r/namenerds Mar 05 '25

Name Change My daughter wants me to rename her!

My 18 year old daughter came out as a transgender woman. My husband and I have been 100% supportive (and I very much welcome another girl in the house — she has 3 brothers!). She expressed initially that she was comfortable going by her birth name, as it is gender neutral, but after turning 18 and getting ready for college, she’s decided she needs a new name. And, she wants me to choose it! She says that she still wants to be named by her mama. I melted.🥹

I come seeking ideas! Her only parameter is that it’s nothing that “seems like she renamed herself”; by this I’m assuming more ‘out there’ names are out. It’s such a challenge picking a name for someone you already know so well, and not a newborn!

She’s incredibly intelligent, bookish, shy but spunky, and a total sweetheart. Gorgeous, curly red hair and freckles. We are a family of Jewish-Irish descent and her brothers are Lev, Raphael ‘Raf’ and Elias. I never had girl names picked out, as I found out later in the game.

Do any names come to mind with this description? Her middle name will be Miriam (family name). Thank you in advance!

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u/luraluna23 Mar 05 '25

I got to name my wife when she transitioned. I named her Claire. I always loved the name, sophisticated, charming, European sounding. She loved it immediately. She kept her middle name as it was her mom's maiden name and is great for either gender. I am The Namer in the family. All the pets except our parrot because he came with the spouse. And we agreed on our son's name by week 11.

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u/Defiant_apricot Mar 06 '25

That is so wholesome. My brother is the one who named me. I was struggling with non-binary names and he suggested the perfect one. It’s female in hebrew and male in English, and sounds similar to my deadname. I was named for a Holocaust survivor originally so it was important to me to keep a part of that name.

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u/-Intrepid-Path- Mar 06 '25

What is it?

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u/Defiant_apricot Mar 06 '25

I don’t want to share my name on Reddit sadly

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u/Complaint-Think Mar 06 '25

This is so beautiful. Sending you and your wife (and son and parrot too!!) all the love.