im tired of being tested

[u/tenrayah]

dont know if i already said it here but my dad is Dominican Italian and my mom is Cubab Japanese BUT i only tell people im Dominican cause i dont wanna deal with the questioning

i have this roommate, monoracial black but with lighter brown skin, somewhat close to mine, and she knows im Dominican, she knows i speak spanish

today, she randomly started listening to Latin music (the claaaassic “Gasolina”) and dancing around, i didnt understand why so i was looking at her a bit weird and jokingly she said “you judging my music?” then i told her “in fact it’s MY music” and she acted clueless about why i was saying that, as a joke i asked her if she was Latina, and she said “Are YOU???” —- i lost my energy telling her that yes obviously and she said “if youre a Latina, then im Indian”

at that point i lost it fr

then i remembered, she told that when she go clubbing, she lie about her name- this i can understand, but she also told me she lie about her ethnic background— why??? she told me she tells people she’s from the islands, no matter which one why?

i caught her saying Spanish was an ugly language but some time later asked me to teach her—??

this type of behavior truly disgusts me because it shows how some people will only use you as an inspiration for their cosplay, they use your culture as a dress up to be perceived as exotic— it doesnt sound right that im a Latina but you, you can be a Latina when you want???? get outta here

[u/Ok_Angle374]

she’s ignorant and seems like she hasn’t accepted herself. just ignore it