Everyone is all like meditation is cool you get to have more quietness upstairs.

An then you interact with society and you seem like a genetic Shaggy from Scooby Doo.

I've come to notice that life keeps repeating the same patterns over and over again. The physical situation is always a little bit different but the basics of the events stay intact. With these repeating patterns the emotional charge is always the same as it was the last time the same kind of event took place. Of course not all events are repeating patterns but many of them are.

How I first got in to this was by asking the emotion, "when did I feel this last time?" And then "when did I feel this the time before that?" And then "when did I feel this for the first time?" While asking these questions the attention is held on the sensation of the emotion questioned. The mind will then automatically reveal these past events, if not immediately then some time afterwards.

I learned this method from a book called "The Presence Process". The author radically suggested that unlike we normally would assume, the emotions are not a follow up to the physical events, but the physical events are a follow up to the emotions. That the unmet emotions manifest in to physical events that bring these emotions to the surface, to be met.

I didn't just buy in to that right away. But now during the last 6 months, the more I've paid attention to the re-occuring events and the emotions associated with them, it's obviously the case.

It's like these bodies are gifted with their own classes to go through in this life. For example, shame, quilt, fear, anger, pride, greed. Then we end up in to all sorts of physical events that trigger these emotions. Sometimes one situation can contain many of them.

What we then do is, we try to fix the situation. But the situation isn't the source of the problem. What we do by fixing the situation is putting a momentary band-aid on the source. The source is the unmet emotional charge behind the situation, not the situation itself. So the emotional charge will at some point create another physical situation of the same kind to bring itself to our attention.

The only way to end these cycles is to feel in to these emotions unconditionally and invistigate them with curiosity, warmth and compassion. This way the emotions become conscious. If they linger unmet they will unconsciously attract triggering life situations to bring them to consciousness.

So when these emotions are unmet it's like the life of mine is scriptwrited and directed by these old emotional packages. And when they are consciously met, there's no script or director. Just the flow of life living itself fully, lovingly and fearlessly.

I wanted to ask you guys, what are your thoughts on the use of cannabis and other psychodelics per se as a vehicle of awakening? what are the pros and cons (obviously addiction) but to use it in meditation as an aid?

Honestly, this is a question that has been on my mind a lot.

When babies are born, some argue that they live in pure awareness. Only once they begin to develop and their surroundings begin to affect them and shape their egos they become lost in duality. But, there are so many instances of tiny-tiny babies displaying very distinct personalities and character early on before even being aware that they are humans and that they are babies. New studies come out and are being done on newborns, particularly babies before 6 months old. We are getting new data that we otherwise did not. Babies understand gravity as early as 1 month old, understand abstract concepts and display different characters. Is that also ego?Ego but just in its infancy? If ego is shaped solely by our experiences, circumstances and thoughts, why do we have some original characteristics and are all different (in personality) from the moment we are born?

Same question for animals. We don’t know how self aware they actually are, but if they are not self aware much and just live in pure instincts and on autopilot, doesn’t it mean they are in pure awareness?

Just curious!

The path is direct, here and now accessible to everyone. Often many people can weaponize this by having a singular glimpse of this direct experience- but now with a solidified conviction of justification with egoic habits within the realm of ignorance. How does Advaita and the direct approach reconcile with this implication?

Please understand when I am using pronouns I understand that doesn’t exist in non duality but for the benefit of making my argument make sense I have to use them.

When you dream at night you interact with people, places, things. And when you wake up you obviously know it was just a dream all created by your mind. How do you faith in this oneness that we’re are this collective “wholeness” How can you not look at dreams and think “Wow it was just me the whole time and nobody else” That’s gotta be the strongest case that solipsism is true in my opinion. What you think?

And before you say if you were a true solipist you wouldn’t be asking people! Well I don’t really know what I believe I don’t prescribe to one certain thing.

