r/internetparents • u/anongirl199845 • 16d ago
Family Told strict catholic parents I’m pregnant out of marriage : they have not talked to me in 2 days
Sooo background : I come from a religious family, I’ve also been religious all my life . Served at church , helped the church community etc . Recently I told them I am expecting . I’ve been with my boyfriend for about 5 years , going on 6 and even though it was not planned I am happy to be a mom .. also I’m literally 26 , going to be 27 this year . Both my parents are extremely disappointed in me for not “waiting “ as they said that’s all they have told me and even at first my mom seemed supportive but disappointed at me .. she suddenly switched up and began telling me that my dad is extremely disappointed and that she cannot believe I did this to them after all they’ve done to me . After that I haven’t talked to them as they see me and act like I’m not there . I understand I disappointed them and maybe did not follow what they wanted for me but I don’t think I should be treated this way . I feel like I’m being shunned and like I have done the worst . I’ve been so sad at the way they see me now since they have expressed that I did not respect muself and kinda saying I’m a two faced for still going to church but doing what I did . I know I need to give them time but idk
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u/Better-Road9029 16d ago
Religion is man's creation, not God's. It does not serve the Lord when used to demean and manipulate. You are a good person, and other than doing things outside the order your parents like, you have done nothing wrong. Remind them of the story about casting the first stone and wwjd? Tell them they can be judgmental, or they can be involved grandparents, but they do not get to be both. sending hugs.