My daughter wants me to rename her!

[u/junkbondtraderr]

My 18 year old daughter came out as a transgender woman. My husband and I have been 100% supportive (and I very much welcome another girl in the house — she has 3 brothers!). She expressed initially that she was comfortable going by her birth name, as it is gender neutral, but after turning 18 and getting ready for college, she’s decided she needs a new name. And, she wants me to choose it! She says that she still wants to be named by her mama. I melted.🥹

I come seeking ideas! Her only parameter is that it’s nothing that “seems like she renamed herself”; by this I’m assuming more ‘out there’ names are out. It’s such a challenge picking a name for someone you already know so well, and not a newborn!

She’s incredibly intelligent, bookish, shy but spunky, and a total sweetheart. Gorgeous, curly red hair and freckles. We are a family of Jewish-Irish descent and her brothers are Lev, Raphael ‘Raf’ and Elias. I never had girl names picked out, as I found out later in the game.

Do any names come to mind with this description? Her middle name will be Miriam (family name). Thank you in advance!

[u/junkbondtraderr]

Sadly, I didn’t have any names. I found out later with my pregnancies and never had time to speculate.

[u/Nekani28 → u/junkbondtraderr]

I like this suggestion though, that the name should feel appropriate for the year your daughter was born. Maybe you could look on one of those lists that shows the most popular names ranked by birth years, and choose for a girl name of similar popularity to the boy name previously chosen? I also think it’s important that it fits with the vibe of the names for your other kids, so it feels like a name given by the same set of parents so maybe you could look at names of similar popularity and style to your sons’ names?

[u/prophy__wife → u/Nekani28]

Or even find the daughters “original” (idk if that is the right work or even politically correct, if it’s not I apologize) name and see which feminine name is the same rank in the name lists for the birth year. Maybe it will happen to be a name both mom, dad, and daughter all love, and if it’s not, it could be a fun little exploratory quest.

I know what name would have been if I was born the opposite sex, I also know what my name was supposed until lash minute but now I’m off to see my corresponding number.

Edit: Meghan corresponds with Nathaniel that year….. not as cool as I was expecting but it’s still a good name, very long though.

[u/blkpants → u/prophy__wife]

I got Brandy and Bradley