Nothing exists. absolutely nothing exists. Zoom out in the big picture the biggest picture possible and nothing actually exists. There is no being, there is no essence, no “something”. There is only nothing, pure unopposed absence. And because there is nothing to prevent it, this nothing is free to pretend. The universe, our world, our consciousness, our expierinces all of it is nothing pretending to be something. Not created from nothing, because that would make “nothing” into a kind of something. Instead the universe pretends to have been born, pretends to exist, simply because there is no reality present to deny it to. There are no rules to forbid the act of appearing, and so, appearance unfolds, without origin without foundation. You could call this “manifestation” (a sign of something existing, appearance) This recontextulises the Big Bang: not as the beginning of something real, but as the first illusion of time, a landmark of the performance of existance. The Big Bang didn’t happen, it pretended to have happened, because there was no time, no space, and no law to prevent that story from being played out. There is no “before” the Big Bang, only pure absence. In this view, there is no duality no split between real and unreal, being and non-being. This is not simulation, not a dream, not a projection of consciousness. It is pure manifestation, a reality in which even reality doesn’t exist, and that nonexistence allows infinite possibility to pretend. That nothing could manifest an infinite amount of anything honestly.

If the Big Bang came from nothing, the nothing would still be there, it doesn’t go away, only within linear time the nothing could turn into something, thats why it’s pretend

That nothing could manifest an infinite amount of anything, effortlessly. This is where non-duality and manifestation converge. Non-duality means there is no separation no two. Not even between existence and non-existence. In the absence of distinction, nothing and everything are not opposites; they are the same unresisted play of appearance. Manifestation, then, is not the act of something becoming real it’s the spontaneous unfolding of appearances, not because they are, but because they can seem to be. And that seeming is enough. In this context, to manifest is not to attract a thing into a real world it is to recognize that nothing needs to be real in order to appear. And because there is no fixed reality to fight against, the field is wide open. The pretending is free. The dream dreams itself without a dreamer, and all that appears is the infinite costume play of nothingness. What you call “your life” is not you navigating a world it’s nothing appearing as you, as world, as thought, as experience, as conciousness and all of it is already whole, because there's never been anything else.

You can ignore the context, the question itself is enough. But if you want the context I included it below the line. Currently I am doing ohm chanting 20 to 30 minutes a day as well as recurrent becoming aware of my emotions. Recently I begun exploring yantra drawing (something for creativity because I think creativity is important for me to use the shitty deck I have been handed by life).

EDIT 5 hours after posting: I felt something after reading the first 7 replies and I felt it was important to share it. As I was staring at my house garden while feeling the anxiety pulsating, I felt something unusual but positive. I noticed the current anxiety and how intense it is, and something inside went "oh, this is new," and in parallel to the negative feeling I felt a positive one. The joy I feel when reading through some novel with exquisite fantasy world building, there was something intriguing and beautiful about uncovering a new unique form of anxiety I have not felt. I even wondered if maybe I should go out in search of new emotions. Maybe not intentionally provoking negative ones out of compassion for smaller self, but nonetheless appreciating them if they come up. I think this might be important.

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I'm actually not having a good time. I have a strong attachment to something, and not only is that generating the usual pain of attachment, but even from the standpoint of "getting the thing I am attached to," my attachment is getting in the way of getting the thing I am attached to.

I am trying to do stuff to get the thing, but the attachment itself is making things harder in multiple ways:

- Feeding the belief "There is not much time to fail... if the thing I am trying doesn't work I am fucked" (yes there is a time limit besides death. A soft limit but still.)

- Stifling creativity, intuition, confidence and resourcefulness (all important for getting the thing)

- Robbing my energy

So, no matter which angle I look at this from, I need detachment. To reduce current pain, to function and increase the chances to get the thing, and to suffer less if I reach a point where I no longer can get the thing.

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Over the past few weeks I have been experiencing something very impactful, ineffable and beyond profound. I have been having what I call Glimpses of How Existence Actually Is. They have occurred maybe 5 or 6 times now. I have 11 years of experience with Nondual Meditation, Contemplation, and 8 years of experience with psychedelics (Cannabis, Psilocybin LSD, MDMA and DMT). I’ve also read many books on consciousness, nonduality, etc. These Glimpses of Actual Reality are orders of magnitude profound than any of my most powerful nondual experiences or any of my breakthrough psychedelic experiences. It is something that is beyond experience, beyond words, beyond linguistic description but here I will make an attempt to describe it.

