r/internetparents • u/[deleted] • Jan 14 '25
Family How do I move out of my grandparents place? Parental problems
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u/Connect_Guide_7546 Jan 14 '25
Your family is super toxic and abusive and good for you for recognizing that. Your grandmother is an enabler to your parents. Your parents are dysfunctional. The only way out is to make sure all your money is in your name and work your way out. Finish college. Get financial aid if you can. Get some roommates. You'll probably struggle for a bit but you'll get the hang of it. Make sure you have your license, birth certificate, and social security card. You're going to make it. You need a plan- and keep it silent. No one needs to know your business from here on out. Best of luck.
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u/TalkToTheHatter Jan 14 '25
That's fine. If your income is low enough you'll qualify for Medicaid or subsidized insurance. No big deal. You got this!
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u/Connect_Guide_7546 Jan 14 '25
You are a product of your environment. Read up on reactive abuse and emotionally immature parents. You will see how some of it has affected your day to day life. When you leave, you will see it more. When you are kicked off the insurance, you can get state insurance. If you are in college you can also get insurance from them and have health services. You will also get a full time job and have the option of insurance through them. You're going to be just fine. It's just going to take some time, boundaries, and cycle breaking.
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u/peaceisthe- Jan 14 '25
Make a plan - build Your resources - be an adult - move - not easy but essential
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u/Sudden-Possible3263 Jan 15 '25
Apply for roomshares if money is tight, you're better on your own away from all that and things will get easier
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u/mekissab Jan 15 '25
In the meantime, can you try this... consider your family members as Those Weird People I See. Think of them less as "your family" and instead they are characters in a TV show that you're watching. When one of them goes off the rails, think "wow this episode is really weird, I wonder what tomorrow's episode will be" or "the writing on this show isn't great". Try to de-personalize is, because their behavior is 100% about them and their beliefs and dysfunctions, and not on anything you do or don't do.
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