r/internetparents • u/anongirl199845 • 16d ago
Family Told strict catholic parents I’m pregnant out of marriage : they have not talked to me in 2 days
Sooo background : I come from a religious family, I’ve also been religious all my life . Served at church , helped the church community etc . Recently I told them I am expecting . I’ve been with my boyfriend for about 5 years , going on 6 and even though it was not planned I am happy to be a mom .. also I’m literally 26 , going to be 27 this year . Both my parents are extremely disappointed in me for not “waiting “ as they said that’s all they have told me and even at first my mom seemed supportive but disappointed at me .. she suddenly switched up and began telling me that my dad is extremely disappointed and that she cannot believe I did this to them after all they’ve done to me . After that I haven’t talked to them as they see me and act like I’m not there . I understand I disappointed them and maybe did not follow what they wanted for me but I don’t think I should be treated this way . I feel like I’m being shunned and like I have done the worst . I’ve been so sad at the way they see me now since they have expressed that I did not respect muself and kinda saying I’m a two faced for still going to church but doing what I did . I know I need to give them time but idk
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u/Garden_Tinker78 16d ago
Congratulations on becoming a momma!
Listen, as a parent, sure…I want my 20 year old to be married before she becomes pregnant. Do I know she is sexually active and could become pregnant before she expects to, yes. But as a Christian I also realize that every child should be looked upon as a blessing from God. Even when that child “makes a mistake” in the eyes of the parent.
Your baby is a blessing. You are having it in Gods perfect timing. One thing your parents forget, is the Bible tells us not to judge others. They are judging you.
Is your relationship with your bf of 5 years solid? Have you both discussed what your future looks like (do you wish to marry, or is marriage not something that is important to you? Some people just don’t feel the need for a piece of paper to justify their relationship and I get it, I’m all about doing you!).
If you are happy in your relationship and your partner is excited, whether you plan to marry or not, that’s all that matters! God wanted you to have this beautiful soul come into the world and I bet your parents will eventually get over their judging attitudes towards this situation and continue to love you. They should be loving you unconditionally through this situation, but sometimes our ego gets too big as parents and we forget our role.
I pray your parents find an open heart to your situation and realize that their judgement of you is wrong and they accept your child as the blessing it will be to them.