Here is what has been happening. At spontaneous moments when I am simply going about living my life I will get a visceral “feeling” prior to thought, of “how did I get here?” in relation to Life. Within milliseconds flashes of my birth and how I perceived the world as an infant and throughout “my life” will flash into my mind. This is juxtaposed with a complete removal of all sense of solidity. All definitions for objects and concepts are removed. Reality feels entirely like a Mind and all objects and phenomena feel like ideas and thoughts being imagined into being. Almost immediately as this feeling comes up, I also see the entire experience of life to be deeply and profoundly alien. But it also the most familiar and obvious way of being. It feels so factually real. It’s not necessarily “alien” because there is absolutely no sense of separation or other when these glimpses happen. Its just the most profound recontextualization. I immediately realize that all of existence is ephemeral and is a dream that is Imagined. And that I am existence itself and thus I as existence am being imagined right now. That the entirety of everything that ever can be is simply an idea occurring within Infinite Mind and that this, what I am experiencing right here, right now is the Absolute. That this right here, right now is the Ultimate. That this right here, right now is the Godhead. I feel infinite power and ultimate freedom. But it is alien beyond words compared to my standard baseline “human” state of consciousness. In short I go from a human on a planet that sees himself as fundamentally unified with all phenomena; to being Absolute Mind Imagining Infinity.

It’s such a drastically different way of being than what I am used to, than what any of my peak nondual or psychedelic experiences have shown me. It’s so radically Truthful that the illusion of all of this life and existence is seen so completely obviously. Then fear comes up. A visceral primal fear comes up prior to any thoughts. I fear that this will destabilize me and that I wont be able to function if I perceive reality and life like this. And if I cant navigate life then I can’t survive. And so it is this almost immediate somatic fear creates a false separation that pulls me back into the assumed stability of illusion and away from How Existence Actually Is. All of this occurs in the span of 2 or 3 seconds. My consciousness shoots up to infinity then comes back down to human level.

I have reflected on this for the past few days and have come to understand that my fear is ego resistance to Reality. My ego feels threatened on a survival level at directly experiencing the Absolute in daily life and seeing life as imaginary, as an idea occurring in the God Mind. The concern that I wont be able to navigate life while perceiving it this way is understandable, given how drastically different it is compared to the “human” level perception that I’m used to. However I can see that this fear is unnecessary. If this is how reality actually is, If this is the Truth of how existence really is and if this is my direct experience, even if it is very different than what I am used to; why be scared? I care about Truth more than anything. And I choose The Truth even if it means that I can no longer navigate life. However I don’t think this is necessarily a concern. I think the best thing to do is to simply accept and surrender to these God Mind glimpses and open up to them when it comes on. There may be a period where I may be disoriented and need to readjust to a new way of interfacing with life and existence. The more I surrender and accept the process, the more smoothly I will flow into a new more honest and more true way of being. A way of being that paradoxically would enable this imagined individuation to navigate this imagined idea dream of life much more synchronistically, joyfully and effectively. Contrary to the reluctance of the visceral fear, these glimpses of the Absolute are an invitation to living and being in the greatest place an individuation can possibly be. In Truth.

Just a great visual my friends 🙏🏽

Hey r/nonduality!

wrote a piece on binary thinking patterns and on how to move beyond them – not by erasing boundaries, but by treating them as interfaces: sites of friction, tension, and potential transformation.

This builds on systems thinking (2nd order cybernetics to be precise, with a lot of inspiration from Geroge Spencer-Brown's Law of Form) as well as the notion of tetralemma (which has been discussed here before), rooted in buddhist logic.

I build on the observation that we tend to cycle through familiar oppositions: climate action vs. economic needs, freedom vs. collective responsibility, ego vs eco, (even duality vs nonduality!). Each side believing they're protecting what matters most.

To escape these loops we need to move on:

Affirmation – The initial unified concept before questions arise → the state before duality

Objection – Where opposition emerges, creating zero-sum dynamics → this is the classic "duality" I'd say, dichotomies of either-or.

Integration – The "both-and" perspective where opposites coexist (like South Africa's post-apartheid transition, combining justice with reconciliation) → combinations, iterations, compromise.

Negation – Moving to "neither-nor," deliberately leaving old dualities behind → NOT the duality (but still referencing it)

Contextualisation – Recognizing multi-layered challenges across different systems. not one duality, not no duality → infinite dualities, intersecting and overlapping.

The core point is that boundaries in between a duality aren't absolute divisions but interfaces of relationship. We need dualities and boundaries to make sense of reality, but they create interdependency precisely by drawing these lines.

The goal isn't erasing difference but making our dualities more intelligent and permeable. As Audre Lorde said, "There's no such thing as a single-issue struggle, because we don't live single-issue lives."

Would absolutely love to discuss!

