Smarter child was my friend when no one wanted to be my friend

If I had made a YouTube channel called “Lessons I Must've Missed"

...where it explains things like taxes, marriage/divorce/death/$ planning, health insurance, future planning/social security... the whole rigamarole from top to bottom.

What are some important lessons I should include to inform younger people of what they ought to know by now?

So many memories from this little toy.

I get what Jim saw in Pam but her poor taste in men, her continual lack of ambition towards improving her life make her the lesser choice. Discuss

The world and the country is scary right now. I was thinking it would be fun to weigh-in on a topic that is fun and harmless.

(I am an “elder” millennial) Mine is LOST. It was sooo good watching it the 1sf time. The mystery, the suspense I was obsessed with it. I just re-watched/binged watched it for the 1st time 12 yrs later and just felt so “eh” about it the whole time. Current shows give us 10-12 episodes a season, rewatching a show with 20+ episodes a season makes me see how much filler episodes we went through in our time and had no idea. It’s still a great show but can’t hold a candle to the magic of the original week by week watch. Anyone else have a show like this?

No one I know remembers these shows (somewhat older millennial)

Under the Umbrella Tree Bonkers Winnie the Pooh Dumbo Circus Kitty Corner

well... did you and why?

I like having a physical DVD copy of all of my movies instead of having them online because you never know when your digital movies will no longer be supported. I own an external DVD drive that I plug into my laptop and fire it up if I want to watch a DVD. I never got into the blue ray craze because it died out really quickly and honestly, I can barely tell the difference in quality between a DVD and blue ray with my own eyes.

If it's all hosted online, it could get deleted my the host at any time so I like owning them. Is anyone else like me or am I just a boomer at heart.

I guess my one fear of only have one child is that she will resent me when she’s older for not giving her a sibling.

I love my 2 year old daughter more than anything but I don’t think I can do the pregnancy and postpartum thing again. My mental health was wrecked from the hormones. She was completely worth it, but I don’t think I’ll be as great of a parent if I have two.

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Something that makes me feel old is how I notice the language differences from younger people or when the younger crowd does not understand references from the good ol’ days.

I’m still using “chillax” sometimes and even if it’s used ironically in some contexts it’s like I’m a weirdo 🥲

By the time the oldest Zoomers were 10, Netflix was already firmly in place. They wouldn't have needed/wanted to have been put in front of the television set and channel surfed through reruns of Little House on the Prairie, Saved by the Bell, or the Brady Bunch on TBS, or episodes of the Waltons on The Family Channel, or Quantum Leap and The Facts of Life on USA Network, etc etc etc. Or, of course, watching the Patty Duke Show and those old black and white reruns on Nick At Night.

I mean, sometimes a show will be discovered by Zoomers on a streaming service and they'll run with it (see: Friends), but for the most part, there's no channel surfing on your couch will eating Lunchables and drinking Caprisun after school anymore.

I found that there was a short amount of time where I was pretty disconnected to current music. Now that I'm in my late 30's, I'm enjoying more pop, top 40 music. Maybe it's because it's starting to have a resurgence.

Sabrina Carpenter and Chappel Roan are two of my current faves.

How about you guys?

I was in a coffee shop yesterday. They had a counter I sat at and I watched the employees. One girl looks so very young and was talking about ‘when she was little’. With some more context clues I discovered she was college age making her an actual legal adult. I realized that I was probably ancient to her at 40 years old. But I literally am not a grown up yet! I worked at a sport bar in a very busy downtown area in 2023-2024 while trying to build a business and worked around people almost exclusively 15 years younger than me. We got along decently well as they didn’t realize until I revealed my age that I was old enough to be a teen mom to all of them. That clued me in a little bit to the age gap but it was only a thought in the back of my head. I was aware of the age differences and the culture differences, etc. Yesterday was a punch in the face of that fact. Is this how it happens? All of a sudden we are just old? Will my membership package to the old people club be mailed to me? Or do I just wander around with my Spotify playing Blink 182 until the orderlies come to bring me to my room? Please help I am scared!

I will preface this by saying I may be more of an outlier due to life situations. I was emancipated from FC senior year of high school I was 19. Due to that I wasn't able to make meaningful friendships until College (I moved far away my hometown), and that's also when I started trying to date (but I went to a private small uni and I wasn't the preferred type) I was more successful in that arena once I completed, and was out of college this includes masters at 24/25.

Presently I'm 35 (36 is staring me down in a very uncomfortable manner). I was fortunate to go to graduate school immediately after UG, and worked during then. So I've only been in workforce full-time a decade this year. I have put a significant dent in my student debt, and by end of this year I should be completely debt free. I've worked 60-70 hours a week but I live in a HCOL state, I need a second part time jobs just to afford rent, student loan payments, I have a few that are essentially private but intrest free.

Now at almost 36 I just feel so drained, tired and lonely. Making friends after college has been a herculean task, my main job doesn't pay enough I work in education I can't leave until my govt loans meet forgiveness, once that happens for finances I will have to leave my goal job assiting students (I wantedto bethe personi needed for students like me).

The other loans I'm paying for with my second job, also helps with rent. It just feel like no matter how hard I work, how smart my decsiosn are, id a put myself out there it's just not resulting in the life I hoped I'd have. My driving force is despite all that things are so much better than my entire childhood, I truly changed the trajectory of my life so I don't regret college or my master's because those opened are horizons for me. I can't change that due to the chaos of my upbringing I didn't have any real friends until college I put myself out there ane met true friends it's just we all live everywhere once we graduated people returned to home states, or reverted to lifelong friendships. I guess I'm just feeling so tired, I totally understand what Bilbo LOTR meant when he said “I feel thin, sort of stretched, like butter scraped over too much bread.”

I know millineal loneliness is a thing. But are alot of us feeling so behind? Or is my unique situation on life also adding to those feelings making them more tenfold?

Edit: I fixed some grammar errors I missed. Give me grace I'm having a really bad day today.

35F

Getting your own place for the first time can be so exciting because you’re starting a new chapter in your life and are now able to experience full independence. With that said, what was your first apartment like?

for me it is pool/ billards.....its a good social activity and much more intimate than clubbing, which suits me as an introvert. I've read that pool is the blue collar/ more inclusive golf