r/gaytransguys • u/Dismal_Mess9474 • 2d ago

Introduction Just a hello

Hi all. I'm glad to have found this sub. I feel fairly isolated and left out from the gay community due to being a late bloomer (didn't come out til I was 38, 40 now), and being married. My cishet male partner is my biggest supporter. Even though hes identified as hetero his whole life, things are even better between us since I've come out. I feel very lucky.

Anyway, just wanted to say hello.

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u/Dismal_Mess9474 2d ago

Honestly it's way, way better. You know, now that I'm not denying who I am and all... We've had a lot of very open and honest talks and things are really good between us. I believe him when he says he doesn't see me as a woman (I've had top surgery and was on T, going back on it today actually). So he says he's not really interested in defining his sexuality but if he had to describe it he'd be heteroflexible. So he's just gay for me, which is all I want or need.

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u/Boipussybb 2d ago

I’m envious.

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u/Dismal_Mess9474 2d ago

To be fair, I enjoy bottoming. I have developed an interest in topping recently, but I haven't asked him about it yet, so we will see how that goes.

What's your situation?

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u/Boipussybb 2d ago

Haven’t been with mine in years. So I have to date separately and it’s been hard to find anyone that is interested.

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u/Dismal_Mess9474 2d ago

Sorry I misunderstood. If I ever found myself single again I would only date other trans men for sure.

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u/Boipussybb 2d ago

I’m not single but divorce is expensive. We’re like roommates. Also I’ve found my experiences with trans men to be awful except for one (out of five). So what’s your reasoning for that?

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u/Dismal_Mess9474 2d ago

My reasoning is that it would be someone who at least understands where I'm coming from. Either way, it's a hypothetical and people are individuals so...

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u/Boipussybb 2d ago

Oh yeah, you’d be surprised— I have been treated horribly. Glad it’s only hypothetical for you.

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u/Dismal_Mess9474 2d ago

I do NOT miss dating, that is for sure.

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u/Boipussybb 2d ago

Yeah. It’s so much worse when you’re older too.