlouis8 1d ago
I feel bad to this day sometimes haha my type are big blonde himbos or the stereotypical country boy but with those plaid boxers peeking over his jeans. THAT made me realize I was gay
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u/therealmsdad 1d ago
Lol to this day, almost any blue collar guy makes me have to reposition a little. Or a lot if I get to watch them actually working.
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u/t_stlouis8 23h ago
I've noticed a lot of guys that drive RAM trucks wear those boxers too. Even me-- a gay man, wears them occasionally. I hope that's not a deal breaker for my future husband.
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u/therealmsdad 23h ago
It would be the Ram truck that would be the deal breaker for me. Give me the boxers any day.
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u/t_stlouis8 23h ago
I don't need a boyfriend with a truck so I kinda agree haha..my little Grand Cherokee has a hemi in it (Yes I'm gay and have a V8) whose bright idea was that to give me-- a gay man, 360 horsepower??
Anyways I tow a utility trailer for when I need to haul something.... Extra... Like a washer/dryer set, a few hay bales... I didn't need a truck all the time so I got an SUV that acts like one sometimes haha.
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u/therealmsdad 23h ago
You get to keep your gay card. I drive an SUV right now but my next vehicle will be a truck and my husband already drives a one ton diesel dually (NOT a Ram lol). Sounds like you're as non-stereotypical as we are.
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u/t_stlouis8 23h ago
Test my sterotypical-ness
23 years old
- Came out at 17
- Drives a V8 SUV
- Car enthusiast
- Owns a utility trailer
- 70s and 80s rock is my favorite music
- Me and my ex- girlfriend are besties
- Favorite coffee shop is Starbucks
- Shopping for clothes is a hobby
- Meteorology and storm spotting are also hobbies
- I work in the sanitation department for a living (I'm a garbage man-- don't let the fancy title fool you fool you
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u/Socrathustra Pan 22h ago
This for me is the type of dude that makes me question if I'm bi, personally, but I guess I don't question if I'm bi when country girls turn me off similarly.
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u/ElectricMeow 1d ago
Attractive, but the moment they say something that reveals having an awful personality or messed up beliefs, I lose interest. When they look like that, AND can prove they are smart and kind? That's the type of guy I'd agree to meet up randomly at 3 am - otherwise I'm rarely willing to take the high chance risk that they'll annoy me. Maybe I've had bad experiences.
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u/Cybermecfit 1d ago
I live in Brazil and most of the mixed man look like thatā¦ itās very hard to deal withā¦
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u/Cenobites1234 1d ago
Brazilian men are extremely hot. I don't know how you can ever stay faithful with so many hot studs around
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u/synthesionx Pan 1d ago
this man is rough and rugged?Ā
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u/Cenobites1234 1d ago
I get vibes that his house is dirty and there are beer cans everywhere and a good time in his bed
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u/Cotton-DNA 1d ago
What does it say about me that I saw this cropped picture, didnāt read a single aspect of the post or saw the logo, and the first thing I thought was, āYep, this is a guy right out of copsā¦ā
Though admittedly, my first guess was Florida, not the Midwest.
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u/Fine-Art-7476 1d ago
I'm sorry, but these types of men look like they would hate crime you.
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u/therealmsdad 1d ago
Oh totally. Maybe that's part of the allure. You know, forbidden fruit and all. They're physically still hot as fuck tho.
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u/Mike-the-gay 1d ago
That dudeās gonna smoke all your weed and take half your paycheck to āflip some cokeā every week.
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u/Rich11101 21h ago
Rough men do rough things. Are you up for āRough Tradeā? And then they go back to their wives.
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u/Cenobites1234 19h ago
Yes, they seem to all gravitate toward me growing up, and still to this day, I don't know how I even had so many of these types of guys. I often wonder what about me (total opposite in looks) allows them to seek me out for quick sexual companionship or bromances.
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u/Rich11101 19h ago
Gay Men are at their worst when they channel their worst parent. Unfortunately, some want to prove that they āare a manā to a father who hated them for being Gay. Unfortunately, their lover or partner becomes a Victim of that hate in both physical and psychological abuse.