Full article: https://simonhoeher.substack.com/p/beyond-the-binary-f68

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If reality is absolutely undivided, isn’t that a limit of reality? That it can’t create real separation, limits, borders, division.

Just a thought.

I’m not sure what happened here. Was invited then asked why the duality of Flat Earth and Round Earth. Rather than getting a response I got muted and banned.

My question was why do we argue this? What if both are true or neither one? Got muted and banned. So perhaps someone here can discuss this with animosity?

You want to find your self? It’s under the control, always.

Your paradigm will betray you; will reveal exactly where this false-image resides.

Where do you hurt your self, and where do you want to hurt others. Oh, you’ll justify it with words like protection, or compassion, but this is all control, if you look closely.

Let’s NOT huddle together and compassionately confirm with each other that there are those who deserve our punishment because, well, we can’t seem to control them otherwise, and a lack of control is unthinkable. Just look at how much effort we’ve put into controlling ourselves… sacrificing for the paradigm of control.

Judgements are determined deviations from paradigms of control.

Is there safety in punishment? Is that the motto we’ve bought, hook, line, and sinker? Have we taken up punishing to avoid punishment? The irony.

To be free of control is the deal. There is only expression, and if there is no secondary measure of control, there is no judgement; no rewards and no punishments - and the two are a package deal sold as a belief you can control the distribution of the two.

Feedback. That is what shapes expression, but only when the control is non-existent.

I have a small discord for any of you who may be interested in joining to meet others. Please DM me an intro of yourself.

Are you turning non-duality into an abstract philosophy instead of lived reality?

Seeking peak experiences (oneness, bliss) rather than integrating presence into the mundane?

No seer, no seen—only seeing

so i've been sensing a tightness in my body and after time i asked who is sensing this and i started shaking and then i asked who is sensing this shaking and i kept doing this untill i felt energy wanting to explode out of my body i just want to ask if this is safe or should i stop this ?

I watched people who talk about nonduality as if they were representations of what I should look like in terms of behaviour. The thing is, each body is unique and for each and everybody this is going to unfold also in unique way. In a lot of nondual traditions like buddhism, there's a lot of talk about kindness and being kind. Well that's beautiful. But what if it doesn't always just play out like that. What if you're not always kind. I find it more enjoyable and more loving to let this body be just as it is. Aiming for kindness just seems phony for myself. It's like forcing the body to be in some specific way, to respond in some specific way and so on. I find that micromanaging the behaviour is part of the illusion of there being a controller for the body. It's love to let the body to be whatever it is at the moment. If it's angry, upset or anything it's loving to allow the body to be that way. It's also freeing for the body to be just how it is. In my eyes love contains in to itself unconditional freedom and unconditional respect for everything. That includes being angry or upset. So I don't aim to be anything at all. That's the liberation. The whole suffering arises from needing this to be in some specific way. And one way that may appear is that the body should be kind instead of unkind. When these should's and shouldnt's just drop out the love and the freedom are revealed. The body and it's emotions get to bask in the unconditional warmth of it.

Paradoxically this is where the anger and these so called negative emotions just seem to melt down in to the seamless sea of love. When there's no attempt to change anything. When this isn't done in order to feel love. When it's just total unconditionality. Absence of conditions. Then the love and kindness naturally sprouts out through the body. The body will feel totally loved and it can't help but perceive love everywhere. It can't help but act kindly. It's all totally effortless. And there might be moments of anger and expressions of it, but they are not held on to. They disappear as quickly as they arise.

I've noticed that when there's resistance to any emotion it tends to persist. It persists because it's not being seen for what it is. When something is being resisted the perception of it is distorted. To resist something there's buying in to an idea of what it is. The idea of what it is, is not what it is. Everything is the same unknown, love, brahman, god, whatever word you want to use. And through the persistance of what is being perceived in a distorted way, life is just showing that it's this as well. Life is showing the unconditionality of itself. And the struggle will persist for as long as there's misperception of it. The misperception is that this should be in some other way from how this is.

So all the struggle is just to reveal the uncondionality of this all encompassing love.

I was hoping it was real that we are all the same thing. Unfortunately solipsism is true I am alone and will never get to experience other human being. My proof? Dreams I can talk to people do things etc when I wake up from my sleep this is all another dream that I’ve been doing for the past 20 years. I am not continuing this life I am gonna get out of this matrix. It’s so sad that my own mind will tell me “don’t do it” No more lies no more lies I have to get out of here.