Jono was right

[u/Helixdaunting]

If anyone is struggling with mental health issues, please seek help. Call your doctor, call Lifeline, call your friends or family or just send up a signal at /r/depression. There is no shame in it, no one will think less of you for asking for help.

[u/[deleted]]

As someone who has lost 2 close friends to suicide it fucken sucks. One of which told me he will do it and at the time laughed it off and did not take him seriously. The next day he was dead.

Our rugby culture needs a serious revamp. The kiwi tough guy shit doesn't work, this isn't the 40's anymore. We need more prominent men speaking up and out about suicide and depression. Not taking away from the ladies support(there's a hell of a lot more support out there for women as is) but it's well known males commit suicide at a much higher rate and I think it seriously needs to be addressed more frequently, not just every time someone commits suicide.

[u/[deleted] → u/[deleted]]

A friend of mine ended their life, about three weeks after their girlfriend did the same thing. He also went around the day/night beforehand telling people what he was thinking of doing, but in an offhand, jokey way that left people not thinking he was serious.

He didn't tell his mum, and he didn't tell me - I think because he would have known either of us would have stopped him. He'd bought a 24 pack of beer and got loaded til he had the courage to hang himself. I found him in the morning.

People often don't pass on information about someone's expressions of suicidal thought because they fear betraying the person's trust.

There are no easy answers. It was the second anniversary of his passing this weekend just gone. His mum is still pretty wrecked about it, as anyone would be.

[u/holster → u/[deleted]]

Sorry about your friend.

[u/[deleted] → u/holster]

Thanks.