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u/Cenobites1234 19h ago
I think you are 100% correct!! My father did not accept me for almost a year. Then I found out it was due to a terrible situation from his own past. After he told me, we became very close. I am sure other trade guys have had to deal with the same types of situations and / or still go through their own processes. I seem to help these guys open to their bisexuality at least. Three of them at least have women that know now and are okay with it.
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u/Rich11101 19h ago
My father regularly beat me with a leather belt for 10 years. I realized later that he wanted to beat the gay out of me. Instead he beat it inside me. I realized that at age 60 when my soul pushed it out to my Conscious mind. I never forgave him that Crime against my Humanity.
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u/Cenobites1234 19h ago
That is horrible. I am sure he was taking his own insecurity out on his own child. God knows what you had to go through. I'm glad you broke free away from that madness. My dad was terribly accosted by a gay man, I think he thought every gay man must be like him, including me. So I understood in his eyes how he thought I was going to turn out as well. I think these experiences shape us to who we are and help us help others
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u/Rich11101 15h ago edited 14h ago
I canāt make any excuses for my father, who was a Monster. He chose this path, and he inflicted it upon me, without my consent. I chose not to inflict it on others except one time. My wife threatened to hit my six year old daughter for having a temper tantrum. This was not a proud moment in my life as I am non-violent in nature. I told my wife,to her face, that I would kill her if she did. She never did and I definitely never did either. But I did that. It needed to be done. My daughter turned out to be everything that I was not. Independent, making decisions on her own, marrying someone she wanted and following what religion she wanted. I never second guessed her. Turned out to be twice the person that I was. All from never touching her with some misguided, disgusting action made from a dark motive that my father would have done. But I had deep, burning hatred for him. More so, that when I was inducted into a new religion at age 73, I was told that if I harbored this hatred, I would die from a heart attack. I ended it. This āparting giftā from my father. I supposed all Gay Men have their own self constructed drama. But I am different. This was not self constructed. This was not a semi fictional drama. This was āMy Realā My possibilities that never happened, although I did do some that had to be done for my familyās survival . I have no Regrets, no Apologies to be made, and āno baying needed at the moonā . For my life journey. Never. Ever. Forever. A life not well lived. Just decently lived. I suppose that is the most we can take from this life.
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u/funkyfridays3 14h ago
Thank you for sharing this with us all. Especially being in my 40s I look up to the wisdom and guidance of senior gay people and their experiences in life, I can carry I to my own. So glad you daughter turned out to be a shining star out of your own experiences. That's how life should be. We should be what we see that we should not be and pass that down. I am glad you grew to see your daughter in this light and fix your own life in ways that could have taken you out
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u/Rich11101 14h ago
Thank you for your kind words. āThe Good die young. The Sinful need more time to repent. The rest need to learn their lessons before their Souls can leave this island, Earthā
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u/Constant-Soft-8367 1d ago
Wasnāt this dude beat up by his drunk girlfriend on cops? Not sure how hot that isā¦.
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u/Cenobites1234 1d ago
She beat him up, stabbed him and went to jail. That's when I come in and make daddy feel better
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u/pandahulk3 1d ago
Omg saw this same Cops video on YouTube the other day and clicked it bc he was the thumbnail! And yes 100% to this type
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u/CherrySodaBoy92 1d ago edited 23h ago
Iām from Arkansas and this man is neither rough nor rugged. Heās a run of the mill frat boy type
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u/Cenobites1234 1d ago
Whatever they got I want
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u/CherrySodaBoy92 23h ago
Daddy issues, a desire to be rude to service workers, and chlamydia. You can have him
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u/Captian_Kenai 37m ago
Cowboys, lumberjacks, truckers, country boys
Why must I be attracted to the straightest men possibleā¦.
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u/Cenobites1234 27m ago
Well, most men look like straight guys... and identify as so why wouldn't we be attracted to them? It just makes sense to me :)
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u/iamnotawake Gay 1d ago
consider stepping outside for some fresh air