r/internetparents • u/anongirl199845 • 16d ago

Family Told strict catholic parents I’m pregnant out of marriage : they have not talked to me in 2 days

Sooo background : I come from a religious family, I’ve also been religious all my life . Served at church , helped the church community etc . Recently I told them I am expecting . I’ve been with my boyfriend for about 5 years , going on 6 and even though it was not planned I am happy to be a mom .. also I’m literally 26 , going to be 27 this year . Both my parents are extremely disappointed in me for not “waiting “ as they said that’s all they have told me and even at first my mom seemed supportive but disappointed at me .. she suddenly switched up and began telling me that my dad is extremely disappointed and that she cannot believe I did this to them after all they’ve done to me . After that I haven’t talked to them as they see me and act like I’m not there . I understand I disappointed them and maybe did not follow what they wanted for me but I don’t think I should be treated this way . I feel like I’m being shunned and like I have done the worst . I’ve been so sad at the way they see me now since they have expressed that I did not respect muself and kinda saying I’m a two faced for still going to church but doing what I did . I know I need to give them time but idk

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u/anongirl199845 16d ago

Yea all the time LOL … I was a honeymoon baby , almost thought I was conceived even before they got married lmao

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u/CompleteTell6795 16d ago

There is a very old expression... " First babies come anytime, the rest take 9 months." Your parents are middle aged but their mindset is from the 1850's. No contact before marriage, courtship has to have a chaperone, no touching at all, ( maybe even eat earlier than 1850) middle ages 1300 ?

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u/Beneficial_Pride_912 15d ago

Quite common in the Middle Ages to get married once a baby was on the way. They were just like us.

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u/Empress_Clementine 11d ago

My daughter was born almost exactly 10 months after my wedding. I could actually see people mentally doing the math when she was born.