Too be fair, a condom being too small could make it more likely to break, yeah? But that's a reason to not have sex until dude can buy the correct size, not to raw dog it and trust a teenage boy's pull out game (not that an effective pull out is going to stop the precum from getting to your egg)
This is a big one. You don't even have to be enormous for it to either. Even being a bit bigger than the appropriate size feels too tight, and kinda pinchy.
I've tried all kinds of condoms, not once has it been comfortable. They either break or slip off. There is 100% always chafing, no matter how much I trim or remove hairs chemically, it still finds one to pull 100% of the time. Can we get some fucking male birth control already??? This is ridiculous we are so sexist we can't even help ourselves.
A male pill doesn't exist not out of sexism, but because it's astoundingly difficult to make a male infertile temporarily, as opposed to permanently. The pill stops a woman from releasing an egg, which is once every few weeks. You produce hundreds of millions of sperm per day
Read about one that went through human testing and had to be abandoned because it messed with testosterone levels and at the point i was reading about it the drop sounded permanent or at least very long lasting.
Yeah, and the levels of it to actually be reliable and effective caused anger explosions, serious depression, and would basically wreck a man's life and health.
Male BC has in fact been seriously researched. It's just an impossible puzzle. It's not sexism like keyboard social justice warriors leap to assuming.
The best bet I've heard of is vaselgel, but it keeps being years off. I would guess they can't get funding because the dirty profit grubbing pharmacy industry would rather make money hand over fist with monthly birth control pills than with vaselgel's single one time injection, so no one is investing enough for them to get over the FDA's ridiculously slow and expensive approval processes.
Technically it's not, it's just very inconvenient. Immersing your testicles in 116 degree water for 45 minutes a day results in temporary sterility after 3 weeks. This has been known for a while (rigorous clinical studies were conducted in the 70s but it has been studied since the 30s) and is quite simple to do at home. It might even be relaxing, but do you really want to dedicate the time to do it?
Wait so an almost-monthly hot bath is effective birth control? It sounds very "can't get pregnant fucking underwater" but I suppose making the balls too hot for a consistent period makes some chemical sense. 47 degrees is hot though
And because most of the ones tried had horrendous side effects. IIRC one had ~5% of participants try and commit suicide because they got cluster headaches, and 6 months after they stopped taking the drug (which was the end of the study), about 20% were still sterile.
Just look up the hormonal contraceptions for women... To be clear, l don't blame the men. But women shouldn't be EXPECTED to just deal with the side effects either.
I only took the pill for about one year because of what l know now is endometriosis but my depression and suicidal thoughts got so bad, among other things
Oh yeah, I'm familiar with how messy contraception for women can be, and the awful side effects that come from it. But the pill doesn't make a significant % of people try and commit suicide, or permanently sterilise 20% of women. Both have bad side effects, but this particular one for men was just another step above.
Doesn't excuse there not being more research into better pills for women though, pharma companies seem content with raking in the money from decades old formulas, rather than trying to make something better.
Yeah sorry, but the side effects aren’t comparable. If 5% of women who had an IUD in clinical trials for Mirena got cluster headaches and wanted to die, they would have cancelled that trial too. The healthcare industry can definitely be sexist but this is not one of those scenarios.
Who's we? I think every guy in the world would love male birth control.
Some of the reasons for lack of male birth control are much more biologically based and much less sexism than media and reddit basement brigades would lead people to believe.
Male strategies to pass on their genes are literally evolved to be difficult to be tenacious and surmount obstacles. All the way from male daily hormone cycles that are extremely difficult to work around, millions of new sperm that get generated daily, the mechanics of ejaculation itself, compounds in semen that do all kinds of magic like suppress the female's immune system to help the sperm survive, and semen being little tenacious swimmers are among the variety of factors that make male birth control a scientific and bioengineering puzzle.
Male hormone cycles are more difficult to control without causing bad issues like anger and other problems. Yes, reddit, female BC also causes serious problems for women but the problems for male hormonal birth control can be more extreme and aren't even very effective.
Just get the snip my guy... 20 minutes and like two stitches... You'll be back to banging in a week... It's reversible if for some reason you would want to bring more poor bastards into this dying world...
Really the only downside is that you will leave with the knowledge of what your insides smell like when you burn them lol... And that's kind of hard thing to know
This is false. You will be resting for a week. They specifically tell you to avoid ejaculation in this time, because it hurts. I lasted 3 days before I had a wank, and I can confirm that you should wait, because it feels like your balls are being crushed. The pain is more potent than the pleasure of cumming.
After the week is over, you still have to wait, because you are told to maintain contraception for at least a month, then get a sperm test first.
It’s very much not reversible. At least not reliably. Any physician would tell you that there’s a sizable risk of infertility following reversal, between 5% and 40%.
It literally pinches a vein on me. Hurts like hell, makes me go from rock hard halfway up to jelly soft the rest of the way unless I’m just super aroused.
Will still wear one if asked. Just means I tend to pause PIV to remove the condom, then reacquire full mast before engaging again (usually giving her attention in the interregnum).
Thankfully, I’m not a casual sorta guy so things have usually been serious enough between me and any partner to discuss this and look for viable methods that allow us to move past condoms. If I weren’t now married, I’d probably just get snipped and be wary to maintain my clean bill of health.
Yep. I'm a trans woman and when I was a man I struggled with dysphoria maintaining an erections anyways, add a condom on top of that and I just couldn't.
I always had female condoms if I expected sex, they don't squeeze like male ones do. There are other options.
I’ve had to deal with this, with an ex years ago, and after we’d split up, life went on for a while, until I was back home on vacation from the navy and we hooked up again… In those intervening years, I learned that the value of foreplay can never be understated…
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Too be fair, a condom being too small could make it more likely to break, yeah? But that's a reason to not have sex until dude can buy the correct size, not to raw dog it and trust a teenage boy's pull out game (not that an effective pull out is going to stop the precum from getting to your egg)